Cancer and Scorpio Compatibility

Cancer and Scorpio have smooth and easy connection in all the relations they share with each other. They have similar kind of needs and possessiveness towards the bonds they share and hence make stable and reliable relations. Though sometimes Cancer can be moody and Scorpio can be cold and unresponsive. But for the most part they play well in all forms and are comfortable with each other.

Cancer are very polite and thoughtful individuals with sharp intellect and irresistible sense of humor. They are certainly decent at making and saving money but dislike lavishness. They have the great ability to laugh at things that annoy them and they can even laugh at themselves showing the ease of their nature. Though their cynicism is disheartening but usually they are vigilant enough to avoid such situations. Cancer people have a cautious nature and they tend to think rationally before doing anything. Cancer also tends to retain the memories of their past and feel quite attached to them. As a friend or lover a Cancer can be a lot of fun to be with. They have a streaking sophistication that deeply impresses anyone together with their enduring nature filled with lots of compassion.

Scorpio are magnetically invincible people who are impossible to avoid. They are known for their willpower and most of the times they end up fulfilling all their dreams. They take the plunge only when the right opportunity knocks at their door and patience is accounted as their best strategy which they apply in their professional life. Beneath the soft voice of Scorpio lay their subtle tactics to enhance their professional and personal life. They are calm and serene, unruffled on the outside but hardly anyone knows about the passion beneath their surface. It is usually a burning passion to achieve their goals or to get something they desire desperately. They love luxury and comforts immensely. Their suspicions are a big part of them as are their expectations.

The Cancer and Scorpio are bound to feel attracted towards each other. They can easily create any kind of harmonious relationship almost effortlessly. The Cancer and Scorpio have a great time together because of their sensitive nature and matured attitude. When they are together, they might feel like children who have the freedom to follow their heart and retain their innocence at the same time. Through various mediums of creativity the relationships shared by these two flourishes. They can understand each other’s feelings when they are not explicitly expressed. They share similar kind of qualities and shortcomings. Their follies are easily detected by the other partner because they might possess the same qualities themselves or just because they know their partner too well. These two share a lot of empathy through which they show their support for each other. The gentle nature of Scorpio influences Cancer to instill their faith on them.

Cancer hardly tries to seek revenge for their bruised ego unlike the Scorpio who never let go of a good opportunity through which they can teach a lesson to those people who have hurt them. But the Cancer always holds a grudge against the person who has hurt them and is least likely to take any kind of action. Most of the clashes that occur in a Scorpion’s life are due to matters related to money and in case of the Cancer the clashes are due to the possibility of losing their hard earned money. They together provide each other with sufficient security. There are times when the Scorpio might not respond well to the gestures of the Cancer, which hurt them immensely. These are some of the problems that are bound to transpire in their relationship but can be amicably sorted out by both of them. If any misunderstanding develops between them then it can be easily pacified as both of them forgive each other after sometime.

Cancer and Scorpio have beautiful relations to be cherished throughout their lives. When they are friends, sibling or colleagues, they are most supportive and appreciating partners who always stand in all thick and thin with each other. Also as relatives they usually share a close bond and are ready to help each other in all possible ways. A business venture with Cancer and Scorpio together is usually a success which comes from their analytical and financial skills in common. Marriage and love relations usually prove to be a great success when Cancer and Scorpio are involved together and even more when man is Scorpio and woman is Cancer. Parenthood and childhood both have cherishing memories and great experiences for Scorpio and Cancer and they enjoy it completely.

A few problems can pop up the bonds shared by Cancer and Scorpio as they both are possessive and like to have an upper hand in any relation to get maximum attention of each other, which is not always possible. Insecurities of Cancer can disturb their moods which can irritate Scorpio. While suspicious nature of Scorpio can hurt the sensitive and loyal Cancer people to deeper depths. They need to be slow and easy with each other and since both of them are so comfortable with each other that they do not hesitate to share their shortcomings, they can in most of the cases come up with a nice solution. They might also end up sharing secrets, which they never even think of sharing it with anybody and hence can create great bond in long terms.

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antoinette (@antoinette) : July 31st, 2009

I have this wonderful, sexy, sensitive Cancer man in my life. He is in his early thirties and I am a Scorpio in my fifties. It was love at first sight for the two of us. It was what you call a quiet unfolding. At first the relationship was so intense that we had to take a break from one another to see if what we were feeling was real. After a week he called and said he was out of town and that he misses me.

