Cancer Woman and Scorpio Man Love Compatibility

Key Takeaways

  • Cancer woman and Scorpio man have magnetic attraction and deep love compatibility.
  • They make an amazing duo sexually, nurturing their love with emotional attachment and pure lovemaking.
  • To attract the Scorpio man, the Cancer woman should show her sense of humor and be loyal and understanding.
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The attraction between Cancer and Scorpio is magnetic, deeply felt, and has the potential to withstand the test of time. The warmth and caring nature of Cancer feel regenerating to Scorpio, and Scorpio sense of an all-encompassing love appeals to you Cancer deeply. Both have the similar ways of expressing their love and make each other feel “at home”.

A Scorpio man is an invincible person. He is an extremist with calm and steady surface and smoldering passion within him. Beneath the soft voice of Scorpio male lays his subtle strategies to enhance his career and personal life. He is one person who loves luxury and comforts immensely. He can sink into depression, or rise to intoxicating heights of ecstasy. In love with a Cancer woman, he is a passionate lover who knows all the synonyms of romance and eroticism. Though he is a great lover, but together with it he is very jealous and suspicious in nature too. He can be passionate just about anything, including sex, love and family. If you look at the surface, he will look totally calm and composed. Just look beneath that outer layer of his and you will find his smoldering passion.

A Cancer woman is enigmatically feminine. She is a gentle and kind lady with a good sense of humor and capturing aura of delicate personality. Her feelings are sensitive and tender and her loyalty is spotless. Though, she may not look very strong, but she is a tower of strength for her dear ones and perfectly able to manage herself, if alone. Patience is her dearest virtue and flexibility is her biggest weapon to win in all circumstances. Being in love with a Scorpio man, stirs the deepest emotions of the Cancer female making her a perfect match for a passionate male like him.

Cancer woman is always an interesting lady for a Scorpio man. She is full of such feminine mysteries which a curious Scorpio man always wants to unfold completely but gently. She has a reserved outlook in the beginning which attracts him but soon she shows him her great sense of humor which makes even a serious person like him to smile. She brings colors and joys to his life and provides him with a companion who is always by his side to love, care and understands his feelings. She is actually one person who understands him well deep to his soul and knows what goes on under his cool and composed surface. Loyalty is the biggest trait that makes him feel comfortable with a Cancer woman. Though to his dislike, he can find her to be possessive and bossy at times and also has to tolerate her mood swings but with such love and loyalty in return, he understands her value and keeps a cool temper while dealing with her mood swings.

The Scorpio man is one male who can easily win a Cancer woman’s heart. He appreciates and understands her very well and soon converts their understanding into a romantic endeavor. He deals with the wounded feelings of her with great compassion, understanding her dreadful heartaches and soothes them out with his passionate love and thick blankets of care and devotion. He gives her the protection and care which she craves for deeply with such intensity that it makes her feel complete in all dimensions of her existence. He is one person who cuddles her like a baby and respects her like a lady. She needs to understand that his chief faults are his suspicious nature, jealousy, and a desire to dominate others, especially the lady love of his life. To overcome these demons eclipsing his golden heart, she just needs to be a bit more patient as with time his confidence increases and he starts giving space to her being sure of her wisdom and trustworthiness.

The Cancer woman and the Scorpio man makes one of the best possible pair with great compatibility and warmth that is both emotionally and physically very intense and rich. As their love grows and they soar high with each other and experience an undoubted confidence in their relationship, she gives her complete trust to her Scorpio man and he grants her with the gift of forgiveness, which he never gave to anyone. She helps him to be reborn and discover his true personality, charm and magnetism with her unlimited devotion and tenderness while he helps to remove all the fears out of his Cancer damsel’s heart and teaches her to fly high fearlessly with his undivided attention and care for her. Their home is a temple of love where they both keep each other on pedestal to worship and offer their devotion, care and affection throughout their lives.

Sexually, the Scorpio man and Cancer woman makes one of the most amazing duo. The Water from both the signs mixes so well, that its serenity and soothing feel keeps nurturing their love. The Scorpio man’s love nature is more intense and yearning than that of most men and hers is more romantic and sensitive than that of most women. Both of them long for a certain degree of security in a relationship which they get from their emotional attachment and enhance with the purity of love making. Cancer female’s heart is almost always turned on by sensing peace and coziness she feels by being held in her Scorpio lover’s arms while he needs loyalty, that he can get in plenty from Cancer lady love. He enjoys it when her heart starts beating terribly fast during the act and her face getting so flush. Most times she wants so much to match his torturously delicious movements with her own, but she holds her emotions firmly. Actually she must let him know how much he drives her crazy and how much she is in love with him. As they become aware of each other’s unspoken needs, their physical mating can be a truly transcendental experience and their sexual union becomes a strange mixture of eroticism and purity.

As this is always a very wonderful couple but nothing is actually perfect and to reach perfection some amount of sacrifice is always needed, they must first conquer together their most negative traits: Cancer woman’s baseless fears and possessiveness, Scorpio man’s burning jealousy and revenge compulsion and also their mutual financial caution. If these differences are passed by successfully there can be hardly any Scorpio-Cancer relationship that is ever broken. As both of them are outrageous in nature and tend to retreat into solitude when angry, to have a healthy relationship they should rather openly talk it over to find solutions. Otherwise, a very lovely relationship may end up abruptly, after which they invariably miss each other very much usually throughout their lives.

Cancer Woman and Scorpio Man Love Compatibility Rating

Relationship Feedback: Needs Work
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Ask Oracle Rating: Excellent
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350 Comments
  1. fe August 8th, 2011

    i had a hurtful experience wif scorpio guy..but i got to agree on the intense emotions involved, the crazy chemistry etc..but when sumthg is wrong, n he acted nothg, just a total silence n shut everythg out,it does hurt a cancer’s heart..he is not wat he claimed to be, gentlemen n respectful n mature is jz plain BS..but i feel much better now, i decided to not wait or cry over him any longer, it is his loss,not mine..all i wana say is that, though the emotions n chemistry is strong, but it is certainly not worth the pain..they said scorpios tend to destroy wat they love..but loving someone should not be a reason to hurt loved ones..yes, cancer is soft-hearted n we’re very forgiving, empathetic etc, but at 1 point, i know i dont deserve all these rubbish from him, i deserve to b happy..i wait no longer n walk away! God bless us all!

  2. lujain July 18th, 2011

    @ Mark : thank you for wishing me a happy b-day ur the first ^_^ , i didn’t came here for a while too. if you can >> keep us posted about how things are progressing & good luck…

  3. Scorpio1983 July 13th, 2011

    @lujain thank you for the wise words, i didn’t came on for a while. but i will do this for sure, now i have more confidence. i want to wish you in advance happy birthday on 22 july 😉

  4. Author
    Ask Oracle July 2nd, 2011

    @iamacancergirl Great! Now you are asking the right question. Most importantly, only faith and trust can make things possible for us. You cannot experience greatest possible Love without trust. Here are a few suggestions:

    a) Don’t take life too seriously. We humans are too dependent on external factors like air, water, food, climate, temperature, good state of health and mind to mention a few. This is the real reason for your past relationship problems. You can now choose to forgive yourself and everyone for whatever that happened.

    b) Fear, anger, possessiveness, neediness, desires, jealousy, control, manipulation, criticism etc. are enemies of Love. Be realistic in your expectations and understand that Love will test us a thousand and one times.

    c) Try to build trust from your side, and give your best. What other person does or doesn’t is really not your problem. If other person will do the right things at right time, Love will grow on its own.

  5. iamacancergirl July 1st, 2011

    @Ask Oracle yea i think you are right. I dont know what is happening in his life now. All i have to do is trust his word and hope that he will surely get back to me. I got a message from him yesterday saying that he has severe throat infection and that he is not able to talk or message me. He also told me that he will only call me once he is fine. He also told me not to keep messaging.
    You are right love needs a state of calm and patience. I guess i am so impatient to meet him and so agitated and disappointed in love that i am just pushing this on him. But the thing is that i have had failed relationships before that made me get this tendency to just doubt any male’s actions or words. I really cant get to trust guys. Please let me know why this happens and what can i do to overcome this trait.

  6. Author
    Ask Oracle June 30th, 2011

    @iamacancergirl Your relationship has not yet taken off and doubts have already entered your mind. Think about it.

    No one is at a mistake here, you are simply confusing “thinkingness” with Love. Love demands a lot of patience and a calm state of mind.

    He’ll respond to you when he is ready for it. Its that simple. Meanwhile you can use this time to pay attention to other important things in life including a good health. Take up a daily body exercise routine and it will help.

  7. iamacancergirl June 30th, 2011

    I have a chat friend who is a scorpio male. We started out as chat friends. casual chats were so interesting that we exchanged numbers and started talking over the phone. The more we talked the more both of us realised that we have some deep connection going on. Then i had to move to another place for a job and we lost touch somehow and never spoke to each other. After almost 5 years, we got back in touch and exchanged numbers again and started talking. Neither of us lose the interest in talking to each other…if the topic of the conversation reaches an end, we start up a new one and chat on it for hours…we have never met though both of us planned to meet from the early days of the relation. He always says to me that he really likes me so much and that i am more than his friend. I really really like him too and i want this relation. Lately he told me that he will cme to my city to meet me and i have also told him ok. I dnt knw when he will come but all i know is that sparks are sure to fly. But for the past four days he has never called me or msgd me. He never lifts my calls and does not respond to my msgs. When i msgd him two days back, he msgd me back saying that he has full fever and he is not able to talk also. But i was just wondering if he is just doing that to avoid me. I am not sure. But i really want to meet him and talk to him in person and see where it goes. I really really like him and i cant stop thinking about him. Someone pls tell me something as to why this scorpio is avoiding me ?

  8. Cancenique June 8th, 2011

    spell correction front–>from! lol Im going to bed before I mess up again. Im gonna dream about meeting a Scorpio! This is almost as good as FB! U guys are very interesting on here.

  9. Cancenique June 8th, 2011

    I have never ever dated a Scorpio, and front what I heard and read, Im so looking forward to meeting one!!! 🙂

  10. Casaundra June 8th, 2011

    I have started a relationship w/a Scorpio Man and I am a Cancer woman… I have notice already he is VERY sexual but such a GREAT guy! from the first time we meet I have had butterflies in my stomach and just fell head over heels for him! 🙂 I LOVE the ways he treats me although I do wish somethings were different… Him being from Africa and I being from the US. its hard to not be physical in public like hold hands kiss or hug… 🙁 I REALLY like him! Hope that everything goes GREAT! I want this relationship to LAST a LIFE time IF possible (I know I was kinda pessimistic there). But I do like him ALOT and see him and just butterfilies till he comes over to me and hold/kiss me. 🙂

  11. Author
    Ask Oracle May 26th, 2011

    @deepwater (Kate)
    You should feel free to express your feelings/needs to him in a way that is non-demanding, non-controlling without fearing the consequences.

