Sex is all in the head! For action to happen right you have to get it right in the mind. Dropping your shorts is surely a great idea to arouse a woman but will be monotonous after some time. In order to make her warm for action, you have to devise newer and better tricks. An aroused and satisfied woman is the essential ingredient to awesome bedroom life. Agree? Read on.
Physical intimacy in any relationship is definitely the most passionate feeling for both men and women. But the fairer sex definitely has a different and interesting point of view when it comes to bed. Some guys find it absolutely nerve-wracking to comprehend the idea of what women want in bed. That’s right, boys- women are not as simple as you may assume. They are far more complex, deep, desirous and passionate than you may thing them to be. Under the poised little black dress and stilettos lie a wild person ready to rip off your shirt!
Recently, a leading magazine went around errands finding women’s greatest sexual desires and temptations. The results were unbelievable and there came a long list of ‘must dos’. So, men sit down and take some serious notes on the basics of sex. You may think yourself to be a great expert by watching porn as a teenager, but this is a true reality check.
Watch out for your dragon breath
Yes, men are gross creatures. At least, as per what most women believe. Your lady is definitely not very serious to know what you ate for dinner. Try to stay away from bad breath as it’s a great turn off. A recent study revealed than over 67% women hoped that their partner should have fresher breath. Smelling nice and fresh is a basic and not just a trait only for initial phase of dating. So, hold back on your habits and make a little effort to stay hygienic.
Ah! Don’t take us wrong. We are not getting into the genital size debate here. By size we mean your physique. Women enjoy more with men who are physically large and macho. Everyone cannot be Brad Pitt or tom Cruise, but you can always try for basic fitness. Pot bellies are definitely a big turn off and take away the charm of the experience. Invest your time in everyday fitness regime and that will go a long way in making you a desirable man.
It’s downright rude if you do not praise a woman in bed. We know you have showered millions of compliments before but will have to do it again. Any girl is super conscious of her looks and how she appears to the significant person in her life. You have to make her feel confident about her body and see how it turns her on. Tell her that her eye lashes are beautiful and how the new tattoo is awesome. Think. Think. There are a million way to praise a woman. It’s a great arousal technique and will also make your bond stronger.
You might be shocked to learn the results of a recent study. 74% of female respondents said that males were not satisfactory during foreplay. Some even complained that their sexual activity was completely devoid of any romantic foreplay. Guys! Foreplay is the elixir of sexual charm for women. You may forget it but they desire it. It gives her ample satisfaction and enjoyment to indulge in foreplay. It could be romantic talks, dance, caressing, holding hands and hundreds of affectionate gestures. Experiment and explore what works best for your lady love.
Say ‘I love you’
Let’s not forget the reason for being there in complete intimate moments. She knows it already but would like to hear one more time. In between the kiss and the caress, just say the three magical words. Saying ‘I Love you’ add a magical whim to the entire experience. It’s just a matter of words for men but it carries a deep emotional and psychological connotation for women. Value her feelings and say how much you love her. She will deeply like it and reciprocate it in a better way.
We have said all this hundred times before and reiterate it once more. Females are vocal creatures. Like it or not, women love to indulge into deep conversation even during the passionate moments between the sheets. Drop all those walls and speak your mind to her. Tell her what you would like to do to her and how amazing she is. Talk about all romantic stuff you have ever read or seen in any movie. You may find it illogical but believe us it all works for women.
Hold her hostage
Shocked? Don’t be. “I totally love the idea of surrendering my complete body to someone. It’s too fanciful and erotic”, says a 29 year old lady. Tie her up with ropes or strings and see how she gets aroused. No, no, do not wait for her to tell you this. It’s her secret fantasy and you have to do it right away. And yes! All women love this act!
Turn on the Romance button
Red petals, soft music, scented candles and dim lights. Sounds like a Mills and Boons scene but it invariably turns on women. Irrespective of age and the number of years she has been with you, the basic of romance remain unchanged. Sex is so much perfect in movies and books. But, to your surprise, women do desire to recreate that flawless and blissful experience.
Do not jump to the main act within seconds of arriving in the room. Be tender and slow. Sometimes who may get confused when to get wild and when to keep it soft? The answer is striking a balance between both. Read her mood and reaction to your advancements. Take cues from her response and proceed. As per a survey, over 56% women felt that they weren’t aroused enough when their partner proceeded for penetration. So, be slow and enjoy the act.
All humans have fantasies. Your lady is no exception to it. She definitely has many whims and fantasies. She has a long list of situations she wishes she could play. So what’s stopping you? Be the prisoner and let her be the aroused officer. How about a sexy nurse and a handsome patient? Let your imagination loose and create a new fun in your sex life. Role plays are surprisingly the easiest way to introduce fun in your bedroom. Many modern couples often talk about how they revived their otherwise boring bedroom life by having some kinky role plays.
You may with any sort of independent, successful and i-love-myself type of woman, but trust us on this, she loves it when you dominate in bed. Do not always be a meek, over-submissive and listening guy. Be confident and keep up your masculine skills alive. We completely understand your concern over being branded as a too-hard guy, but strike a fine balance between romance and fervor.
As per a recent survey, a whopping number of women complained of lack of kissing in the act. Men tend to get lost in the action and forget about little things that obviously make great differences to women. Apart from vocal, women are also extremely emotional beings. It’s simply fabulous for them to be kissed by someone whom they value.
This is indeed a tricky task. We are not asserting that all women love oral sex, but as per research a surprising number surely does. Girls, in general prefer variety in bed and oral sex adds a lot of charm to the whole action. Not every woman like it the same way so you need to experiment a bit. Gauge her reaction and try to decipher what she likes. The whole sentiment of oral sex is overwhelming, so enjoy the experience mutually.
The reality about what women desire in bed is not any rocket science. It’s just a matter of little sensitivity and understanding. Sex therapists across the globe emphasize on mutual satisfaction and enjoyment. As a couple, it’s crucial that both of you work out a mutually comfortable sex equation. For that to happen, you need to communicate, explore, experiment and express. Try to create an atmosphere of open expression and communication. Make the woman feel confident of her desires and show your interest in knowing what’s important to her. After having said that, we leave it all to the sensual wisdom of our readers to discover their sexual compatibilities. Guys, women are not complicated, they are just a little deep in their hearts. Know what lies in her heart and keeping her happy won’t be a mystery anymore.