A Scorpio woman knows when a man is lying and that is alright because the men are lying to prevent from hurting your feeling. Scorpios do the same thing, and it is considered polite to them. Our relationship is very mature, loving, respectful and kind. We feel safe with one another and we understand each others needs. Cancer man like to go off to themselves and meditate, hang out with friend and discuss their relationships, and Scorpios love their free time to do what they normally do. The relationship is that we are here for one another but you have a life and well as I.

The relationship was very intense at first, but Cancer and Scorpios are both very serious people and both deals with reality and not what is faddish at the moment or foolish. I am a very young looking fifty something female with a figure that is sexier than younger females. In fact have a very gorgeous figure (thanks to the man upstairs) that everyone admires even female compliments me all the time. But that has nothing to do with either of us; he is very sensual, sexy and handsome as well. It just seems that I get along much better with a younger male; I am very incompatible with older men.

Well we realize that the most important quality is what is inside and not what is superficial. Cancer men need to know are you going to be there when the going get tough, and that where the Scorpio women strength lies. An evolved Scorpio woman will support her man through thick and thin, she knows when to be strong and when to step behind her man, as they say (roll or throw them), she will endure whatever it takes for a man that she loves and respect to accomplish his goals. The Scorpio women are ladies, they demand respect and they live queenly lives. They are queenly in whatever they do, in how they dress, live, and love when a Scorpio woman is at her best no other woman can touch her and others instantly know that.

Scorpio are not full of themselves, it is just how god made them. They do everything in a lovely way. They care about everyone and especially those that are less fortunate. They will give you their last dollar because they know that GOD has their backs. When Scorpios develop their true nature, they are very spiritual, kind, giving, loving and only sting those that does injustice towards the weak and those that can not fend for themselves.

Scorpios believes in marriage and not going from man to man, to a Scorpio women it is disgraceful to sleep with more than one man. They save themselves for the man that they are in a relationship with and only him will she have a sexual relationship with. If that relationship does not work out she moves on and will never return to that relationship again. She had learned everything she had needed to know and there is nothing more she wants to learn from it. If she goes back she will only be faking it.

Scorpio women like to be appreciated but if you do not have a large reserve of cash she think it is foolish to waste it. Cancer men hold unto their money, and always seems to have a reserve. Scorpio women would rather for you to have money in your pockets at all times then be without. It annoys a Scorpio woman for a MAN to ask her for money no matter how wealthy she is, if it is an emergency that is alright, but if the man can not stand on his own two feet, to her he is not a man :P . Her philosophy is (God’s gift to man is life, and man’s gift to god is what he does with it) these qualities in a Scorpio women is why Cancer men admire them so much.

The Scorpio loves the Cancer man because he has all the qualities that Scorpio woman admires, with big crocodile tears rolling down his cheeks. The Scorpio woman just merely sticks out her tongue and softly licks the tears from his beautiful face.

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patience (@patience) : November 3rd, 2009

I’m seeing a beautiful scorpio man.He is wonderful to talk to sometimes he can be a bit cryptic when he is explaining something,but i enjoy the way he expresses himself.He is always on the go, and does not like to feel bored or depressed.As I’m a cancerian,who does not like to stay home,we have a great time finding new adventures.He lives 300miles away.I don’t phone him and vice versa,but when we meet up it’s like we have not been apart.Scorpio’s are known for their hypnotic stare.He hates when i stare him out.I don’t know where this relationship is going,but i enjoy him and suggest every woman should date a scorpio male.One that is fully evolved of course.

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Tessa (@Tessa) : December 8th, 2009

I’m a cancer in love with a scorpio man and we have a daughter together. We have had a lot of problems since i have started to feel insecure about my body he left and needs time I might not be there when he comes back but i will always love him. So be carefull cancer this love and passion might be too much and you will get burned be ready for a forever love. You’ve been warned

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legs (@legs) : January 6th, 2010

i totally agree with you tessa. I was involved with a scorpio guy.We got on well, but his secretive ways and the fact that he didn’t like to answer questions or take any iniative put me off him.I would rather wait for a forever love than have to do all the work in a relationship myself.Some say scorpios are the best lovers.But there is more to my life than just great sex.Just goes to show that cancer and scorpios are not always compatible.