    But then he might cling to you, not able to let go, be needy/moody etc. This is actually a trap, you might get emotional and regret it later. A lot will depend on your skills to handle the situation.

  12. DeepWater May 26th, 2011

    PS. For example, he is ALREADY talking about my birthday. I don’t like such assumptions. What if I want to spend my birthday with someone else? We’re not in a relationship…but I feel trapped, like I have somehow accidentally dug myself into this hole, and it is very hard to get out. Just wish it didn’t get intense so quickly…

  13. DeepWater May 26th, 2011

    I feel like I could use some Scorpio advice on this…

    I’m a Cancer girl(July 5) and I’ve been involved with three Scorpio men in my life so far (all have been very intense, pretty up and down rides). The one I’m currently involved with is making my head sort of reel with confusion.

    We’ve gotten to know each other over the past 4 months and we did have an instant attraction. I wanted to get to know him as soon as I saw him. It is so easy for us to talk and I feel really comfortable around him, we have a lot of fun together, and I feel like we get each other. But here’s the kicker…I’m not THAT into him (Is that strange?). Everything just seems so intense, so sudden, and I still want to date other men, go out on my own, be independent, and not have an exclusive relationship with him.

    He on the other hand, would prefer that I spend every night with him, does sweet things for me, takes me out on dates (surprising because he says he has never really had a serious girlfriend), talks about the future (It’s only been FOUR months, of us even KNOWING each other), and introduces me to everyone he knows.

    I really enjoy his company and I can’t deny we have a connection, but like I said, I don’t want this intensity right now. I just don’t feel he is the right guy for me (maybe I can find another Scorpio… :P). But seriously, how do I tell him this? I feel like I should. We have neverr solidified anything, talked about exlusivity, or even plain out said we’re dating (HE’s even called me “the girl I’m hooking up with right now”). But I don’t want to lead him on…he is constantly doing nice things for me. And I know the Scorpio temper. I don’t want to be faced with that because I didn’t get us on the same page.

    So should I tell him just the basics of how I feel? Should I back off? What is his reaction likely to be? I really do enjoy him as a person, so I want to do whatever is best for both of us in this situation…

  14. summertimecandi May 25th, 2011

    I will be 31 July 15, and I’m dating a scorpio male that will be 32 Nov 19…we have been together strong for 2 years…It was like love at first sight when we met at a liquor store…he was so shy when i started talking to him and i thought that was cute,he is a manly man and his hand were shaking so bad when he was putting my number in his phone, i had to take his phone from him and put my number in it…We both love long drives and just love being around each other. We have so much in common and for the most part we get along great. He is very jealous but its getting better with time. I am very suspisous and im starting to understand that theres nothing to worry about…All he wants is me…i have never cheated him before and my love for him and his 7 year old son is amazing. He is so cool and laid back and if would ask me to marry him i would say YES…im still young and never been married so im not going to wait on him forever…but i will definitely miss him if we were to break up!!!! This kind of relationship requires alot of work and patience for cancer women…but its so worth it!!

  15. Author
    Ask Oracle May 25th, 2011

    @cancericious (Francesca)
    You need to focus only on “what you want” and not on “what you don’t want”. Probably you want happiness, joy and fun, and you don’t want problems.

    If this Scorpio guy has a past etc. that’s totally his problem. Why are you making his problem your problem?? If he talks to his ex. for whatever reasons that’s not something you should be worrying about. Let him do whatever he wants to, if he really cares for you he will do the “right things” at the “right time”.

    You need to be patient and you two can be good friends until you are relaxed and carefree with him. Feel free to express your feelings/needs in non-demanding, non-controlling ways.

  16. cancericious May 24th, 2011

    Im a cancer girl, been with a scorpio guy for 1 month. When we first saw each other – the sparks flew right across through our hearts. Everyone was saying we look like a hot couple.

    Now I just found out from his ex that he has a son. WHAT AM I GOING TO DO? He tells me he doesnt want his past anymore. That he will still support the child but he doesnt love his ex anymore.

    I couldn’t help or accept the fact that he has a son. But then again, he is everything i wanted. We are so alike in so many ways. He wants me back. Im confused if giving him another chance is worth the try. Im only 21, i know there are a lot of single hot scorpio guys out there… but this one – im not sure. 🙁

    He is a player. I know that. During the course of our relationship he still talks to his ex – and calls her names (you know). Damn I want him but i couldn’t bring myself to tell this to him coz of what he did.

  17. Cancer-Girl-inlove May 23rd, 2011

    Oracle some how I just cannot let go of what we had.. it is soo hard cause Ive done a really good job staying faithful but I feel myself getting weaker, AND i AM NOT ONE TO CHEAT!! Its as if I need him, but I know who is rite for me and it is the mature scorpio.
    0 THINK JUST WANT WHAT I KNOW I SHOULDNT HAVE.

  18. Author
    Ask Oracle May 22nd, 2011

    @cancer-girl-inlove (Sophya)

    I am not the girl that cheated on u in the past!!! I have done nothing but love respect and fuck u to death! I deserve more.

    This shows your first Scorpio bf lives his past in his present.

    it is sad for me to admit or actually say but I am in love with both these Scorpio men!

    This shows you are doing the same thing, living past in your present.

    Please don’t let the past steal your present. You can never have a stable future with such an attitude. All the best 🙂

  19. Cancer-Girl-inlove May 22nd, 2011

    I am a Cancer woman and my boyfriend of 2 years is a Scorpio. The intense Love making is unreal.. He is soo sexy.. He drives me crazy with his questions, and his constantly jelousy overwhelmes me… He can Be a bit distant at times.. But when he comes back from his “hibernation” the love is stronger then ever!!! I never get bored.. He makes me cry because when he feels hurt he wants to hurt me, but once he has and realizes that my heart hurts, he comes back and mends it to the point where im inlove all over again!!
    We Brake up for a week and get back together only to argue and make Ravishig almost savage like LOVE.. You can almost say our relationship is not healthy but if I am away from him Iam sick.. so Id rather be sick with him the sick apart.. He is my ALPHA and I am his omega.. He loves his mama so I know that when I become his wife He will treat me as he treats his mama. This match was made in heaven and sprinkled his Hells poison.. I Lust for him when he is away, and I push him away when he gets too close. Idk why? we play stupid childish games and in the end I end up crying like a spiled child, only because I know he will come to my rescue.. I now it sounds painfull and almost a bit masoquist. But I love to be stung buy scorpios tail. I cling to him as crab does. I give him enough praise and yet he gives me just enogh he is selfish, self ubsorbed but he keeps me on my toes and I secretly act more hurt by things then I realy am so that I can get him to spoil me more, hahahah I love him.

    I wrote this two years ago 🙁

  20. Cancer-Girl-inlove May 22nd, 2011

    I am updating this conversation, I wrote on here a long time ago about 2009 how extremely in love with this Scorpio man I was and how he made me go crazy with his jealousy and sexual behavior. everything abt him made me want to orgasm. The way he kissed me left me in an emotional rollercoaster of emotions that I never grew prepared for.
    He was my baby to say the least.
    His passion was mmm soo good.
    BUT a we broke up or better yet I BROKE UP WITH HIM, I wanted more and speaking for my fellow Cancerian lady’s I will say we want stability! tell me I’ll be the one u marry, I can’t give you (Scorpio man) 7 yrs. of my life and body and u lead me along with “good” intentions but I am not a puppet in ur show of emotions.
    I am not the girl that cheated on u in the past!!! I have done nothing but love respect and fuck u to death! I deserve more. And being the strong yet emotional cancer woman that I am I left him!!! Only to run into another older Scorpio man, the crazy thing about it is that I feel as I ran into my Love Scorpio all mature, he immediately wanted a relationship and in 11 months we were engaged, my young ex-boyfriend Scorpio still wants me back but he is sooo stubborn and doesn’t want to “chase” me that he is running out of time it is sad for me to admit or actually say but I am in love with both these Scorpio men! One is 27 and the other one is 30 and there are things of both that ud love to mash together to create the perfect Scorpio man! they are both SEXY, athletic, Party animals and yet love to stay home and cuddle, but the 27 yr. old is having fun in the sun, the 30yr old is ready to give me his life to dedicate it all to me.
    I am torn between to Scorpio men that I AM INLOVE WITH HELP
    !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  21. confused-xx April 30th, 2011

    it seems like confused cancer girl and rough make a nice match i must say;)

  22. hades April 15th, 2011

    Scorpio and Cancer never really break up because they can never really let go of each other. They miss each other so much and the bond they develop is strong and unbreakable. This is by far the best and worst relationship I have ever experienced. A Scorpio man responds to a Cancer woman on every level. He can touch the very core of her being. He IS her soulmate. In my situation, we are mirrors of each other, but timing is everything. It’s painful to part, but it is temporary and these two will always find a way back. I read once that Scorpio/Cancer should be, could be and would be soulmates as long as the timing is right. My Scorpio man is amazing and there is always someone interested in him and flattering him, but only a Cancer girl can satisfy his hunger. He knows this and is afraid of this because of his need to be in control and his big ego. If he strays, he will never forgive himself even if you find you can because he knows you won. You are in control, Cancer. He will fire ten thousand arrows through your heart to win you back for the next 5 years. My point? Scorpio and Cancer NEVER part. We are forever. There WILL be suffering and pain and hurt, but you will grow and learn from each other and truly love each other the way we were intended to. He will make you a better woman in the end and you will make him a better man. I never said it would be easy, just promised it would be worth it.

  23. joey April 8th, 2011

    i’m scorpio n i hv just dump by a cancer woman!!but i still very love her,how to get back with her?
    the article r so right..should read this earlier..

  24. HeartbrokenCancer April 5th, 2011

    I am a Cancer Girl. I got my heart caught up with a Scorpio Guy that I have been chatting with for 18 months online. Our intellectual communication expressed everything, included both verbal and non-verbal (hugging, cuddling, touching) cues of expression with no shame; The laughter was Great. When we met, He was KIND and Bashful and oh so nervous. We ONLY shared warm hugs and kisses. Needless to say, after we met, the words on the wall became more and more enjoyable that the next time couldn’t come fast enough. We both shared how much we adored each other and was hoping it would develop into something special…I do recall there were times he mention that he was afraid of me, he didn’t want to anyone to be hurt, and or suppose it didn’t work out… Then suddenly, within the last 4 months, he told me he did not want to discuss us being in a relationship, he just wanted to chat on IM as a friend. It hurt me, but, I agreed. Two months later, he ask me could we be “Friends with Benefits” (FWB). I said NO! No, I would not be a FWB or a booty call. He said he did not blame me. Then why the hell he ask me some crap like that? Hence, I did not understand why the change of wanting someone special to FWB. After that, he came back with something different almost every other week. Needless to say, WE CLASHED and His words were so hurtful. He said some mean things… all I could do was cry. We fought online from me not calling when I said I would to me not being available at a time that he wanted to meet… he sound so self-centered. His words were very hurtful and it became difficult emotionally to chat; therefore, I decided to focus on making my transitions positive… he then ask me why I was quite and I told him ‘I didn’t have much to say at the time and I needed to focus on business opportunities…’ He then went off on me saying that I only contacted him when convenient for me and then ignored him… This was so not true. Through the tears, I tried to explain the stress I was under, how chatting was becoming difficult, and I liked him so so much, but, I could not allow my heart to be a revolving door… I felt that we needed some space until we could sit down and talk heart to heart because there was another level for us when we were not hurting… After that, I had not heard from him for over a month… I tried reaching out to him several times, to keep the online friendship at least, but, this was to no avail… In fact, his only response was “You rebuffed me as though I were a trivial inconvenience when I tried to chat with you” and he was going to block all communication from me and that would make it easier for him… and he did “WTH”. I was totally taken aback by all this… With all my heart I tried to let him no that his statement(s) was not true. I REALLY FELL FOR HIM! Now, I am not sure he even cared.

