Virgo

Should I make my move?

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  • #32343483
    Ben_Gin
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    Hi Chibbers, thks ur rite. Being a Sagi myslf, I know I’m too outspoken 4 my own gd & can’t quite usually wait 4 an answer. Yes I think I’ve irritated him nicely but couldn’t help it. Tis one of my charms hahaha.. but truly so now i just humbly wait & hope for his reply. U just made me miss him more.. haha 😉

    But smhw deep in my heart i seem to know or believe he has a kind heart & he can reach & touch me in his own silent way. I know I can make him happy too. Strange is I’ve no idea whr I get this faith from abt him & abt me. Strong intuition i hope & not just false dreams.

    Well thks agn 4 ur advice & gd wish. I do need luck this time hehe but life has to go on as usual 4 me at this moment. Take care, c ya 🙂

    #32343541
    Ben_Gin
    Participant

    I still miss him 🙁

    #32343823
    mitmiu
    Member

    He will come to you and give you a proper answer. 

    I know that it’s not even a date.

    About slow replying, it’s like talking about me who was asked out by a coworker. It took me forever to reply for a asking out. Then 2 days later he upset, and then he acted like nothing happen. But then I texted “sorry  I’m too busy ( to reply to him, but actually I keep thinking how to reply), so what’s the plan for tuesday” ( So You can see I had a crush on him too). He say ” Movie date and dinner” Then I was blank again. He try to make thing straight why I just hesitated Although I do like him, but I have to know more about himto be less insecure.  

     

    And Sagi make Virgo happy make my mind active and make everything so clear. A Sagi next door has always lighten up the room, make me relax peaceful and smile genually. It’s so true that I feel so great to be with him. We live in the same house, before I’m too nervous and shy. Can’t communicate well with him, although every topic he say I want to talk to him too, so imspiration. But it jusr off mood when I open my mouth. Thing get better now, as I can talk, but appear lack confident and quite dump because my mind litterally have nothing inside. I just speak whatever. 

    Irrated me, But he quite understanding a shy girl like me. 

    A big improvement when we both spending hours talking and talking.  ( I’m still quite dump though). But he make me smile. I love that there is no dull moment with him.

    Although we can connect now but my shyness must has past to him. We are fine at home. But once we meet each other accidently in the crossroad. As soon as our eye meet, we pretend looking the other directions. Unfortunately, that the red light, he is standing just infront of me. and that’s so weird to pretend not knowing each other. Even at class, at first we excited we can support each other in uni. And then, so nerve wracking , I break to sweat just thinking he sit behind me and watch me. And we hardly meet each other at school. He not going to class, and we although has theg same teste but never going class together.

    can someone help me ? My shyness just kill all my enjoyable moment

     

    #32343824
    mitmiu
    Member

    I give a lot of good food to the one I love, but when he want to mke food for me when I’m busy studying, or offer me try something on his plate I just deny. Felt like if we are equal, he will put me in friend zone forever. He ask me to sit next to him in movie, I just move further away, since he see thorugh me, what he suppose not to know. and I will be too nervous to enjoy my film. 

    He ask me to mountain climbing with him, but I’m afraid I will act like I left my brain at home, and we will akwark in the train.

     

    why can’t i say yes or no straight wherever he ask me to movie to mountain climbing, i’m so indecessive.

    please help me, i have a tendency hide my emotion when there are people around, noone should know i like him, untill we are in solid relationship.

    i don’t want to let that friend go, he is trully the opposite of me, but he just lift the chain around my neck. 

     

    #32343826
    Ben_Gin
    Participant

    Hi, thks for ur feedback & u’ve actually helped me to understand something I may have not noticed or considered. Gdness, r u a Virgo? If ur trying to tell me u are liking a Sagi guy now, all I can say is.. please u CAN let him know.

    There is nothing we Sagis love more than honesty & expression 🙂 I understand it maybe very difficult especially for girls like us to make the 1st move but u don’t even have to especially when he’s d one keep asking u out. Just say yes if u really want to.

    Sometimes words may not necessarily help to tell others how u feel. That’s why they say action speaks louder 🙂 I’m not asking u to jump at him now hahaha but really u can take it slow. Yes.. u can make him wait but not toooo long..

    All I’m saying is, pls don’t let go of the chance when the person u like or even love is right infront of u cos u just don’t know if this moment will come again.

    Yes ur shy & not expressive. More reason it’s good to spend time with him for him to learn more abt u. We Sagis r quite receptive & can be very understanding especially when we see ur making d effort too 2b with us.