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njones (@njones) : February 2nd, 2010

I agree with Legs and Tessa. I’m a cancerian woman and was dating scorpio man. I felt like I was always doing the work in the relationship. When we were together it was magic, we had good conversations and great sex, but he was so secretive and cared more than his friends than me. It’s hard to really gain their trust,and sometimes scorpio men can be a little selfish. But in spite of all of this I love him dearly, I just don’t understand why I can’t get him off of my mind. Any suggestions….

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legs (@legs) : February 3rd, 2010

Thats the problem njones,you never forget them.I split up with my scorpio guy four mths ago ,even though i have been on a few dates i feel like there is unfinished business with this scorpio guy.All i can say is just carry on living your life he may come to his senses.After all we are the best when it comes to loving and caring for our partners.Take Care.

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Aeria Gloris (@Aeria Gloris) : July 5th, 2010

i’m 17. i’ve only had one other guy in my life and he was an online boyfriend (Taurus – Earth and Water). i’m a Cancer, and i’m not looking for anyone right now – i’d rather let what happens happen – but i really hope ‘the one’ turns out to be a scorpio. it sounds so stupid, but it’s true. i like the typical scorpio type, and i think the secret part of him is something i can deal with – i have a secret part too. so, here’s hoping i get a scorpio!!!

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alicia (@alicia) : July 14th, 2010

Scorpio Males mmmmm where should I start well im a Cancer was with a Scorpio for two hard but great memorial yrs. Truly a non forgettable love no matter if u move on n happily married they’ll always be on ur mind besides a strong. Sexual relationship there great friends who know whateva u may lack they posses.
I love my ex scorpio from the bottom of my heart sometimes I wish my sag had similar traits of one smh

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Kathryn (@Kathryn) : July 29th, 2010

I’m 18 years old, but met a scorpio when I was 15 years old, my first year of high school. I fell deeply in love, quite fast, and maybe too hard. I was with him for a year and a half. Me and him broke up in november, the hardest thing I think I ever did. I’m dating a Leo now, and though I love my Leo (which Ive known since my freshmen year and have been with since jan.) I Love That Scorpio, and I think I always will. They sure know how to steal a heart, and never give it back. I can honestly say though, I love my Leo, and we’re very happy with each other, and I think he may pop the question for our at least year engagement. Best of luck to Cancers out there who fall for a Scorpio, and for that Scorpio of mine, I hope he’s doing ok.

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hannah (@hannah) : August 4th, 2010

iam ccancer but inlove with aries what will i do?

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maryam (@maryam) : September 19th, 2010

hi im a cancering girl iv dated sum a scorpio guys and i find them very boring and inscure and posesivness to my nature im not a typical cancering girl i love to travell an c new things im not a home person at all infact if i stayed at home 4 a day i will go mad im in a relationship witha gemini guy an he his so perfect 4 me it took a while 2 get things rite but till this day he is my hero

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abcdefg (@abcdefg) : October 22nd, 2010

m a cancer dating a scorpio..v had a=sum probs in da initial stages bt evrything went ok if v had BLISSFUL N Passionate SEX…

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soulmate seeker (@soulmate seeker) : October 22nd, 2010

i agree with maryam…Im sorry but scorpio men are too controlling,the best liars on earth,cheaters,and hate denial of any sort…Im married to one and i am losing my mind!!! I have told him on more than fifteen occasions that i no longer want to be with him…When we have really bad arguments and he say’s evil things he dosent apologize instead he’ll buy me something as a token of saying he’s sorry rather than just say the shit….Smh “I SWEAR I DONT UNDERSTAND,,THE MAN IS CRUSHING MY SOUL” cancers are very sensitive so them being involved with scorpio is bad for their health…Scorpio will run you straight to the grave you’ll see…Oh and one more thing ladies,,,when youguys are having those good days and your like”WELL MAYBE I’LL STAY” dont do it!!! by the time you look up your life will amount to nothing and you’ll be sleeping in seperate rooms and he will have won the battle of killing you softly…”In tears now”