    I know I need to be strong and move-on, but, I guess I miss our connection, before the Clash that is… and I do miss our many many conversations very much… Just would like to understand WHY and HOW the tables turned? How do I shake it all off? Are my tears because of a Scorpio Man’s head games or just miscommunication?

  25. Melissa March 24th, 2011

    I’ve been married to a Scorpio for over 3 years now, and I couldn’t be happier. Out of all of the relationships I’ve ever been in, he’s the only one that truly “gets” me. Very often, he will voice what I’m feeling without me having said a word. I have never been more in love than I am with my husband, and it only grows deeper the longer we’re together. Good luck to all of you who are still looking….

  26. ScorpioGuy March 19th, 2011

    @MoonPool Thank you for all the advice I feel as if it is very spot on. (She doesn’t like PDA of any kind). Also thank you for reading my very long winded entry above… God has helped me change myself drastically in the past months and I truly am a new man. I know I should be able to figure this out on my own but I was just wondering from a Cancer Woman what my next step would be as it’s been about a little over a month since we talked and I don’t want her to forget about me or think I’ve forgotten about her. I also don’t want to reach out to her prematurely and push her away.

  27. MoonPool March 17th, 2011

    @ScorpioGuy: Here are my two-cents worth that will hopefully give you some perspective on your predicament and 2 major things which you might need to consider. I hope this helps…

    1st: It’s quite obvious that the two of you are both experiencing a major transitional phase in your lives. You’re a number of months away from completing college (congratulations on that), while she just finished her education and is adjusting to her work. READ: Major S-T-R-E-S-S. Knowing this, it is especially difficult for her to operate on an even keel with her work life and having your romantic history in the back of her head (at almost all times, I’m pretty sure). Since she has asked for space, use the time, no matter how tortuous for you, to work on yourself and your inner stability. I do applaud your self-awareness and your candor in admitting that a healthy measure of “professional jealousy” was the root of your resentment and arguments w/ her. You were enlightened enough to see that your dissatisfaction with your own situation made you behave destructively and now that you are completely impelled to make yourself a better man, give yourself a pat on the back and plod on. It is hugely important for you to transform your tendency to be competitive, jealous, or insecure into a more positive and creative energy. Think of your relationship with her as a relationship of MUTUAL SHARED EXCELLENCE. Your journey together isn’t meant to be a kind of competition but one that nurtures the best in each other, providing a fertile environment for continual growth. If you are insecure, she will immediately pick up on it and it will underscore the volatility of your relationship in her head. VERY BAD thing for a security-craving cancer.

    2nd: On the more emotional layer of things, (and this is the one major thing that affects every subconsciously motivated feeling she has for you), she is not bound to easily forget (or forgive) that time she heard your machismo rant about hypothetically hooking up with another girl. Bear in mind that this incident has an added insult to her: the ranting happened in the presence of your friend with whom she is at odds. As a cancer woman who dated a Sagit on-off for 6 years. I have first hand experience with being at odds with the “morally-questionable buddy” of my ex – an Acquarian BTW. The buddy tried to set up my ex (while we were together, mind you) with some skank. Knowing that my ex remained friends with such a deplorable influence constantly made me question the quality of discernment and judgment (or the apparent lack thereof) of my Sagit ex. Being a typical cancer woman, I value fidelity and loyalty very much. Trust me, even if she doesn’t mention that painful incident, it is SEARED into her mind and she will constantly second-guess the quality and strength of your love-connection in some way.

    Knowing these things, its time for the pragmatic part. You’re obviously out to prove to her that her bruised heart can (and in fact will always have) a safe home with you. She said she wants space so you’re just gonna have to find a creative way to strike a balance between not smothering her with romantic gestures for all her office mates to see and yet still making your presence felt. (Personally, I’m not too fond of ostentatious displays of anything. I’m incredibly private about my sentiments and the best way to get to my heart is to find thoughtful and still discreet ways to tell me you are ‘present’ to me, that your thoughts and sentiments are with me despite the seeming distance.) So there you have it, exercise your creative muscle and persuade her with your gentle yet unrelenting persistence. Don’t lose your momentum or she’ll think you’ve lost interest altogether. Timing is also key. If your psychic sense tells you she has a lot on her plate, don’t emotionally inundate her. Once you’ve proven to her and YOURSELF that you are indeed a stable, mature, accomplished, confident, loyal, loving guy who’s ready to commit and emotionally and pragmatically provide for the long haul, I see no reason why things wouldn’t work out for you guys. There’s obviously a lot of love between the two of you. Good luck and keep the faith!

  28. yazzman March 17th, 2011

    Well, we started out ok but in less then a month we fell apart. We are however, are trying to work it out. I’m realy wanna be back with him(we have alot in common).

  29. cancerian grl March 17th, 2011

    this z so true abt me n ma love….. :DDDDDDD
    i love him soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much <3

  30. zamiz March 17th, 2011

    i m a scorpio n i love a cancer gal . she iz my everything 😀 , the article above iz sooooooooooooooooooooo true . i love her more then any1 . i can die for her <3

  31. please don't fall out moon March 16th, 2011

    to cancer-scorpio who wrote on march 16th
    as a cancer girl i say :
    Stay a wwway Please dont break up someone else’s marrige/ dont get infolved in that, no matter how much you feel about them.. trust.. you will find someone that will be just for you only to love & drive crazzzzzy- respect that please.
    not trying to be mean by the way i know that as a cancer woman it is very rare that we get intrested, crazy or swooon about someone 🙂 good luck

  32. sensual cancer March 16th, 2011

    Is a cancer women-scorpio man a better match. OR is virgo women-scorpio man a better match. I do not know the time of their birth so I can only base this on the sun sign.

  33. cancer-scorpio March 16th, 2011

    it cut me off so i am carrying on, from the comment above. He is married to a virgo, i almost feel un-cancer like breaking those two part. With that reason itself i pull away from him. But we just cant stop feeling that magnetic pull, and i am sure he feels it too. We cant understand this. HELP HELP HELP.

    – Karen Jhones

    • Sierra May 21st, 2019

      To be honest. He doesn’t loves you. Its just their nature to be like that. Ask him if want to assure. His wife is virgo and its impossible to break these two scorpio-virgo apart. Wleven if he leaves her for you. He will go back to her again. Because their bond is that strong and intense. If you don’t believe me ask him if he loves you. He will definitely reject you and i wish he really does that.

  34. cancer-scorpio March 16th, 2011

    I am in love with a scorpio, I am a cancer. I fell in love with him by just eye contact. Just staring into his eyes was making me tremble. I finally found out he was a dear scorpio and it suddenly explained all my feelings towards him.

    But he is so jolly and friendly with me, but then when were alone were so quiet we do not know what to say, SOME ONE HELP US OUT.

    .. we both know something draws us together, and yet we say zip! when we are together, it almost makes me scrreaaam in frusteration. Someone help me start a conversation with this scorpio.

    We rarely see one another now, because of our very different lives. He is

  35. moonmaiden March 13th, 2011

    okay, i read through the whole of this conversation, and its helped to know how most of you have gone through with a relationship with scorpios… i’m a cancer girl who is presently hugely attracted to a scorpio male,
    i just broke off a relationship with a capricorn man, (he was controlling me too much. )so in the course of my relationship with this capricorn, the scorpio man watched on burning jealously (i was aware)and snapping at me occasionally,
    but now that the end has come to that relationship and i’m single, and not unwilling to accept my attraction for him, and he is around and its wonderful, the conversation, the intensity , the comfort, everything is interesting but my intuition tells me somehow that we’ll both get hurt if we get involved, i feel like i’ll burn my fingers, (this is probably a hang up because i just went through a break and you know how we all go through hate the world phases.)
    my scorpio guy and i have discussed this a little, and its comforting to know that he feels the same way but he doesnt want to let go , he wants to enjoy what we have.
    but some how my inherent security issues wonder whether its okay that we dont name this emotion, will it just be a gig for him, like a passing fancy?
    i know they are wickedly passionate and i want to know how real his affections are and whether it will last, do you think this needs a longer time?

  36. please don't fall out moon March 7th, 2011

    wow the discription says it all , can’t believe that so many people comments feel the way i do

  37. lujain March 6th, 2011

    to mark :
    as a cancer woman 22-7-1989 i will answer you ( what i think and do if that was me ^-^ and it is similar to her) ok age diff does not matter as long as you are mature – her reactions : first of all as a cancer woman we usualy ignore or try not think that every move a guy does for as in a romantic way ( he is just trying to be friendly at first) even if we realy like you we wont give our selfs for you easly( > i can handel the boys i dont like and say Nooo but the ones i want to get to know them i get shy>e.g : ask me out first time i will get scared and think to my self what to do, what to say..Dont suprise me..Take things easly ..be my friend first talk to me ..etc so if i then realize that i like you or not then i will think ok how would i respond if he ask me out(as a scorpio it is easier to you b/c you are the Yes No people >> we find that very attractive – as i cancer woman we are the i dont know , maybe type untell i get my mind setup about you >then you will be mine for ever and cant see no one else beside you
    valentine + msgz : if she has a boyfriend she wont give you a chance even if her relationship had some trouble (we are very loyal, we wont cheat or leave on our partners even if things were bad) but if not then she is trying Not to think much of it thinking your being nice to her even if she was intrested in you ( we dont realize how we feel about you at first ..it takes time to makeup our minds-maybe she likes you and doesnt know it her self yet so take it easy) and not reacting to msgz as a said before she is trying Not to like you untill she realize that she likes you ( and that my friend is the female cancer mind ^-^)
    or maybe she is busy : for me if i had alot on my mind you will find me not answering calls or msgs untill i’m done – i need to focus on this then deal with the msgs later
    ADVISE: keep on going strong( dont let go ), show her that you’re intrested in her Not how she looks(that why we dont let ppl in we want someone that likes us for us /as a scorpio you realy dont need help in geting her intrested in you ,just being your self & that will do it for you
    sorry that was long + spelling(eng not my native lang) , its my first comment , i was like why ppl arent helping each other ,where are the replayz???
    thank you