    Well I truly hope it works out 4u 😉 Take care & I thank you too for giving me a probable answer as to why my Virgo guy takes forever to reply me. I just hope it’s true or it may mean he’s not interested at all 🙁

    #32344057
    mitmiu
    Member

    Hi Ben-Gin, I just don’t know where to express all my thought accept you.

    I’m totally fine with only him. but among people, i just being quiet and stupid. 

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    I’m push him far away. I’m so cold and stupid. It took me ages to be closer to him. But now, i don’t talk don’t meet. staying in my room avoiding him, because i’m scare that we don’t have much to talk, i’m afraid that i’m boring, and showing that we’re still awkward.

    People said to me just talk to him, why are you so cold. Then I talk so socialize. so short and quick. I can’t even be better. I can only being around him, doing my work. And it’s so quiet. He must feel uneasy. He talk to me but I respond so cold.

    There is  new girl moving to house a few weeks ago. And the new little girl be close with him so fast. took me for 1 year, but she just need week. It’s freak me out. I don’t afraid that they like each other. But afraid that he substitute that girl to me. He is not gonna play with me anymore.
    I just don’t know, I can’t handle the situation.
    I have done something that he might think we are not friend. After all of the close talk I didn’t invite him to celebrate my birthday, or act like we are close.

     

    All the thinking make me tired. “I can fool the world but I can’t fool my heart”. I hate myself so much.
    But the same time I like him a lot, from the first time I saw him, to when i know more him in person. He is patient to men he is not looking down on me. He is so generous, kind warm heart, inspiring, honest, straight forward,… I like him as a person a lot lot lot.
    what if 3 month later I might move out. I really want to boost my confidence.

    #32344064
    Ben_Gin
    Participant

    Hi,

    I’m sorry 2 know what ur goin thru. Don’t be too hard on urslf. Sometimes it’s just very difficult 2 tell our true feelings not bcos we don’t want to. Sometimes it could be of circumstances, situations or just fear of rejection. Smtimes all dat i just mentioned.

    Sorry to say honestly in ur case, nothing is stopping u but urslf. Only you can change ur situation. I know it’s hard but if u really like him, can u at least try? U know him best. If he really likes u, he’ll make time to figure u out no matter what.

    I’m sorry if im not much help. But 1st & foremost important thing to do, don’t be cold to him. Treat him as a normal person as u treat othr guys. I don’t think ur cold towards d rest rite.

    Don’t pressure urslf. Let him get to know you. Don’t be something ur not. If u like or love him, show him those feelings. No words but by true gestures & affections. I really hope u understand wat im saying.

    Ur lucky cos he’s still close 2u now. There are some ppl that don’t even have the chance to show their love cos d person they love is not infront of them. Take d chance while u still have it.

    I wish d best 4u my friend 🙂

     

     

    #32344105
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    Ben_Gin,

    I am a virgo w/planets in fire so can comment from both sides. Fire signs like sag tend to move quickly. Earth signs don’t. Personally I move quickly but…my real feelings take a long time to develop. Virgos can also be insecure, much more than their great qualities would have you believe. So…honestly let him know the good things about him without being overwhelming. He should start to turn toward you even if it will take a while. BTW I am going through this with a virgo man as well…I ask myself the same qus as you ask yourself. Of course, possibly there are some real life, as opposed to personality/character issues in the way.  However, nothing ventured, nothing gained. Also, no guts, no glory. It may help you to know that on a spiritual level, one can look back to the date of conception, rather than the birth date, for a spiritual understanding of the person. Virgos are by and large conceived during Sag times, if nine months are allowed until physical birth. I always related well to my sag SOs.

    #32344184
    Ben_Gin
    Participant

    Hi Nullity,

    Thks 4 ur insight. Truly, how I wish I could even have a chance to let him know the good things about him but u know smthg, we’ve not seen each other 4 more than a year now & my feelings are still so strong like it was just yestrdy. Too long of a story to tell what’s keeping us apart…

    Ran out of ideas of how I’m to venture more to gain & I feel my guts just wasted down the drain. This Virgo man I’m so in love with has no idea what’s goin on. God I feel like such a fool.. if only he’s right infront of me

    #32344222
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    Hi Ben_Gin,

    Hang in there. If your feelings are so strong, it’s a sign that something’s real.  Grab your chnce when it comes to let him know how positively you view him. Virgos are sometimes shy and insecure, in spite of their many good qualities. I am rooting for you.

    #32344226
    Ben_Gin
    Participant

    Nullity, you’re a dear :) It will be kinda of a miracle if our path cross again so I’m not sure if I’ll ever hv dat chance. Actually I asked him out some time ago but there was no response.  I thk u anyhow 4 rooting for me :)

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