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Misha (@Misha) : October 27th, 2010

re: soulmate seeker
wow! i really feel for you, scorpios sure know how to crush someone hard in the guts. thats so harsh that he cant apologise, but most males havent learnt to pronounce that word in primary school. im a cancer girl and became friends with a scorpio guy…met him through a mutual friend of ours, started seeing each other so often at uni or eating out (as good friends) but i waited and hoped for a year of knowing him that someday he’ll tell me he has feelings for me, but i was wrong…it was eating me up inside and i became sick..i confessed to him that i have feelings for him and he said he “doesnt wear his heart out on his sleeve and that he likes to be friends with a girl for a while before he can make up his mind”?! i believe he lied, so i ignored him completely and he calls me once a month to check updates in my life, incase i have moved on or not..i would love to stay friends with him but i dont think it will do me any good…i wish he would leave me alone and let me move on with my life.

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Meli (@Meli) : November 6th, 2010

I am a Scorpio female and i am sry you all are having such bad relationships with my male counter parts. But i must admitt u are right as a woman i haven been cultured as to what approriate behaviour is, so i dont do what the males do but i have been tempted and can see how evil my sign can be.. We walk a thin line of being the most passionate and caring individuals to being the most deciteful and munipulative. I believe this happens because we know we can get away with it for the most part.. I have learned to twist ppl in anywhich sort of direction i wish and have constantly reminded myself NOT to use that ability wickedly. Men i guess arent that capable to control themself and Stop!.. I feel for u all and i do agree Scorpio men are quite scary..

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ScorpioQueen (@ScorpioQueen) : February 20th, 2011

I am a scorpio woman who wfelled in love with a cancer man. It was lust @ 1st sight, sex was great but he stopped showing his feelings for me, ststop calling stop txin , then out the blue expect favors from me. – said no and every since then I never heared from my cancer male since. I suggest you run away as fast as u can scorpio chuck or this guy will walk over you heart and leave foot print.

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kiki leesa (@kiki leesa) : March 4th, 2011

I’m a cancerian female, turnin 18 on the first of july and all I can say is I don’t wanna be with a Scorpio guy. EVER!!! I’ve been recently found out that there are such things like star signs (from a good friend) and the information I found out is so SHOCKING!!

I had an ex that i dated when I was 16. I was pining over him even to this day. I couldn’t figure out WHY!!!
and voila! He was a Scorpio, at his best! (third of NOv).
Never going down tHAT road again

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cancer-leo cusp lady (@cancer-leo cusp lady) : March 4th, 2011

… i am cancer-leo cusp. I am almost shocked to hear all of this, i had first dated a virgo, leo, and aquarious. Virgo+ Me=worrying/boring. leo+me= a fling (leo got hurt at thee end) Aquarious+me= …AMAZING PASSION. the sex was GREAT. he made me feel WILD. but he hurts…yet he loves. confusing right? i dont know but we have this never ending passion.

I am a women who knows when she meets a guy whether she is in love or not, right away… and virgo was first to capture me, and then aquarious…

one day i walked by a SCORPIO i had not known… he was a scorpio but we had this amazing passionate staring constant each time, looking into their eyes make me tremble, i just love it. We love it… we havent gotten to… confessing our feelings YET…

I dont knw i love my scorpios my BFF was a scorpio, loved her very much. We ended our friendship and i never quite got over her. I am a scorpio rising which could be why i have an added attraction to them, but these scorpio men are just fascinating.

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joey (@joey) : March 26th, 2011

I am a Cancer girl and my Scorpio guy has frozen me out. We had a fight but we made up, or so I thought. I criticized him, but I apologized. I haven’t heard anything from him for two weeks. I don’t want to contact him, because I don’t want to bother him, but it feels so bad to be ignored like this. Why are they so cruel? I can accept that he doesn’t want me, but why doesn’t he just tell me?

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rachel (@rachel) : April 6th, 2011

When your in a relationship its important to remember that guys don’t do things exactly the way we would expect them to. Also different signs handle situations different. We wear our emotions on our sleeves and have crazy mood swings, Scorpios don’t and our mood swings confuse them.
Im a cancer female, and as a woman and a cancer I’m sure we can all be extremely understanding. I am currently dating a Scorpio man and they can be a dark mysterious puzzle. But as cancer woman you have to communicate to your guy what it is you want and that most importantly you want him to communicate with you.
They may respond slower then you would like, but they are paying attention. Just stay consistent and be patient with them. Not much gets by a Scorpio.
I was tired of always calling him. I felt like I was doing all the work. So I didn’t call, just to prove a point. I waited and waited, and he finally called. He left a message and fumbled over the words I miss you. Scorpios are really romantic, and so cute!

