All of us are surrounded by people and we often want that our relationship with them should be worthy. When we look up to the close ones, expectations are high and disappointments are likely to follow. Your relationship expert will tell you what to do in such cases…
How a relationship builds up between two people?
Relationship is a necessity; we learnt in our school that we humans cannot live in isolation so relationships are bound to be created. We need to think over on what basis do we create our relationships? Reasons can be many like need, support, company, survival and love. Sometimes its altogether and it is difficult for us to figure out what exactly was there at its core, but if it is not clear to us then it’s tough to take it far. For instance relationship with Bf is sometimes so complicated that we wonder most of the time what exactly it is and why it exists anyway. And we end up doing, “he loves me, he loves me not, he loves………………” Yes every relation goes through obstacles and being there is really something but we must have control over it, we must know what we are doing, we must know what we actually want. Once we can answer all these questions there will be no worries.
Company was all we liked
I love the concept of togetherness.
– William Shatner
Being together, hanging out, spending time, and sharing stuffs nothing more than that. It feels good to be together, feels good to know that someone is present and listens to you. Friends were always there to do this and we miss them. Back then these questions never befell and life was simple. Its good when things are unpretentious, isn’t it? Togetherness brings grace in life what spoils is “demands”. Just being with someone may fill those empty spaces which were never covered by anyone and that someone could be a complete stranger, an unknown person. What we will call it……….difficult to answer but it’s the fact it was meant to be like that and it was just perfect believe it or not.
What if we realize that love was never there?
Everyone experiences failure and learns from it, but the biggest failure is never triyng to begin with……
It will be hard to accept that but it’s the truth. A relationship can survive only if we are committed towards it and we act accordingly. Realizing that love was never there can break us apart but hold on good part is you have figured it out that love never existed. It’s time to question then what exactly it was? If it was money or need then let it be don’t force it to be love and behave frantically because it will worsen it and will destroy everything. Better you take it the way it is and serve it the same. We all have to be this fearless, it’s tough but that’s the only solution. And you know what just try it you will feel light.
How to still love them?
If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were.
– Richard Bach
It’s the worst case when we come to know that there was nothing and we are to still love them……….impossible but we got to do it. To make ourselves stronger, to be ready to face another one as the list is long we have to do it. Having the ability to love and forgive is counter to our own will. Holding a grudge is not the right way but this is what we do most of the time, it’s a sad part of human life. People may hate you or they always faked that they loved but now it’s time to handle the situation instead of complaining all the time. We must begin with ourselves, we possess many weaknesses but do we hate ourselves? May be we do but only for a while. So, why not think likewise for others. Start loving them and you will see change.
How powerful love is?
We’ve got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can’t just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it’s going to get on by itself. You’ve got to keep watering it. You’ve got to really look after it and nurture it.
– John Lennon
Love is a never ending joy that can be given, shared and still can be seen growing day by day. Love has to be at the core and love is the only key to make our current and future relationships stronger. Love is something that makes us do anything for our loved ones and it keeps us together. Whatever we give comes back to us, so it doesn’t matter whether the other person loves you or not, just keep loving them and one fine day may be not from the same person, through other ways you will get it back nobody can take that away from you. So, not for others, not because you want it back, unconditionally we may love without any expectation. Hope is always followed by disappointments, stop thinking that this should happen if I do it that way……..no its wrong, just do it and forget it. Hardships never go in vain; you will be paid sooner or later.
Loving is not about wanting the other person to be yours, it is about wanting that other person to be happy
Love need not be romantic in nature, as far as relationships go, there can be many types of love like brotherly, fatherly, sisterly, motherly or friendly love that are just as important as romantic ones. Many of us forget, that the unconditional love of a parent when then get tied up with romance, only after a heart break do we realize that the love that our family can give us is the most pure and unconditional love we can get in a lifetime. Even so,just as parental and sibling love have their way, romantic love is also important in its own means, and nothing can replace the place of the other. Friendship, sibling love, parental love and romantic love all have their own place of necessity, so we can’t really measure and compare them.
And those who only know the non-platonic love have no need to talk of tragedy. In such love there can be no sort of tragedy.
– Leo Tolstoy
As coined by the great philosopher, Plato described platonic love as the type of love between two people, regardless of their gender, a chaste, non – sexual love that is free from desires and wishes. Such type of love which is in its purest form, which inspires one’s mind and the soul and elevates into a higher position, a spiritual being is called Platonic Love. Platonic love can be the love between the artist and his muse, where they don’t develop a love that requires them to be attracted sexually but they inspire them to bring forth the creativity inside a person.
Platonic love can also be called as the ideal kind of love, where one focuses on the beloved and redirects the lover’s attention from the partner’s sexuality to something much pure interaction between the minds.
Love for your self
You are wrong if you think Joy emanates only or principally from human relationships. God has placed it all around us. It is in everything and anything we might experience.
– Jon Krakauer, Into the Wild.
This is not a love that is narcissistic, and is often the toughest one to conquer. A person can be extremely sensitive in judging themselves and that is why it is hard to be content with what you are and what you have. A love that is purely between one and the inner self is what all of us must aspire to have. Just like Jon Krakauer says, you don’t need anyone to experience happiness and love, the joy that emanates from experiencing all the things around you develop as a person is elation itself.