  38. SCORPIONSTING March 5th, 2011

    IM N LOVE WITH A CANCER GIRL.BUT IM HAVING TROUBLE TELLN HER AS SHE REJECTED ME ONCE.AND ONCE BITTEN?BUT THE INTENSITY IN EACH OTHER IS THERE STILL VERY STRONG I CAN ALMOST READ HER MIND AN CAN FEEL HER LOVE FOR ME.CONFUSED

  39. ScorpioGuy March 3rd, 2011

    So this might be a little lengthy so please have patience. I need advice…

    The first time I met my Cancer girl I was working as a store manager at a retail store and when she walked into my store immediately fireworks went off in my head. She was absolutely amazing there was something about her that was just unexplainable also a little stuck up I felt. She was best friends with one of my employee’s Girlfriend. So I asked him about her here and there and wouldn’t really get much out of him besides her being really cool. I thought about her but didn’t want to seem like a creeper so I wouldn’t share a lot of my thought with him (also I didn’t even know her). Then one day in November me and my employee planned a hang out time so I could get to meet her. When we met that night I knew there was something special about her and I just wanted to know more.
    We started dating and everything was really great. I never loved anyone the way that I love her and I know I will never love anyone else. Well here’s where the story comes to a point. We would fight but it was something that we always got passed as we both love each other a lot, sometimes the fighting would be unbearable but we endured because everything else was amazing.
    after almost 2 years of dating I had started a new job which was very stressful and it started to affect my relationship happiness. After I would get out of work and go see her I would take my stress out on her and I would hate myself for this. The stress had me wound very tight.
    And one day I was talking to a buddy of mine venting about my relationship woes and having a few beers just to relax. One thing lead to another and the conversation steered to a more sexual conversation and told me I should have sex with someone else and forget about her (my friend and my CancerGF never got along). Just for the sake of talking shit I agreed and started boasting that i could fuck this girl from my new job to impress my buddy (she actually wasn’t good looking and she was an old lady but it was the first name that popped in my head) that I dont need to be controlled yada yada and kept listing all her issues (Shouldn’t throw stones in glass houses). Which the issues that she had didn’t really bother me I was more upset/disappointed in myself and jealous of her accomplishments.
    Well the next thing i know she calls me and the true scorpio I am didnt pick up because I was still upset and didnt want to take it out on her.
    After she called a few more times and texted I called back knowing it was something urgent.
    Well it was very urgent, my phone had pocket dialed her and she heard everything I had said. She was fuming pissed yelling at me at the top fo my lungs, I didnt know what to say i shut down. I felt as if i had just lost the love of my life because of trying to be a “macho man”. She thought I had/was going to cheat on her (which I never would do she’s the sexiest girl ever, our sex life was great and I’m a very loyal person I love her.)
    Well she yelled then hung up and I gave her time to cool off.
    The next day after work I called her and we talked I explained it wasn’t my true feelings and that i was being a stupid person caught up in the moment. She forgave me and I told her I just needed time, I didn’t want to have anger or resentment towards her. I told her I’d call her the next day and that I Love Her. Well the next day came and I had a lot of time to reflect.
    I didn’t feel worthy of her anymore there was a lot of things that I needed to change about my life to truly make her a happy person. And at times during our relationship I was lazy and unemployed (I was confused about the direction of my life and this caused me to spiral down into laziness). She had held a lot of resentment towards me for getting into that spot in the middle of our relationship. And in this time that I had to reflect I began to resent myself.
    I thought that she deserved a better man and I could never truly live up to her expectations.
    I also loved her and wanted to be with her forever so I was torn. After a week and a half I finally called her… I was expecting to talk to my girlfriend who I love and missed like crazy and wanted to change my life to be the man that not only she wanted and said she knew I could be but also the man I wanted to be. (A True Man not a Man Child as I was).
    Well she broke the news that she had been telling everyone we broke up and that i was her Ex boyfriend. So that was official it broke my heart as I’m sure me not talking to her for that long broke hers. Well after about 2 weeks she let me take her out on a date and we were talking again dating her and there. I was inspired to be a better man then I was before, I was fulltime working and back in college fulltime trying to finish up and get my degree and make a career for myself. Well after about 3 months of this quasi-relationship she told me that we needed to stop talking for a while and she needed to work on herself.
    After about a month she called me again (I was waiting for it) and we met up and the sparks were there all over again. Well this lasted for about a month or so until she broke it off again saying we needed to not talk for a while.
    Well another month went by and I finally broke I wrote her a poem love poem and sent her flowers on January 14th with a card asking her to be my valentine. The day she received the flowers at her job she liked them but told me no to the valentine’s day and said the poem was “nice”.
    The next day she called me and confessed to me that she hadn’t read the poem until just now. And that it was beautiful and she loved it. She also told me not to send her flowers again to her job as we weren’t in a relationship. Well I had already paid for another shipment of red roses online for valentine’s day and when she said this I thought about telling her but I had her talkign to em again atleast and I didn’t want to ruin it. So everything was status quo again we were friend talking then we met up and the sparks really began to fly one thing lead to another and you know. One day when we were talking she told me some days she doesn’t feel beautiful. (She’s gorgeous) So I decided that I’d start texting her early every morning to have an amazing day and that she was the prettiest girl in the world. Well the weekend before Valentine’s day she hadn’t called me (I was trying to give her the space didn’t want to smoother her). We then on that sunday I cracked and called her. She began to say that she was rethinking us talking because of the text. They were too much for her emotionally to deal with everyday before she went to work so I agreed to stop sending the text. So the next day is valentine’s day and i didn’t send the morning text out of respect (Even though i wanted to). Plus I knew she’d be getting the flowers anyways.
    So I get to work and get a call from her, she was mad that I sent her flowers because she had asked for me to not send anything and I didn’t listen. Then she started to get mad that I never listen and that was my problem. I told her I had paid for them a month earlier when I sent the other flowers and I couldnt get my money back, which she didnt believe, she thought I sent them days earlier. She ended up hanging the phoen up on me and I felt terrible. I texted her to apologize and told her to throw the flowers out if she didn’t want them. She told me she was sorry and that the flowers were beautiful and thank you. Well that night when I got home from work at almost midnight she called me. She had come to the conclusion that we shouldn’t talk anymore because I wanted to be with her and she didn’t know what she wanted. We talked for a bit and I told her something that I’ll only ever love her and I’d always want to be with her. And As She hung up the phone she said I Love you.
    Well we’re into March now and We haven’t talked I’m trying to respect the space she wants I don’t want to push her away and lose her forever.
    But I also don’t want to lose her forever to another guy. She’s truly an amazing woman she’s about 2 1/2 years younger than me and I’m 25.
    She was the only person I’ve ever talked to about spending the rest of my life with because she’s fantastic she’s motivated in life and is very driven. She graduated College Early and landed a great job which she started in the week and 1/2 when I didnt call her. I’ve learned a lot from her and I’m very motivated now in my own life I’m on a great path and I’m going to have a great career when I graduate in the next 8 months. I have a lot more to offer her now besides my love and I know a lot of our fighting started because of my own jealousy, i wasn’t hapy with my place in life and was jealous of how well she was doing.
    I’ve come to many realizations in this time that I’ve had alone. I really don’t want to be with anyone else except her and usually I’m quick to get over a break up. But the more time that goes by the more i realize that I truly love her and wanted to be with her and that she truly loved me the way I wanted to be loved. So I guess my only question is for the Cancer Women out there what do I Do? How can I get her to truly give me another chance? Will she ever take me back? And I don’t actually mean back, because I believe we could have a better relationship then we ever had before. I know I can truly make her happy and the things we faught about are truly in the past because I’ve conquered my personal demons that dragged me and my relationship down.
    Any advice our opinions on what she’s thinking would be very helpful. I really miss her a lot and it’s hard to not call her and to respect her wishes. Is giving her space the right thing? Is there anything i can do to get her back? the more time that goes by the more I think about her. i have dreams about her every night and when i wake up she’s the first thing on my mind. Please help any advice would be great.

    • Cancerous March 31st, 2022

      This broke my heart. As a cancer girl I can only speak for myself, show her this message. It was well articulated and mature. If there is still love there I’m sure all will be forgotten and forgiven. If not we’ll her loss.

  40. Seventeenth July 1990 March 3rd, 2011

    I’m a 20 year old cancer woman. I became aware of this Scorpio man (turned 22 last October) last January – I was grieving at the time and in the midst of this I saw this absolutely gorgeous man (when I first saw him I thought he was beautiful). I saw him around, and then he started dating a friend of mine (a female Virgo) for a few months, and then a month or so later (September time) he started dating another girl. They have been dating ever since. I can’t get him out of my head, and don’t know what to do. He just has this quality about him that is mesmerizing, I’ve never felt this was about anyone before. Help!

  41. Krys March 2nd, 2011

    I’m a Cancer woman that recently met a Scorpio man. I have never in my life felt more at ease with someone so fast. I couldn’t describe it, every relationship I’ve been in I have been distant, disconnected and always felt something was wrong or missing. This feeling of comfort was discribed to a T. I want to be around him and show him how much I care, im not distant. Even when I’m angry, im a loud angry, yelling person, i cant even yell at him we calmly discuss the issue and resolve it. and in cleanest of terms our bedroom life is the most passionate i have ever come upon. I’m so happy and hope it last. It’s comforting to know it was written in the stars for me to be this happy.

  42. Ninth of Eleven February 25th, 2011

    hmm. I’m 16 and am about to get into this relationship with the freshman in my highschool, and she’s a Cancer. We click like a seat belt. There are moments of silence, but we always find something else to talk about. Its ridiculous, but in a good way. I want her to admit how she feels about me before I ask her to be mines, but its a lengthly process. And for Capricious Cancer, your relationship is going to the dogs. There will be nothing left of you if you don’t get out now. And don’t be afraid to express yourself. Why don’t you try getting mad when he tells you something, then maybe next time he’ll pay attention. Don’t get stung though. Ask anyone.

  43. Capricious Cancer February 25th, 2011

    I wrote on here a while ago, about how things aren’t too good with my Scorpio partner. We have not been together for almost a year and things have not changed. We constantly argue. I feel he doesnt do much for me and I do so much for him, I feel like he’s taken me for granted and if I try to explain this to him he gets hurts, shuts down and there goes our conversation for the night. Our fights don’t last one day though, they linger for days… I feel we are more ‘friends with benefits’ then in a relationship. I think he treats some of his friends that are girls better then he treats me, always helping them out and giving them advice. I’ve always looked up to him and how smart he is and I’m always interested in what he has to say, but he doesnt want to say much to me. I’ve tried telling him all of this in a calm way, but somehow he blows this out of proportion and we fight. I’m almost scared to express myself with him. What to do? Anyone in a similar dying relationship that has some advice?