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Tiger/Scorpio (@Tiger/Scorpio) : April 10th, 2011

I am so irritated right now. I swear I do not understand how one minute, this man seems like he is intrested. The next he goes off the radar. I am like why not say I don’t want you or I don’t see us together. I have never in my life gone after anyone not even my ex husband.My ex husband is a scorpio too and he is the biggest whore and liar known to man. I wasn’t looking to meet anyone. Then a family member had a bright ass Idea about this guy she knows. I was attracted to him before I even met him face to face. I have never dealt with a cancer male before. I have had cancer females as friends though. They never acted like he does. I know every woman is down behined him trying to get him. I went after him because it seemed like that is what he wanted. One minute he doesn’t belive in anything next minute he is online talking about if he was married he would do this that and the third. He claims that yeah women want him but they don’t get him because they get lazy. He says there are men who go after a woman for years and then they finally get her. Ok I get the whole chase thing but the object is to see if that person is for real. You also open up more to them after a while. He claims his ex cheated on him years ago and he has been single ever since. So do cancers make a person suffer for someone elses mistake? If he doesn’t want me why not just tell me. I not buying they don’t like to hurt peoples feelings. I say that because when he got mad at me for somthing stupid, He didn’t have a hard time saying what he felt. We have never had sex although we came very close to it. We have only kissed. We live in different states but I am going to move out to where he is because, I have family there. I just don’t get it. What does he want damn it? Like I said I did not ask to met this dude. I am the type who spots that one on my own and pick him. I am not used to chasing anyone. I’m not trying to be conceited but I don’t have to chase anyone. But I want a man that is going to stay for more than just sex.We have been texting talking back an forth for almost a year now.I don’t hound or pressure him at all . Plus I just recently told him my feelings for him. I’m ready to say F*** it. But my heart is drawn to him it feels like I have known him all my life. If I have any mispelled words, or wrong punctuation I’m sorry but it is 4am and I’m venting.

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joey (@joey) : April 12th, 2011

so I found out that my Scorpio guy is now with another woman. He didn’t tell me, just stopped contacting me. I am still so shaken, but I know I have to accept it. Cancer girls, never be shy with your Scorpio guy! Don’t hide your feelings from him. Don’t be scared of him and don’t be scared of losing control or being vulnerable. I miss mine so much, even after what he did to me. I still can’t really believe that he would hurt me this way. I’m crushed. But if he came back to me and apologized I would take him back.

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BUbbles (@BUbbles) : April 12th, 2011

I’m a cancer girl and my boyfriend is on the scorpio/sagittarius cusp. i have sooo much admiration and respect for him. his determination, dedication to everything he does and his love of knowledge amazes me. he’s very hardworking, focused, and never lazy. he is very honest. sometimes a little too honest and it ends up hurting me! i know he loves me, but he has problems showing passion/affection to me which as a cancer I NEED. He also sometimes critisizes me too much. but i am optimistic about it (for now) because the love I feel for him is huge.

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Nettie M Newsom (@nataliadrake) : August 14th, 2011
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@rachel Rachel you sound like me I would like to say that I am in a relationship with this man but I’ve been the one calling him leaving messages and I have not heard from him in three weeks.Now this Scorpio male is divorced so I do not know whether or not the split was mutual or she wanted out but I feel like this I am up front and honest with him when were talking on the phone and in person although I hate it when he flips the script and says something truly hateful to me and act like it is normal I am not sure if I want to sit there and wait til he wakes up and smells the coffee. I want him to know that I can take anything he dishes out that I am not weak but when it is all said and done would it be worth the trouble? Do they like to be surprises?

