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i am too emotional for him i think and he for some reason is hiding his emotions at times. not always but sometimes.
how to make this work? any tricks and tips?
Capricorns tend to suppress their emotions a lot. You are opposites so you are meant to get on really well astrologically. You can balance each other out. His lack of emotion could calm yours down. And your emotions could bring his out to strike a balance.
You could work on being a little less emotional and he could work on showing his feelings more.
The best way to bring someone out is to listen and to ask them what they wanted from a certain situation/ problem that they were having.
Asking open-ended questions helps.
Here is a toolkit of questions that I found in Psychologies magazine Feb 2009 edition that may help you. The article is called "Emotions: How to get anyone to open up"
There is something called 'clean' language, which metaphors and assumptions have been removed as far as possible.
1) What kind of X is that X? or Is there anything else about X?
2)What is X like?
3) What would you like to have happen
4) What needs to happen for X?
A) Focus and put your attention on what the person is actually saying, rather than on the person themselves
B) Give them time. Don't be impatient for your chance to talk. Allowing them space to share their problems allows them to think more clearly
C) Visualize. Mentally create your own diagram or model of what the other person is saying, but remember it is just that-your diagram or model, not theirs
D) Repeat back some of their phrases or words exactly as you heard them. Tis helps them to feel that you are really listening
E) Turn your internal commentator down.Having a real interest in what someone os saying helps us lose interest in ourselves
F) Pay close attention to the words that the other person is emphasizing and repeating
G) Ask yourself if they have finished thinking. Do their eyes look like they are still ruminating over what they have said?
H) Soft focus your eyes in order to take in the whole scene, rather than looking at the person. This can help to put things in perspective.
i have been trying fior 3 years and he doesnt respond to anything much vague answers,. just have to have patiencee and knows he cares or he would be gone they tend to run away from emotions, so just have to tough it out and if you feel he doesnt care more than likely he dont, its hard to be with a cap since cancer is so clingy and emotional ugh!! but love peserveres, so good luck in your ouest to dcatch a goat. dont be a hip attachment and give him lots of space,
I'm a Cancer, married to a Capricorn, so I will do my best to help.
Cappy's don't hide emotions. If he told you he loves you, he means it. There is not going to be constant declarations of love from him (meaning he won't tell you I love you several times per day every single day, nor will the romance be like something out of a movie). His love is strong, steady, and reliable and always there in his eyes and in the affection and attention he gives you. When he does express his feelings verbally or in cards (which fortunately my Cappy does this very very often) it means more because you know its sincere. There are no tricks or tips. Don't even bother trying to make him jealous, testing him, or using any other Cancer manipulation tactic. It will backfire and blow up in your face. What Capricorn wants is a genuine woman, one who is secure within herself and doesn't need him in order to feel good. If you're emotional and love him and want to express that love, you should, but don't let how often he does or doesn't do the same determine how you feel or what you do. Be yourself. Either he'll love it or he won't, but its better to know right away since he's so easy to fall in love with. Capricorn men are the best.
If its the very beginning of your relationship, then you're asking a lot if you expect declaraions of love. Cappy's take their time before investing their hearts in a woman. Once they do, you know its the real deal.
Hopefully you're not with the other type of Capricorn male---the shallow, detached type who uses women for his own gain sexually or otherwise. If he's that type, cut him loose now! If he's the other type, patience is key...also, you need to be secure with who you are.