  44. Mark February 20th, 2011

    I am a scorpio man, in love with a cancer woman she is 7years older than me does is there anybody who has dealing with? I only had sent her on valentine a present to her office and she liked it she send me a msg, but now i don’t know if she is single or taken. After that i called her, we had a small chat. That’s sit now i want to go the next step. In the weekend i sent her a msg, and she didn’t react on it…why is she busy(i have read the msg before but is that true if she has bf she will not reply me) okay just for the record she also just moved in a new aptment,
    that could also be a factor?
    just need some advice

  45. Joey B February 14th, 2011

    actually Pieces is probably a better choice for a Scorpio. However a Cancer is still a great choice as well. and both are pretty much equal. I’m a Scorpio and right now really care about a Cancer.

  46. wen February 11th, 2011

    Im a cancer girl, My scorpio told me I scare him. What is that?????
    We have ben talking for 7 months, and no sex. Im 34 and he is 59???

  47. Nina February 11th, 2011

    I’m a 21-year-old Cancer girl. I met my 22-year-old Scorpio guy a year ago, but at that time I had a boyfriend. Ever since the day I met that guy, he told me he wants to be with me, and he didn’t care I had a boyfriend. My boyfriend wanted to brake up with me, so he did. I’ve been hanging out with the new guy for 6 months, but told him I don’t want to be with him. I was torturing him for so long. He told me he had one night stands a few times, but he also told me that he was done with that and that he wants a girlfriend and a real relationship. In June, for my birthday, we went to a cinema and after that to a club. On our way I met my ex boyfriend, I talked with him and he told me he was stupid, that I was such a nice girl and that he wants to be with me again, but I didn’t want that. After that conversation I didn’t know what to think, and although I told this Scorpio guy I don’t want to be with him, we were looking at each other and he just kissed me. I was so confused, but also happy at the same time. That was the beggining of our relationship. I began to like him so much. During the summer, I’ve been working for 2 months, every day 7am-12am and 7pm-10pm, and I didn’t have much time, so I tried to see him 2 times a week, which he didn’t like. Every Thursday after work I went at his home because he didn’t want to go out, and I would come home at 4am, sleep for 2 hours and then go back to work, and that was very exhausting. The whole time we were joking with each other and touching and flirting, but sometimes I had a feeling he didn’t apreciate what I was doing just to see him. The problem with him is that he smokes weed every day and I don’t like that at all. We were fighting because he told me he wont quit so soon, so I had to accept that because I didn’t want to lose him. Another problem which he didn’t like is that I didn’t tell my parents about this relationship because I know they would say that I can find a better guy, and it wasn’t that serious at that time. I’m very shy and insecure, and that’s why I’ve never talked with my parents about anything except school. Today, I still have problems with self confidence because I don’t think I’m pretty and smart as others say, everyone else is better than me, and all because of some guys in primary school who have been torturing me for 2 years. I was scared of guys and I didn’t even talk with them. Anyway, in August I got mononucleosis and we haven’t seen each other for a month, and we had a little fight, but nothing serious. In September I started college (in another town), and he knew we were going to see each other only on weekends. After 5 months of relationship, in November, he broke up with me saying he was disappointed in me in almost everything. We didn’t have sex (I’m still a virgin), only oral, and I was surprised with myself because normally I wouldn’t do that if I’m not sure he loves me. He wanted sex, and so did I, but I started thinking that was the only thing he wanted. I didn’t trust him enough as I wanted. It’s been 3 months since I last saw him, he told me he didn’t want to see me or be with me again because it wouldn’t be the same again. I somehow know he was doing that just to forget me, even though he didn’t want that. Last week I saw some girl on Facebook and she is now in relationship with him, and I just can’t get over him. I cry 3 to 4 times a week, I’m always in a bad mood and I miss him soooooooo much. But I guess it’s over and I wont see him for the next couple of months because he doesn’t go out, and I can’t send him a message. He has a girlfriend now, and it’s not me… (sorry for my bad English) 🙂

  48. Jesse January 19th, 2011

    As a Scorpio male,I was a jelous fool till I learned to rise from the Scorpion to the Eagle. It is hard sometimes to stay on that plain, but it is well worth it in all my life dealings.

  49. another cancer girl January 18th, 2011

    Bittwersweet Love:
    thanks so much for the feedback! it feels great to talk to someone who knows where I am coming from. Crazy that you say your ex Libra was too clingy because i had the same problem. I also have the problem with my scorpio’s job as well. He works on barges and he’s gone on the boat for weeks at a time, and he’s away now so that’s what makes is so hard and confusing about where we stand. Im taking your advice and making subtle moves and he has responded so I am hoping for the best. He comes home in about a week or so. I’ll know when I see him if things are going to move forward a little. I will keep you updated ! Thanks so much for talking (:

    As for your Scorpio, I really hope things work out between the two of you. It’s hard to deal with when work is their life but I believe if he calls you every day to chit chat it seems to me he cares . I’m hoping things will eventually move forward. Ive just never liked someone who’s been this subtle before, so I really know where you’re coming from.

    I’ll be wishing for the best!

  50. cancercrabgirl January 16th, 2011

    I have never felt so loved in my whole life . I have never been faithful in a relationship (think his jealousy makes me feel secure) but now I’m with a Scorpio I have found my soul mate we argue but i feel so connected to him in every single way i feel like i can tell what he’s thinking infact I can . love my scorpio xxx

  51. scorpio January 15th, 2011

    Hi BitterSweet Love I read your article and I think that you should do is look natural and try to show him your natural sense of humor because the Scorpio man loves a sense of humor in cancer girl Believe me

    I wish you the best of luck
    keep me posted on how things work out

  52. BitterSweet Love January 15th, 2011

    another cancer girl:
    Thanks for the post. I was just reading what you wrote about your guy and it’s funny because my ex is a Libra as well and I met the Scorpio as a result of that relationship lol. My Scorpio is just always so busy and I don’t know how to deal with it. He told me before what he was looking for, basically someone to love and pamper who will understand he is success-driven and works much harder than he plays. Nothing has happened since my last post because of this and I fear my impatience is getting the best of me. We’ll see what happens and though I’m not giving u hope, I do feel myself slowly backing away from him. At least we will remain friends if nothing more comes out of this.
    Anyway, I just wanted to tell you ACG that I think you should find the courage and make the first move. Give him the opportunity to show you how he feels. He probably will in his own subtle way, as mine has. I know we sometimes want for the person to just bluntly show it or say it but I think Scorpios may be like Cancer in that we do not truly show how we feel until we are sure where things are going and how the other person feels. At the same time, don’t smother him or be too intense as this may scare him away, the same way we run away when someone smothers us too much (my problem with my Libra ex). My Scorpio, for example, loves to get really close to me or hug me or call me every day to chit chat. I would rather he be less subtle but I’m trying to understand his actions. My point is that he’ll show you how he feels in his own way and though you may feel the urge to question everything (as I do), don’t. Just take things as they come and if he truly likes you and wants to be with you, you will feel it. You just have to learn to read him. Keep me updated on how things go and I will do the same 🙂

  53. another cancer girl January 12th, 2011

    BitterSweet Love:
    I wish i could tell you some good advise, but honestly im going through the same thing with my Scorpio. Its hard for me too because ive never been interested in a scorpio before. I guess I just wanted to let you know its not just you, haha i’m dealing with the same exact thing. Its really frustrating because it’s hard for me to make the first move as it is. I have the same problem with not wanting to move on as well, the more he’s shy or distant the more i want him. keep me posted on how things work out(:

  54. BitterSweet Love January 11th, 2011

    I’m a female cancer interested in a scorpio male. Basically we met about 6 months ago but barely spoke to each other, mainly because he is too shy and didn’t want to get rejected. Our mutual friends told me he was interested and I initiated conversations with him to give him a chance to ask me out. We’ve been out a few time but he’s too shy to make a move. His friends keep telling me to make a move to build up his confidence a bit but I can’t help but want him to show me affection and that he wants me rather than me having to act like a guy and always making the first move in everything. He’s been getting a little better at contacting me first, asking me out and showing affection but still he isn’t forward enough and it’s driving me a bit crazy. The more time that passes without him directly showing me affection, the more I want him. Does that even make sense? He’s not my type and I wouldn’t in a million years expect myself to be into someone like him but for some reason, I want to be with him more and more each day. I do want him to show me some affection and interest. I am a cancer after all and I need to feel loved and cared for or I move on, but something stops me from moving on when it comes to him. I know he likes me since he’s told me he does but why wont he just make a move? I’ve even told him that he wouldn’t be rejected if he did yet something stops him from showing me how he really feels in person. I know he has trusting issues and my behavior in the beginning didn’t help since I basically acted like I was into him for his money, which was not the case, but I’ve had bad experiences with my ex’s always having me pay for everything and wanted this to be different. I’ve changed my behavior since I realized he’s so different from everyone I’ve ever been with and I do really want things to work out. If someone can just tell me how to gain his trust and have him open up a bit to me and act like he wants me by making the first move instead of just using words, which in my book mean nothing since you can say a million things and mean none of them. I would appreciate any insight. I’ve never been interested in any other scorpio or anyone else like him and this is all new to me. Thanks 🙂

  55. another cancer girl January 5th, 2011

    Hello everyone,
    I’m yet another cancer girl crazy about a scorpio man. We actually just met a few weeks ago but I have this crazy, undescribable connection that I’ve never felt with anyone. As strange as it is, I met him through my ex who happens to be a Libra. As much as I thought I “loved” my ex libra, when i compare the two connections i realize how mistaken I truely was. Its crazy how much I can relate to how accurate this article is. Anyways, I have a dilema. We’ve been talking for awhile and had an amazing night together recently. No sex, almost sex but i felt like i had to take it slower because i can see myself with this man for a long time. I’m pretty sure he feels the same but i feel as if neither one of us knows how to communicate verbally. Which for me being the cancer woman, makes me question just about everything! ‘does he like me?’ ‘does he just want sex?’ ‘i know i shouldn’t get attached yet but i can’t help it!’ ‘maybe i should keep my distance and wait for him to come to me’ haha as im sure all cancer women know exactly what im saying. so how am i supposed to approach this, since its so new ? any input would do amazing things to ease my troubled mind right now.

    thanks (:

  56. peaceandlovexo December 31st, 2010

    It’s so interesting how this stuff is true, even though a part of me doesn’t want to believe it. In my experience, when I met my ex, we fell for eachother instantly as many as you have said. It was really intense, I was very weary but he wanted to be exclusive right away. We had an instant connection and felt very comfortable with eachother physically and emotionally. But I knew he was hiding something, scorpoios are very passionate but very secrective. Also, its almost like, they wear themselves out from being so intense, investing all their energy at once and then its almost like its nothing at all. I felt loved beyond measure when we were together but at other times, he wouldn’t talk to me for days which left me feeling scared and insecure.

    Very confusing but the connection was so great, hard to let go. They also dont like confrontation and the minute something goes wrong they run and dont want to resolve anything. Abrubt endings are common with scorpios bc they want to start over ; but bc so many relationships are left without closure, he may be forever unfullfilled. The cancer woman is left sad and hoping to move on but can never forget what they had, good and bad.