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Alex (@SixStringDealey) : September 13th, 2011
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ahhh sorry about this giant post. maybe some of you can gain some sort of insight into the complexities of a scorpio man from this, though haha. some of us care more than we are ever capable of describing with words.

the general description mostly suits me, but i think a bit of a rough up-bringing has put some changes into me. i’ve always been a romantic dreamer. i’ve always had the girl i considered perfect at the time on my mind and nothing else mattered. i definitely have trouble communicating my emotions with words and desperately seek out other methods.

i just kind of randomly met my first cancerian girl and i had never felt better in my life. i can sense that she doesn’t like to always be the one to lead the way and that really makes me want to just find out exactly what i need to do to better this for her. at the same time, when she is being brave i get an amazing rush off of it and i’m happy to be whatever she needs me to be.

unfortunately, she was only here for 2 weeks before moving away to a bigger city. 2 weeks seems like nothing, but the connection was unbelievable. we could both just feel eachother even without words. i’m typically someone who starts to worry when it gets quiet, too. but the time we spent just laying in eachother’s arms or whatever felt so incredibly right. the sex was amazing but all of the emotion just naturally pouring out of us for hours afterwards was just beautiful.

we both knew it was just kind of a fun summer thing, but now she’s all i think about. i’m a musician writing her a new song every couple of days. she’d told me one night that she’d given up on relationships. now that we’ve had our brief time and she’s away she’d told me that she wants to let the emotions back into her life. damned cutest thing i’d ever heard. i need to be the guy who’s there for her, but now that she’s so many miles away i just don’t know what to do with myself.

i will still probably see her a few times a year, but this is the girl i just need to be around. we both get so much from eachother. my life’s a helpless mess. (making money when your driving passion is music isn’t easy.) but if i had this girl everything else in life would just be details. i’d figure something out. i wonder if she’d have the ability to help me with something like this. i need to be with this girl, and i’m not being selfish about it. i’d do anything for her.

she’s a beautiful, kind, caring, fun girl. everything i have trouble seeing in my daily life. she makes me so happy effortlessly and that makes me want to do the same for her. i just don’t know how. i’m trying to show her that i do have confidence… that i can be the strong type she wants me to be. it’s just been so long that a girl meant so much to me… and now she’s so far away. i can’t let go.

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Sarah (@MissClandestineOne) : November 4th, 2011
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I am a Cancer woman currently dating a Scorpio male. Let me tell you, he is text book Scorpio! And because I have done a lot of research on his kind, I know how to deal with him. If he tries to be a dominating male figure, I tell him to relax and back up. When he is fired up about something, I listen and smirk because his analogies and sense of humor are tremendously hilarious. Then throw in my own thoughts and opinions which are usually hilarious as well. His bravery has me awestruck. His intensity is AMAZING! He has stamina and drive like no other. I consider him my mountain, there for me to lean on at all times. And I assure you, he is actually THERE for me. I can see this becoming an extremely beautiful and fulfilling relationship! And he doesn’t lie to me. I know that for a fact. He is amazing! I think I may be in for the real thing (at long last!). So every Cancer who has had a bad experience with a Scorpio: WISH ME LUCK PLEASE! I REALLY LIKE THIS GUY!!!

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Macey100 (@Macey100) : February 4th, 2012
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I recently started talking to a cancer man online, I am scorpio woman.  We communicated everyday either by phone, text or skype, things were going really well between us, so after 1 month, we decided to meet.  When we met for the first time we got along really well, there was a chemistry, I felt so comfortable with him and I didn’nt want the evening to end.  The next day we met for lunch, we felt comfortable and at ease with each other and talked as though we had known each other for years.  We talked about trying for a long term relationship, and he asked me to move to his home town 400 miles away. It was too soon, but I was so happy that we felt the same way about each other. I went home with my head in cloud 9. I felt so positive about us.  Then I didn’t hear from him for 3 days, nothing. I was devastated, hurt.  When he did finally contact me he told me that he has a problem with my bodysize (apparently I am too overweight for his tastes).  I couldn’t believe it.  I was so hurt. I am on a diet and working on it and have been for a while anyway, these things take time, but I know I will get there, and I am doing it for me not for him.  So this insult from him was like ‘kicking me while I am down’.  I go through extreme feelings of hating him tremendously and then wanting to be with him.  I am hurt and confused.  I am just wondering, once a cancer man makes a decision, do they stick with it forever, or are they known to change their minds?  Can anyone offer advice on this?

