Comments on: Taurus Woman and Cancer Man Love Compatibility

By: Carribean Venus

Carribean Venus — Tue, 06 Dec 2011 15:05:00 +0000

Thank you so much for your insight. I know that I didn’t ‘paint’ my Cancer in the most flattering light. He can also be very loving, faithful, attentive, extremely empathetic and thoughtful. This is why I fell in love with him. With Taurus women, we’re very guarded in terms of who we give our hearts to. I couldn’t have allowed myself to fall in love with him, unless I felt that I could trust him with my heart.

As for [us] Taurus women, yes we can go from being warm-hearted, nurturing, very affectionate and loving, to being stubborn, obsolete, unyielding and quite vicious with our tongues! Like you, my Cancer man would hide out for weeks when this happened. We suffer from a ‘diarrhea of the mouth.’ We blurt things out without thinking. But unfortunately it’s usually due to pent up anger. We’re not very good communicators. We don’t address things when they NEED to be addressed at the time…instead, we hold back…and then release a VENOM! I’m still working on trying to improve this this.:) Why do we do this? (especially with Cancers), well Cancers have mood swings, sometimes changeable personalities,unpredictability, some flightiness, and to a consistent, compulsive planner, predictable sign like Taurus, this can cause a certain level of resentment. I’m working real hard to embrace ‘change.’ We don’t deal with sudden changes very well!

As for my Cancer, I don’t think that I have the patience level to invest in him emotionally…and I certainly don’t want to lead him on, or ruin him for someone else.

What do I want? I love him, but I know in my heart that I can’t be with him at this point in my life. Career-wise, I tend to be more self-focused. Making him top priority, while compensating for the way I deserted him in the past will prove to be too much! I don’t want to take on something that I can’t execute or deliver ( typical Taurus trait)…just to let him down in the process. I don’t want him to resent me or any other woman for that matter. I care about him too much for that. I hope he finds someone special.

Thanks again,
I just needed some clarity.

By: lucas King

lucas King — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 23:47:47 +0000

@Carribean-Venus
This all sounds so familiar, both from you as a Taurus women and the typical cancerian trait. The thing with cancerian men is they can be emotionally weak and feel sorry for themselves. They will never approach a situation head on and will instead skirt around it or avoid it they can, remember we are crabs.
Playing games is typical of cancerians as they try and avoid situations that make them feel uncomfortable.
I understand where you are coming from in relation to your trait as a taurian. Being calculated, logical and methodical is exactly how my ex is, which prompted me to come onto this site in the first place.
In my honest opinion I think you are right in saying you probably wont love anyone the way you love him, as cancerians reach a deeper level in relationships, but knowing how Taurian women are and the way cancerians can be, I would walk away unless he can be open, honest, less dramatic and insecure and most importantly learn how to communicate. A lot I know, but we all have weaknesses and they should never be used to hurt each other.
In relation to the Taurian bull, would you say that taurian women can be vicious with their words as I had been in a relationship with one for a year and a half and hell had no fury when she was ready. I would always run for the hills and come back a week later. This went on for a while and the last straw was nearly five weeks ago. We have spoken and seen each other a few times, but we havent spoken in five days and letting go is hard as we are both waiting for someone to make the first move.
I hope all works out with you, but I think you already know the answer….Good luck

By: lucas King

lucas King — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 23:28:20 +0000

@Carribean-Venus This all sounds so familiar, both from you as a Taurus women and a typical cancerian trait. The thing with cancerian men is they can be emotionally weak and feel sorry for themselves. They will never approach a situation head on and will instead skirt around it or avoid it they can. W

By: Carribean Venus

Carribean Venus — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 18:31:38 +0000

@themicroflyer

How do I prodd my Cancer man gently when I don’t understand how to move with him?

I am a Taurus woman. I’m usually 100% certain about what I want. But with this Cancer man, I’m not quite sure. We met 5 years ago. He fell in love with me, hard! The feeling was mutual on my part as well. I’m not sure how familiar you are with the Taurus sign, but we prefer to take things real slow. We only allow just a few people in our inner circle (granted we’re given enough time to get to know you to let you in). He wanted to spend every spare time he had with me (despite the fact that he worked 6 days a week). I had other obligations such as working and volunteering, and I just needed some space. He kept asking me if I was seeing someone else, and that I was just simply looking for excuses not to see him. He also accused me of leading him on and taking advantage of him. He stated that he was doing everything for me, and I reciprocated nothing. Which was quite the contrary, I would never cheat on anyone! And as far as generosity goes, I would give a stranger the shirt off my back. I felt that he was too much emotional work. He had way too much emotional baggage from previous relationships, too. Serious trust issues. So I cut him off without an explanation. It was too much for me at the time! I’m usually direct and honest, but in this case, I felt overwhlemed, and he was emotionally draining me.

Five years later (this present time) we got in contact and spoke. He seemed bothered by the way I ended things. I think he needed closure. So I was completely honest as to why I ended it. I didn’t hold back. He wanted total honesty, so I gave it to him. He also wanted to know what I thought about marriage and children, he wanted to see me, and thought that I would be a nice girl for him. He caught me off guard. I was suprised. I told him that I wasn’t sure. We lived in two seperate states. I didn’t think that went over very well. He didn’t get back in contact w/me. So I contacted him a few months later on FB and requested him as a friend. Nothing! I sent him an apology via message/email. Then …Poof! he accepts my friends request.

My feelings for him are very strong. But I don’t know if I can deal with his insecurity and hypersensitivity. With Tauruses (esp, with most Earth signs) we’re constantly balancing emotions and logic. My heart tells me that I don’t think I could love anyone the way that I love him (yes, even after 5 years). But my mind tells me that in ‘reality’ this is a relationship that may be doomed to failure. As a Taurus, for me, finances come first, taking care of my nuclear family comes second, and relationships come in third. Something tells me that he’s going to want to come in 1st all the time! This concerns me.
My question to you is, how should I move/deal with this?