  57. Confused Cancer December 23rd, 2010

    Im a cancer woman…falling for a Scorpio man. I barely know him & have only been around him a few times-the last time we were together we kissed-since then I havent been able to get him out of my mind :/ Im 28-hes 22…Does this matter??
    Hes told me he is interested and the signs were good…but Ive not seen him since, although I am told he likes me and we have exchanged a few text, msgs etc. His friends say he is shy…Im just confused, I can honestly say Ive not been this crazy over someone who I barely know ever before…I feel a connection, when I look at him I actually swoon-Im sure hearts come out of my eyes lol. This is sending me mad. What do I do??? HELP!!

  58. DMay December 21st, 2010

    I am a Cancer Woman in love with a Scorpio Man. Though it has only been a couple of months, I am so in love with him. As some of you said before… like a magnetic attraction. I feel like he is my forever, and like i read before “my true soul mate”. I have never ever felt like this before about anyone. I hope to grow old with my scorpio…. A Match Made in Heaven!

  59. goldilocks December 17th, 2010

    i can’t believe it took me this long in life to meet a scorpio guy. i met this dude on a trip a month ago. we went out after that, got drunk and went back to his place. mind u, i’ve never ever had a one-night stand in my life and i was shocked to note that he routinely has one night stands. i was disappointed, cos i really liked him and i tot he won’t call me back ever again. funnily enough we went on more dates, movies and dinners and talked endlessly and staring at each other. I also cooked for him which i realised he likes a lot. i’ve never felt like this before in my life – such intensity and passion! and this week, he CLAMMED up on me! he didn’t call when he said he would, he sent me very short emails about being grumpy and he apologised for being grumpy and promised to talk to me soon. 5 days and i still haven’t received that “call”. i don’t know what to do. i even cooked soup for him a couple of days ago cos he was sick but he didn’t even want to come and see me to get it. what a BABY!!! he just said he’s grumpy and that was it.

    i really miss him and i am CONSTANTLY fighting the urge to pick up the phone and call him and miss his strong arms. :-((((((((((((

  60. Gidget December 15th, 2010

    I have never been more confused by a man, he sucks me in and spits me out and at this point I seriously don’t know what he wants from me. Of course I’m too scared of rejection to just ask, he is driving me insane… moving on best of luck to everyone.

  61. Crabs+scorpions=love December 13th, 2010

    I met my scorpio on campus in the middle of this past September. He was walking out of a classroom I was about to enter, we immediately made eye contact and my heart melted. The eyes on this man could melt the ice off pluto! I attempted to forget about him but he was in my head the entire week!! IRONICALLY 5 days later, I walk into work (Target) and I’m assigned to be his trainer (the odds of that still blow my mind today)! We connected immediately and had no problem establishing a very friendly (yet hints of flirtation) conversation. Days went by and as we would pass each other in the hall way we’d have a normal confrontation like with any friend (but deep inside I had so much fire in my heart for him which I thought was soooo silly and immature for someone I hardly knew). I was confident that I could score a date with him until one day when I decided to do a little research on his facebook page (the one time I decide to creep on someone it gets me in trouble) I realized he was in a secret relationship with a seventeen year old girl! I was soooo heart broken (so silly for someone I barely knew!) A week later, I was just about through with the heart ache and moving on to another interest (just desperate for a distraction really) until a friend told me he changed his relationship status on facebook to single. I was overjoyed and felt I could speak with him again. I made the first move (so impatient) and told him we needed to hang out sometime. He agreed and invited me to study with him. SUCH A SAFE MOVE! I saw it totally as him putting me in the friend zone but maybe wanting to get to know me more. A few days later he asked me on a legit date! Paid for my food and everything! Following that, the next week he asked me to a concert with him and introduced me to his friends. We’ve been together for only a month and I’ve never felt so much passion for a man in my entire life. Me being so picky, have never been interested in starting a serious relationship with anyone before him because of his complex nature. I love everything about him including his flaws. On the outside he’s so cool, calm, and collected but his core is co fiery with passion. No one has ever given me butterflies this intense before! It would truly kill part of my soul if our relationship went up in flames. All in all I think it’s true! Scorpios and cancers make a hot couple!

  62. scorpio man December 3rd, 2010

    yes you’re right (VERY TRUE CANCERIAN) first i was in a relationship with a cancer woman ot was good but then we broke up for some problems , now i’m in a relationship wtih a pisces woman it’s more than wonderful it’s really fantastic , i really can’t do anything without feeling that she’s by my side & supporting me . i really love her & adore her a lot , she undrestands what i want to say without speaking , she’s very very feminine & very good listener . i love her.

  63. a very true cancerian December 3rd, 2010

    your comment is really great dark lord scorpio you express yourself in a very good way . you said that your feelings were destroyed by libra & aries that’s because they doesn’t match with you . if you are searching for the perfect match of course any of water signs will match . ecspecially pisces woman , my sister is a pisces & her husband is a scorpio i can’t explain how they are happy & love each other , before their marriage they were about to die to marry each other & their love is not just an ordinary one ,sometimes i feel that i’m watching romeo & juliet , they adore each other so i advice you to search for a pisces woman .

  64. Cancer 4th july December 2nd, 2010

    Amazing comments..
    “dark Lord Scorpio” meet a cancer girl… she will help you to be reborn… you have no idea.. how your true personality, charm and magnetism will return when u r with a cancy girl.

    cancer is the receiving partner… she will get dominated, ruled and dazzled by you and receive all joys you want to give any women, easy to please woman and low on maintenance. She admits SHe’s not perfect and almost NO ego issues.

    Im a sex slave for my scorp guy.. and he says he needs my warmth only. the heat and passion i reciprocate is so perfect for him (god’s grace) he yearns for me.

  65. Dark lord scorpio November 20th, 2010

    Very interesting article and more so the comments from everyone. I forgot the emotional intensity that exists in the world!

    As a male scorpio I found it very difficult to accept any form of weakness and so denied my feelings ever since they were destroyed so horribly by a libra and an Aries girl. Ever since then I’ve tended to ignore feelings and just exist knowing that it is almost impossible for anyone to be able to understand the real depths of emotions that exist buried inside me.

    The last ten years I have been with either leos, Aries or Aquarius (I stopped seeing libra girls a long time ago as they are a complete disaster to be with).

    Yet now when I read this article and everyone’s comments I realise that people do have more depths to them and it is just that I am seeking the wrong things and meeting the wrong type of people.

    It was almost like reading a part of myself as daft as that sounds when reading the comments.

    My conclusion is that some signs can exist with shallow feelings and the constant need to get attention and mess about forever.

    It seems from what I have read that I should start looking for a compatible cancerian woman to experience more from life than this current stagnation.

    Currently I feel like that line in Suddenly last summer when M Clift says: ‘I’m afraid I would make a terrible court jester. You see I get concerned when people stop wanting to cry’

  66. Gidget November 2nd, 2010

    So I am a 30 yr. old cancer and I just met my first scorpio man, he is only 26 but don’t feel a age difference at all. Wow is all I can say, I’m obsessed all I can think about is him and I’m not usually like that.Actually he just called while reading this website I am very excited to see where this goes and we haven’t even kissed yet. He has certainly done the pursuing so I don’t see him being distant. Best of luck to everyone!!!

  67. phil_babe October 15th, 2010

    hi everyone.. I am a cancer woman June 25th and i have a boyfriend Scorpio man November 16th were very compatible and we love each other. We are going to 3 years next year. Even we far from each other but we still keep our relationship stronger and on fire always. My advice dont demand to scorpio they dont like that. Just love them as they are the only guy in your life. Dont be controlling coz they always want in control. Give him lots of support always tell him that you love him. he love that. We do also experience not to talk for 11 months but during that time we dont talk i am longing for him and he feel the same. I can say we are soulmate. And i love him so much. Were still together and we have a very great relationship.

  68. holly October 12th, 2010

    @hmmm. what do you mean? lol. no seriously i do need to know what im missing on this topic.

  69. candy cancer October 12th, 2010

    I am a Cancer woman (June 30th) in a relationship with a Scorpio man ( Nov 11th) and each day I get more confused…We have been in a relationship about a year now and all of a sudden he is saying “he’s not feeling me like he used to” but he is willing to try and work at it…the sex is great…but he is always commenting on my negativity and insinuating we might be better off as just friends…i really want this to work and he also says that he is willing to try …what can i do to keep his interest which seems to be wavering??????…one time he tells me he still loves me…another time i feel he is not interested in me as before ..based on his actions.

  70. hmmmmmm October 10th, 2010

    hmmmmmmm, holly & with me… don’t know why i feel the real story is other way round….:)

  71. holly October 10th, 2010

    i don’t understand! i’m a cancer girl who is always hopelessly attracted to scorpio guys. i just think there’s something unexplainably appealing about them. I have no trouble talking to scorps, and manage to get my feelings on the table in my awkward round-about way, but they are never ever reciprocated. I’ve never had a scorpio guy interested in me and i just don’t understand! libras tend to be in to me, and libras grosse me out (lol). but i just wanna know how to attract a scorp! help?!

  72. why me October 3rd, 2010

    i am a cancer female whos seeing a scorpio male . we met in a nightclub about 2 months ago ,i went home with him that very night and thats something ive never done. we had sex and i probed him about his relationship status so he had to admit he was in a relationship. this however dint stop me bcos even though we had only met for a couple of hours i felt liked we’d known each other for months and i felt so secure with him ,so ever since then we see each other literally everyday and we almost always av mindblowing sex however im the other woman in the realtionship .he literally never ever calls and he only calss wen he wants to c me which makes me feel like booty call however wen i am with him i feel like we really connect,we av soo much fun apart from aving sex. ive been tryin to cut him loose because hes got a girlfriend but its sooo difficult because wen am wit him ,he tells me how much he enjoys my company and he loves my sense of homour we really do connect . am soo confused should i cut him loose or wait in anticipation of him breakin up wit his gal. i dont just wana b his bootycal. hes very possesive of my wereabouts

  73. a scorpio September 20th, 2010

    i am a scorpio and have yet to date a cancer woman. i am however, speaking to one and we connect like tic tac toe. i like her alot, but she has a boyfriend. what to do what to do… doo doo doo.
    any suggestions? shes got me going crazy hmm.. *sigh

  74. LPP September 20th, 2010

    I am a cancerian lady. I fell in love at first sight with a Scorpio 10 years ago and everything they say about the magnetism and connection is true. The bad part is if you both have insecurity issues as we did and destroy the relationship you both can never get over it. We have got back together twice after the initial split. The first time we split was after a year. We did not communicate with each other for another year. Then we bumped into each other and it was there again. We were together for another year, then split again Again we did not communicate at all for 2 years – met at a party and spent the whole night talking (not going home to our current partners!) and crying about how much we love each other. We did not speak again for 2 months – then the emails started and we began seeing each other again. This time for about 3 months. One day he didn’t return my calls that is 3 years ago. Recently we had some email conversations and they are like the old days but then we have to stop because we know we can’t see each other. There will always be an attraction