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hurtbycancer (@hurtbycancer) : May 27th, 2012
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@Macey100 OMG i am going through the same exact thing!! i am a scorpio woman that fell instantly for a cancer man.. he seemed so interested in me.. he seemed as though he liked me as much as i liked him.. we had so much fun and chemistry together.. we taled everyday all day and that was because he would find me and look for me and literally run down the street after me just to be around me.. he would see me in a crowded street (NYC) and would yell across the street to get my attention.. he seemed so into me.. i fell head over heels for him because he was so nice and charming.. but then it seemed he would disappear or get stand offish after a while.. i tried communicating with him and finally telling him my feelings about him and he then revealed to me that he was not atrracted to me at all.. he said that i was not his type..that i was over weight.. that was such a shocker.. especially since i revealed to him how attracted to him i was.. why didnt he just leave me alone? why did he keep persuing me like that? he was acting more than a friend.. we kissed alot and had plenty wonderful sex.. we snuggled and cuddled a lot.. my feelings grew so strong for him.. i became confused when he told me he was no where near attracted to me.. wut made it worse was he went for an aries woman while he was still seeing me.. she was smaller than i was but in my opinion and others opinion less attractive.. when she found out about us she teased and taunted me about how stupid i was to give sex to a man that dont like me and wanted her.. the most hurtful part was that he told her that i liked him and he didnt like me and wasnt attracted to me and didnt respect me as much as he respected he.. he ate that up and teased me.. he allowed it because i guess his heart was with her.. still and all he and i cant leave eachother alone.. i decided to never have sex with him again but he still persues me and wont leave me alone.. he still follows me and stalks me and i like it..makes me feel like he lied about not liking me but why would he say he doesnt if e does? why does he show aries love and not me? i feel stupid for still having this man in my life but for some reason we just cannot let one another go.. i need out because its so hurtful but i just cant leave..he feels the same way :(

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rose (@rosedl) : June 22nd, 2012
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Cancer woman, Scorpio Man.
I have never been with a Scorpio man before my current relationship.  We were friends for a year and a half before we became romantically involved and lovers for the past six months.  
Let me state that I the second I FELT this man sit down next to me, my first thought was….’your future husband is sitting next to you’.  I am not making that up.  This was before I even looked at him.  When I looked up, there was this kind of awkward guy there looking like he felt a bit out of place.  I actually laughed out loud and thought to myself, really? 
Well, this awkward guy became my best friend during a really tough break up and I reciprocated his sympathy as he struggled with his own ex problems.  For the first few months, I discovered I really LIKED him but I was unsure if we had the attraction level and compatibility to be anything else and I really was just in the friendship.  About a year into being friends, it came to me one night that I was in love with him.  And, six months later on a night time visit, I pulled him to me and kissed him and we have been together ever since.  
And, it is all that the astrology books and sites describe and more.  I love him like I never thought possible to love a man.  And, he loves me.  He looks at me with deep passion.  I can feel him when he is not with me.  He is one of the mature and evolved ones, incredible will, incredible strength, incredible ability, incredible self control, and incredible emotional depth that fostered that scorpian mask and hiding in plain site routine.
We are both older, and a Scorpio that has been hurt before and fears making another mistake is not an easy man to get to trust.  It was clear from his eyes and his actions that he had feelings for me, but was too vulnerable and jaded to act.  As a vulnerable Cancer woman, it is not my cup of tea to go after a man and make the first physical move, but he was so inside himself and protected, I finally just caved, and made the first move.  It took a lot of patience, long talks, and time to get  him to begin to trust me, but he now says he feels safe with me.  He talks about the beautiful future we can create.  I think this is the biggest challenge for any Cancer woman involved with an intense and once bitten Scorp.  You may have to make the first move.  You may have to act to earn trust.  It was pretty out of character for me, but my sense of intuition was so strong that this was right, I went ahead and took the risk.  I was the first to say I love you.  I kissed him.
And, now it is so mutually reciprocated and his desire and want of me are so clear, I am glad that I took the big risk for him.  He was totally worth it.  He told me the other day he feels safe with me (he is right, he is….I love him so much).  Now that are walls are torn down, the connection, sexual tension, love making, affection, warmth, laughter, and happiness is beyond the stuff of romance novels.  He lights up when he sees me.  He beams.  He sighs when I touch him.  And, I am the same way.  
I am crazy about this man.  I have never respected, admired, desired, and wanted a man the way I do him.  And, it is a healthy love with lots of respect for space and each others individual needs.  I trust him to do whatever he wants and needs because I feel secure in his love for me and our ability to work through problems.
My Scorpio IS the love of my life, the man I never thought I would meet, the most gentle/passionate/intense/giving/kind lover in the world.  
Reading this board it is clear that the unevolved Scorps can tear out a Cancer’s heart (any woman actually), but if you have a chance with one of the evolved specimens, GO FOR IT.  Scorpio eagles truly are everything and more ever written about them.  
I lovvvvvvvvve my guy!
 