  75. krazedcancer September 14th, 2010

    Hi I’m a Cancer girl(13th July) and I’ve been in a relationship with a Scorpio guy(26th Oct) for four years(married for the last two yrs.) now. I love my scorpio to death and he makes me feel Utterly safe and secure and blessed to have him, but I have a REALLY big problem right now. Everybody says scorpios r highly sexual and sex loving and hes not like that at all. Although we do have Mind blowing, crazy sex when we do it and hes always acting like im the sexiest thing alive but the problem is we don’t do it that often cuz he never seems interested in doing it often. I’ve tried talking to him about it but he never says anythng back and acts like he didnt hear me. Now its come to a point that i am the ONLY one initiating it and he takes over when hes turned on. I feel utterly unattractive and confused and crazed cuz he dznt see my point of view and always being the initiator is getting old really fast for me. Any scorpio males plz help! i dont know how to make him want me/initiate sex more often. i’ve tried kinky stuff and i’ve tried playing hard to get and i’ve tried being too available and NOTHING IS WORKING!!! 🙁

  76. Capricious Cancer September 13th, 2010

    @Still waters run deep: thank you for saying that

  77. Still waters run deep September 11th, 2010

    I’m a Scorpio male, and I just wanted to say to the ladies out there, the key to a Scorpio man’s heart is to give yourself completely to surrender yourself to him. Give him your all your everything don’t hold back one inch, and I guarantee you that when he sees your willingness to commit and to give yourself to him so deeply, whatever doubts he had about you will disappear and whatever problems there where will soon vanish. Scorpio is a creature of rebirth and new beginnings, if you are already involved and you want to keep him, offer a new beginning, a clean slate, a new life with shared moments of love and passion and you will truly be fulfilled and happy together. The rest will solve itself out, no matter what the argument or the problem just remind him that he is your everything, because that’s all he wants to be your hero your protector to love you and be loved unconditionally.

    Cheers, and good luck.

  78. Eve September 9th, 2010

    To all my cancer women: I love you all! I’m a 26 yr old scorpio female, and a lesbian 😉 and I’m wondering is it’s common for cancer women to be gay or be ‘curious’? I used to have this huge girl crush on this cancer girl that lives 4 hours from me, but she made it clear that nothing serious would ever happen. I don’t speak to her often but when I do she’s always almost talking about some guy. When we met I knew she was straight but I managed to seduce her into bed and it was AMAZING to say the least! I thought it was never going to happen but it did and I think she really enjoyed it. I am aware that she only wants serious relationships with men because they can provide more of a financial stability that she seeks, but it seems like if I see her again she probably wouldn’t mind being in bed with me 😛

  79. Ms.Understood September 8th, 2010

    I’ve been dating a Scorpio (Oct 30) for about a month. He is very intriguing. Seems like he’s hiding things. I called him Mr. Mysterious. We are not exclusive just trying to get to know each other. His intriguing ways make me want to know more. This article was very informative.

  80. Capricious Cancer September 7th, 2010

    I share your pain oversensitive, I’ve always been with Aquarius men and none of them are half the man he is. I think the best thing to do is just be strong, I know it’s not always easy for us with our emotions but just think of it this way, he’s not the only Scorpio out there he may just not be the right Scorpio for you 🙂

  81. oversensitivecancer September 6th, 2010

    I’m a cancerian (1st July) been with an amazing scorpio man for 3 months, love his masculinity and decision making as well as his sense of humour we get along GREAT, its never awkward, even after a fight…and think that we compliment eachother in a big way, although he is the MOST confusing man I have ever been with. I hardly ever know how to read him…I have those exact feeling of insecurity and mood swings around him and I have broken up with him several times as a result. He refuses to accept this so we end up making up. Don’t know if I should be strong and let him go? I do feel like I am falling for him immensely but don’t know how to get rid of my stupid insecurities!!!!
    HELP!!
    I feel JUST like you capricious, I always end up apologizing, and then he’ll never want to talk through it which I feel is the only way to fix things! I end up getting so frustrated, more with myself than with him. I’ve always been with Pisces men and think that after the intensity of Scorpio, I will be bored with anyone else! 🙁

  82. florence_capri August 22nd, 2010

    very tru, they can be gud boyfriend, great lover…….but when it comes to serious and faithful relationship think twice….:)

  83. Aishwarya August 20th, 2010

    Hi, I’m June 25th born. Never had a scorpio boy friend, but yes my close friend is a Scorpio. They’re loyal friends, very good at heart, and true to their words. I feel so safe and secured just by having him as my friend. Don’t know what future holds for me, but I would like to live my life with a man who understands my mood swings and know why I’m so insecure.

  84. florence_capri August 19th, 2010

    ooooooooh u poor cancerian girl, don’t worry, scorpio r lik that….but u should be urself.:)

  85. Capricious Cancer August 18th, 2010

    Hello 🙂
    Im a Cancer 6/27 and I’ve been dating a Scorpio 11/13 for about 5 months. Too often I feel unloved. I feel I give him so much but he’s too comfortable with our relationship to care about my feelings. He gets into these pouty moods where he goes into the bedroom sits on the floor and buries his head into his knees. In the beginning I would cradle him and apologize for hurting his feelings, but too often I apolgize for him… Too often I find myself forgetting about myself because I’m thinking about how he feels or what he wants. True things aren’t always bad, yes the sex is great… but I don’t want to make up from a fight by making love and not talking about it, this is just not me. Anyone care to assist, I feel like I’m drowning more and more everyday.

    I’ve been reading a few posts and I’ve come to the conclusion that Cancers should just put themselves aside and worship the Scorpio, this just seems ridiculous. I am just as important and I have just as many needs (if not more sometimes) than the Scorpio… don’t I?

  86. Elizabeth August 16th, 2010

    I’am a cancer girl and I fell for a Scorpio guy the second I saw him, this was about two years a go at the beginning of my sophmore year of High School. I’ve met him through mutual friends. I had a boyfriend at the time, we had been dating for about 6 months, he was a Libra. I was instantly attracted to my Scorpio guy and it wasn’t only because of his looks, I loved the way he looked at me with such intensity and how he was so mysterious. I felt like he had a scary dark side and some how that just made me much more attracted to him. I’am actually very good at predicting a persons personality. It was also very weird because we didn’t even have to communicate or talk alot, but I could still feel him, I felt an unexplainable rush through my body and he understood me and I understood him too just by glazing at him. He has the most intense eyes and I loved it, I felt such a connection like no other. We started talking over Myspace, texting, and on the phone and I started falling for him, more and more because I felt that he was falling for me too .(he eventually admit about 4 months a go that he actually did have feelings for me) I loved the way he was passionate over everything. He was either hot or cold , he would always send me mixed signals about how he felt for me. This really confused me , but still deep down in my heart I felt like he was the guy that I wanted to be with so I dumped my bf thinking that we were going to end up dating each other. One second he would be calling me beautiful the other he would say that I was too nice and innocent for him? He would tell me some of his darkest secrets that he had never told anyone because he had trust issues before in his pass and he still does, I was the only girl that he trusted so I felt like I must have been very speical to have that privilege. Sometimes he would be flirting with me alot then he would say I was more like a good friend? He was really messing with my emotions and my head. He would tell me that i was too innocent for him and he just wanted to go around and mess around with girls and have not commitment, even after all the things his said to me that I really did not want to hear, I still had feelings for him and sometimes i still feel like i do . I still don’t understand why I feel like this sometimes , maybe its because I can’t get over rejection or it could be that we really had or probaly will have something special. I went to a party about 4 months ago and he was their, I had too much to drink I think it had a little to much to drink because I was upset to see him flirting with some girl. So basically I was drunk not totally wasted but definetly not sober. I couldn’t even walk that straight, so he sat me down and sat next to me he told me to sit down and chill and that he was going to take care of me. I was resting my head on his shoulder and he was caressing my head and back. I had never been so close to him before, he also brought me some food so I can sober up but I was hurt about what he had done to me , he made me fall for him and at the end he still wasn’t mine so I threw the food of his hand walked away went back inside the party and made out with some guy that I knew in their. The scorpio guy and one of my best friends went up to me while I was kissing the guy , my best friend grabbed me by my hand and took me away from him while the Scorpio guy was giving the guy dirty looks like he was jelous that was when the bad tension began and about thirty minutes later some how they ended up so close to fighting each other until the owner off the house told them that if they started any drama or fighting they will have to leave. I know Scorpio people are very jelouse so are Cancerians, I’m not sure if all of this happened because my Scorpio guy was actually jelous because maybe he still had something for me . I’am in a realtionship now and its about to be 4 months with my new boyfriend, he is a Gemini, he is very charming and nice and I really do love him he is also friends with the scorpio guy. I still like the Scorpio guy I can never get over him I still feel like we were meant for each other and maybe the right time will come . Theirs just something very special about him its been about 2 years and i still can’t get him out of my heart:(

    What do you guys think? Is it that I can’t get over rejection? tell me your opinions.

  87. yuliana August 10th, 2010

    I am a cancer woman, and I met this scorpio man through the internet, so we exchanged e-mails about our current lives. However, he is travelling the world and was passing in the country where I live. We met at first and he was super polite and very formal, and of course nothing happened. So I figured maybe the spark was not there, although I did like him. Two weeks later he text me to meet up again, he mentioned he was coming back this way. So we met up again and had a nice time together, however this time we kind of hooked up. It was so passionate and romantic, but he would not allow me to give myself to him completely since he would put a barrier with the justification that his didnt want to get stuck in a random country for anyone. He was committed to his 2year trips etc. SO i respected that and said good bye. Days later he continued texting saying things like he missed me etc so I didnt really know what to do because I initially liked this guy, so I followed his lead, however everytime I would express myself romantically he would cut me off. Finally after a month of txts and very empty msgs I felt it was time for me to let him go for real, he said many times he didnt want to stay attached, but at the same time he wanted my undivided attention whenever he needed it, meanwhile I had to content myself with random txts and not feedback whatsoever on whatever he was feeling for me. So out of the blue I decided to delete his msg and txt and from my list of friends. I know that I still like him and I wisk he would contact me back, but I also know that this guys never took me serious and in a way i made him a favour to continue his journey. It sucks for me and well one thing that all cancer women have is that we are proud and do not take b.s from anyone. we dont like to waste our time with indecisive people. If we dont convince you in the first 5 minutes after we met, than you are not for us.

  88. ScorpiOLezBreal August 7th, 2010

    Thank you for your input Confused Cancer girl and thank you for not being judgemental. It truly means alot. Well, i’ve been keeping a distance from my cancer heartbreaker. lol i haven’t seen her since late December. we’ve made contact and on June 26..i called her to say happy bday and she thought it was real sweet but thats pretty much it. Oh yea, recently she sent me a text saying that it was her brother’s bday and that her and her family were going out meaning she wanted me to come along. luckily i was on the plane headed somewhere. Ha, totally not in her direction. I told her that I had other plans. The funny thing about the sitaution is..the fact that i wanted to call her real badly before and talk before this happened. One thing about Scorpio’s male or female. lol in this case I’m between a male/female (since i’m the more dominant one)..Scorpios.if we feel like we’re going to be HURT after taking you up on your offer..we will reject it. If we know feeel thaat your intentions are true, then we will take you up in it. it doesnt matter if we have prior important engagements..we will do just about anything to be beside you. Confused Cancer girl.. im sure your Scorpio guy CARES alot and thats why he is keepin’ his distance. MAybe he will come around but sometimes we love being chased down. From whaT i’ve read, it seems like you made urself more than available. So maybe a breather would do some good. =)I hope it all works out.

    As for me. I am so tempted to talk to my cancer. I dream about her sooo much. i think about her enough alredy but the dreams are killing me. I don’t know if I need closure or what the hell i need But im not sure what to do about it. I’ve dated around a little bt most of these girls are the same as her or no better. I dnt know how to feel. She’ll be deployed in March to Afghanistan..SO I don’t know if i should get together before she leaves. I feel like if..we get together it will bring old feelings back and i dnt wanna be in pain when she leaves. You know?

    @ Cancergirly : you should try something like telling him to come with you to get something out the kitchen or to get fresh air…if you’re in a friend setting. The scorpio you described sounds like he’s unsure abt asking you out. If he’s mentioned you guys hanging out alone more than once.. he really wants to hang out. You should totally take him up on his offer, it may be what you two needed after all.

    @ Heather.. Scorpios do need space sometimes but no ridiculous space like a gemini or something. Giving us a day to miss you is cool. When a Cancer and Scorpio are really INTO one another..they usually cnt go too long without seeing eachother again. I’ve dated 3 cancer women. We always end up contacting one another in some way. it’s weird. but definitely keep things cute. he’s really into you to continue to kiss you after his friends have made comments like that. Before Scorpios get a relationship, they like to take it sorta slow especially if we just got out of a long term relationship. Believe me, take your time. Rushing it is what messed up my relationships. enjoy the courting. haha.

    Hope i helped. If anyone would like to help me. feel free. thank you. Much love to all my Scoprios and Cancerians

  89. cancergirly August 5th, 2010

    Do scorpios need their space??

  90. cancergirly August 2nd, 2010

    Thank you!! I can relate to your sitation a lot.

  91. Heather August 2nd, 2010

    Might I add…If it’s meant to be, it will surely be. Love to all the Cancer women, you know in your heart whether its right or not, trust your golden intuition…and dont be in denial if your heart is screaming at you! xx

  92. Heather August 2nd, 2010

    Scorpio’s and Cancers share some sort of zing when they look into each other’s eyes…Its such an intense feeling,so sexy. I just got involved with a Scorpio male that doesnt want a relationship because of his recent breakup with a girl he had a six year relationship with. BUT, funny thing is that he cant keep his hands off of me, questions my wherabouts and who Im going wherever with, has asked a list of questions about my personal life, and keeps an eye on me and my interactions with men…Who knows, lol. He is coming to my house on Sunday for dinner and a movie (first time). At the same time, the last two times we have seen each other has been with friends and when we kiss (because we literally cant go a moment apart when we are together, his friends are asking him when we are getting married, and I understand how uncomfortable that could be for him (even though he completely ignores him and continues to hold me and kiss, what a weirdo)… We will see how it goes, I am feeling oh so much.

  93. cancergirly August 2nd, 2010

    Yes! He tells me oh i like you, lets go out together just us two (etc.) But when we see eachother with a group of ppl its either a lot of attention or barely any from him. Maybe i should try and set aside time for just us??

  94. confused cancer girl August 2nd, 2010

    I have no idea about these men I really don’t I invited my scorpio over and he didn’t respond. He is chicken because he cares… I know it sounds stupid but they do tell you how they feel so if they like you they will tell you but they may not act on it. FEAR!!!!! I am relaxing and leaving him alone again. If he wants me he will come to me. I’m getting tired.

  95. horny scorp August 2nd, 2010

    Yea I think that your scorpio guy don’t want you. He just wants sex. If he does like you he would’ve tell you..I know it hurts for you hearing this but yea. To him you are just a booty call (sorry for the bad english) BTW Im a scorpio! Seeking for a cancer

  96. cancergirly August 1st, 2010

    Alright so Im a cancer woman and my love interest is a scorpio man. I met him a year ago, and even though the nature of our friendship was sexual/flirtatious we are always able to adapt to every type of situation. He is 7 years older than me but you honestly cant notice the difference. The problem: although our communication over the past year has been scattered he always tries to pull me back in a flirty manner. I feel like to him i am a bootycall even though we’ve never had sex….got close once but thats it. We have a lot of mutual friends and the female ones all tell me hes a bit of a man-hoe lol idk its not what i want and idk what to do so that im not viewed like one of those girls in his eyes. My cousin who knows him very well says he probably likes me…..idk we hang out often mostly with a group and even then he”ll flirt with me. We have an intense chemistry, but how do i make it more serious? I feel like if im not a bitch i cant tame him. Scorpio men i need ur help on this one

  97. confused cancer girl July 26th, 2010

    We didn’t get to do dinner yet. Hopefully this week sometime. I believe in them coming back something always told me in my heart of hearts that mine was never truly gone. Enjoy it. Maybe he is the one for you. I will tell you about the dinner after we have it! ;-D

  98. michelle July 24th, 2010

    to confused cancer girl, want to know how your dinner date turned out hope it went well, i have just had contact with another scorpio male i went out with a while back, he rang mme at work out of the blue said he was thinking of me but didnt know if i wanted to talk to him,said he misses me and wants to come and see me, i have never had this happen with any other male i have been out with who keeps wanting to come back must be some connection somewhere, because every other star sign i go out with when its finished thats it no more but with scorpios they seem to come back.

  99. confused cancer girl July 19th, 2010

    Dear ScorpioLez, I’m not sure you want to be involved with this person right now. First she doesn’t seem quite sincere and also she flip flops too much first with you and the exe and then with others. The difference I see with your situation and all the others believe it or not is not the gender issue but the cancer woman. Most of us have not cheated on the Scorpios or betrayed the trust issue and your cancer has. The hurt between the other relationships comes from more of not knowing how to make it work with the basic personality traits. Your cancer woman has commitment issues and possibly not even sure if she is lesbian and those are deal breakers for me. I do understand you wanting to be with her and the wonderful connection but it sounds like you may deserve better. I think your HEAD is in the right this case. Just an opinion. Be strong no matter what.

  100. ScorpiOLezBreal July 17th, 2010

    I have read all these accounts and all i can say is wooooow. I’m a Scorpio Woman and the person I can’t stop thinkin’ of is a CAncer woman. Yes I’m a lesbian. Don’t judge me by my lifestyle. I know this says “Cancer woman and Scorpio man” but I haven’t seen a section for lesbians like this. So this will have to do. If anyone is willing to put their input in about my situation. I’d gladly appreciate it. I need comments.

    Im going to try to make this short and simple. Well me and my cancer woman have known eachother for 2 years. We met online and at the time we had both jsut got out of crazy relationships. She ended up getting back with her gf who is a cancer. Then they broke up a week later and we met up. When I seen her in person.. Wow sparks flew and wow. It was so intense. The first day we ended up kissing and touching but nothing more. IF the timing wasn’t so off that day..we would’ve had sex. But anyways, the next day after that she asked me to come over. We had sex and it was incredible. We started textin alot and talkin her an there. I was jealous and possessive. I hated the idea of her still talking to her ex. She was still talkin’ to her and i tried to pussh all my silly feelings aside but I couldn’t. Lonng story, short..we were together for 2 months and then she went back to her ex. Then 3 months after that..We hooked up..then she went back her ex.She’s gone for 9 months for military training. then she comes back and we hang out,sex,blah blah. Like our relationship has been off and on. During thanksgiving and christmas is when we tried to have a relationship again. She felt insecure and like I had other women. I sort of felt the same because i didnt kno if her ex was out or not. Then during christmas I find out that her friend who was staying with her for a 2weeks was actually her ex gf who is a leo. It was some chick she met in the service. I was hurt when she told and still she remained insecure. I don’t understand how she could be so insecure when she’s the one who kept secrets from me.

    Anyways, I can’t stop thinking about her. We had romantic times and incredible sex. We wrote eachother poems and letters. Her whole family knows me and my family really knew nothing of her because they’re not as accepting. Sometimes she would complain about me not making her apart of my family and it’s not like i didnt try. Everytime I wanted her to meet with my mom or somethin..there was an excuse or we’d break up before it. We’re both afraid of being hurt. We value most of the same things.

    2 months ago she messaged me telling me that she has some things of mine and she wants to send them. I told her i’d come get them. She said she’d rather send it and then she agreed for me to come over. Her schedule was so busy that I just told her foorget it because Im aware of her games. She’s like a yo-yo..drawing me back in when I’m ready to fall off the string. It hurts because I love her. I care about her. There is no one like her and I understand her more than I think she does. We’ve forgiven eachother for some things but the pain is still there. She’s the one whose been unfaithful before with her ex. I just wasn’t truthful about some things bt they were never as serious as the secrets she kept. I feel like we have this dumb ass pride thing that won’t let us hit eachother up or patch things up. Her bday is June 26th and I told her happy bday. She said it was really sweet of me but we haven’t talked since. I also was the first person to call her on her bday. Last time we had a convo.. she said she was talking to a man. She claimed that she was a lesbian. Not only did she claim it but she owned it. She was rainbow this and that anti-male. Anyways, i have no clue if her and the dude are still workin’ things thru bt I WANT her. I need her back in my life. I know she fucked up bt that doesn’t stop me from wanting her in my arms. It doesn’t stop me from wanting to make love. I feel incomplete without her. I’ve gone on dates and I’ve even had sex with others bt nothing compares. This is 2 years now..and in March she’ll be in Iraq or Afghanistan. I don’t know If I should leave her be so she can focus on her missions and move on with life or should i pursue her. I don’t want to be hurt. MY HEAD says “Move ON” but my HEART says “GO get her”. SOMEONE. Anyone ..help me. I just wish I knew why she did what she did. She’d break up with me at really odd times and it didn’t make sense. Soemtimes I would choose to leave her alone becuz of her lies and such. She claimed that she always wanted to be friends but nothing about us together is friendly. We’re sexual and lovey together. There’s nothin’ i wouldn’t do to see her dimples from cheek to cheek. NOTHING. I realize she wants to be friends because she loves me and cares somewhat but I feel like a friendship is a way for her to always have some hold on me. She knows I want her. As intense I feel right now, I bet she can feel me needing her attention and needing her touch. I can’t be the first one to CRACK. I dn’t know what to do. I dnt kno if she’s USING me. Everything she says and what we do seems so genuine. I feel that maybe things won’t be the same because now there’s not only exes i have to think about..there’s man. ugh. help. thanks for reading my situation.

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