 

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rose (@rosedl) : June 23rd, 2012
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Each sign possesses positive and negative qualities.  Astrology may go on about the heaven of a 5/9 trined couple (the signs of the same element beside your own form this aspect), but this is just a foundation  on which to build.  If you or your partner let your unevolved astrological traits (your karmic struggles) rule you, they invariably end up hurting or destroying your intimate relationships.
The negative qualities of Cancer are possessiveness, insecurity, jealousy, stinginess, crabiness, extreme moodiness, and sad to say, selfishness, and secretiveness.
The negative qualities of Scorpio are vengefulness, secretiveness, selfishness, jealousy, stinginess, self hatred and mistrustfulness.  
Pretty similiar, eh?  So, if you have one partner who is letting their weakness rule them, it will be hard.  If you combine two, it will be torture.  
HOWEVER, if you have two evolved of the trined pair (and this does not mean perfection or never exhibiting your weaknesses with each other, it just means you work hard to overcome them and not let them rule you or destroy your love), you have all these positives on which to draw.
Cancer:  Loyalty, a fantastic sense of humor which is a total tonic for the more serious Scorpio, empathy, deep sensuality, nuturing, emotional compatibility and telepathy, love of home and family, and enduring love/trust/vulnerability for the person who can be gentle with our delicate hearts
Scorpio: Loyalty to match Cancer, intensity in drive and stability which Cancer will lean on and respect, strength and endurance which Cancer will strive to emulate and draw from, sexual intensity and passion, endurance and reliability, gentleness, ethics, work ethic, and drive.   
So, when Crabs and Eagles are on their best behavior they compliment and support each other like no other.  Same needs, same basic drives, same intense emotionalism
The gift of the 5/9 vibration is that all these positive qualities are there any time the individuals choose to draw from them.  Other chart influences will reveal the particular struggles and strengths of each partnerships.  Serious and multiple conflicts with other aspects can really strain the basic empathy.  But, if other planets jibe, it will make the pull near irresitible. 
I have known Scorpios that I don’t like at ALL.  These have invariably been the reactive/stinging type that wound indiscriminately for the smallest infraction.   
My Scorpio guy is not perfect.  He can be overly secretive, suspicious, competitive.  He can get mean in a fight which I do not respond well to at ALL.  BUT, he openly works on his flaws, he apologizes and owns them, he is loving with mine and instead of berating me respects the work I do to make things better.  The majority of the time, he is sweet, affectionate, playful, giving, loving, kind, empathetic, and deliciously sexy.  Yum, yum, yum, yum, yum.

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Sara Skan (@Sskan) : December 26th, 2012
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my Scorpio guy and myself have been together 2 short months. However, we are so intensley in love. Our comfort levels make it feel as though we’ve been together for years!! We are living together,  practically have been from the start. We are planning together and striving together. It’s as though he was made for me and vise versa.  I see where some of the differences in personality traits can have effects on the other such as emotionally. I as a cancer woman have some trust issues, it’s as though instead of starting with trust. It almost has to be proven to me. Which I admit, sucks! I also think toooo much and am constantly observing and analyzing. sometimes to a fault whoch i do recognize. onviously. We are both in our 30′s. I have 4 kids that he instantly connected with and it goes both ways. I have always known I would find love such as this, it happened and came outta nowhere in a matter of “BAMMM!!” Haha..  There is such a connection, intensity, understanding, passion and drive with us together I can’t imaginan life being any other way. I’m not naive, insecure, desperate or overly eager to be in a relationship. All I know is, with something as real as this is, I refuse to ignore it or question it.  I’ve dealt with to much nonsense and abuse in my life it’s time to soak in the good regardless o the time frame.  Life is short. Keep smiling a genuine smile Which means Eliminate negativity. 

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