My Taurus guy… Help me understand this please…
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April 24, 2012 at 11:14 pm #32336000
I’m a Cappy girl and I’ve been casually “seeing” a Taurus guy since the beginning of March this year. I love him to bits – it’s like I’ve found my soul mate! He’s definitely spoiled me for other guys. Unfortunately (or fortunately), it seems he’s a little slower in making up his mind about me… I guess that’s a typical Taurean trait?
We started having sex almost from the start (it’s difficult to keep our hands off each other), but about a week ago he suddenly tells me he wants to stop the sexual contact and instead be friends only.
He’s been good to his word and been the perfect gentleman. He spent his entire birthday weekend with me (he said I was the only one he wanted to spend his birth day with) and it was sweet and old fashioned with no sexual expectations, but he was still quite affectionate and held my hand everywhere we walked, touched and caressed me and gave me sweet affectionate kisses on the cheek.
So why the sudden decision to stop the love-making – we both loved it – it was the best ever!? I do like the new arrangement, but I also miss the hot passionate love-making. I know for a fact he isn’t seeing anyone else and he’s making sure to stay in contact with me every day although it’s on a more platonic level.
Is he into me and just wants to see if there’s a potential for something deeper here than just the sex? I’m confused… but still really happy that he has not disappeared from my life. Just never faced a situation like this before…April 25, 2012 at 6:17 pm #32342985Ask OracleKeymaster
Have you shared with him that you find him sweet and see him as a soul mate? A person to grow old with? Open up your heart to him and encourage him to open up and share his feelings.April 27, 2012 at 6:02 pm #32343000dereigh13Member
Girl…I dont know what to tell you. I’ve been going through ALMOST the exact same thing. Started “seeing” a taurus about 3 months ago, the sex is amazing, for both parties. Then about a month ago, he pulled away sexually, but wants to spend more time with me, we have spent the night together for the past 5 nights, but I’ve seen him almost every day for the last 3 weeks, he calls me right after work to hang out. I dont get it, not even a kiss in the past month, but we have cuddled the past few nights when I have stayed with him. I had a nightmare and he woke me up and held me tight and put my hand on his heart, it was really sweet. He seems to be really caring, and as sad as i would be if he just liked me as a friend, i would still rather have him as a friend then not have him at all. but i feel like he is my soulmate. ive known him for several years since we went to school together, but havnt hung out with him until the last few months. I dont know what to think or do. So if anyone can help us to understand why these taurus’ behave this way, please let us know.May 3, 2012 at 3:50 pm #32343097
heres your answer girls..
us taurus’s male and female all want to feel needed, we don’t just want sex without strings.. we are very sensitive and old fashioned, we want commitment!
we want you to know our minds we have given you our body and now its time to dig a little deeper, we always want to see who really wants us as a package. As a taurus I have been in relationships and pulled away just so we make an effort to get a little deeper, it makes the bond feel even more special.
The fact that we still sticking around shows, we want you, what you don’t want is us leaving, when we are gone its for good.
so just talk to us.. to make us complete tell us stories connect with us through words and emotion make us feel needed.. that man is yours i assure you.. it doesnt take much just love loyalty and communication. simple we love to talk and we love it when you let us into your private life.
we like to test the waters and find out if we needed and wanted so we need that connection of two minds not just bodies. Be Straight forward just don’t over share just give us enough to create mystery like we have to know more about you..
hope that helps 🙂May 5, 2012 at 2:10 pm #32343119ambieMember
you being a cap you tend to tune out your emotions and or avoid them wich can make you seem distant more than you realize. you focus so much on career and success that you dont realize how distant and self absorbed you come off to be. taurus needs to feel a strong since of home,family,love,devotion.he needs to know,hear,and feel all your emotions and hear about the deep feelings you feel for him. dont assume he knows cause you had a great connection in bed one night or every night. he needs reminded. and i bet your sex connection and feelings you both had was the bomb he gets that and trust me he wants u from what u have said but i feel he is offering more of himself then u think and wanting more from u. if you dont open up and tell him and communicate your feelings and show more of a sentimental side you may loose him. he feels and is tuned into his emotions he knows what he wants but doesnt communicate verbally as often as he should. tell him how you are feeling ask questions and he will open up but u must pry. you assume your devotion is prooved by u being there and you gotta dig deep in order to put it in words. hate to say it but caps lack compassion lil more than they should for they think people should just get the ovious but they dont.May 10, 2012 at 4:37 pm #32343156
taurus_woman… idk if thats a fact at this point i am friends with a taurus hes my ex and i know he loves me but he is lacking the want of commitment he has told me i am the perfect gf and that he loved me extra hard when he realized i would stick by his side no matter wat and that i appriciated him for being him no matter wat the ups and downs were…… i thought once he got his job situated and everthing else fell inplace we might get back together but instead he tells me that he loves me but feels that he doesnt wanna b anyones bf. idk i let him b around me and he is a good friend but part of me hopes we get back together……. so…. idk if they want commitment…..June 7, 2012 at 3:29 pm #32343416nld123Participant
I too am a Capricorn female with a strong interest in a Taurus guy. It’s a long distance friendship that became sexual. When I questioned why he wished to be single, he stated it was certain things in his past (Karma) that was the cause of it and then he stated who would want him (he’s working on getting his career up to top speed but has not established what it takes financially to be or what is perceived to be the basis of being in a relationship (money and material things). I’m the type of person who can work with that because he’s working towards having something versus just being lazy and waiting to see what I can do for him as you may be well aware that capricorns are go-getters and hard workers. Lately I’ve been getting mixed messages from him. I read someone’s thread that said when a Taurus was done with you, they’re done. Where the confusion comes in at is that recently he told me he was getting a new phone and that if i needed to contact him, to do so by email or send him a message through the site i met him on. I know through the summer months, he’s extra busy with work so i don’t expect to get responses right away. Due to financial ups and downs, we haven’t been able to see each other in a while but on several responses, he stated that he hadn’t forgotten about me but he’s just been so busy; another one he told me that he was missing me; just out of curiosity, i checked his status on that site to see if there were any changes and there was…his status went from single to dating. I don’t know if it’s me or someone else. I feel if he was done with me, he wouldn’t be responding to my emails, would block my access to his page, and would have told me that it just wasn’t going to work with us. What is your take on it and what do you think i should do?June 7, 2012 at 6:49 pm #32343420
taurus_woman: u put in well in words 🙂
To others, yes, we taureans value commitment, and because we value it so much it can turn into fear of one. We tend to be very choosy, though we don’t mean to. I guess Taureans are a bit too realistic that we take love and future very seriously. When in love, we love deeply…but at the slightest sign that the commitment might not be worth it that’s when we will start to back off a bit just to see if the significant other will make an effort and want the relationship as much as we do. More often this is taken as being no longer interested, but I can assure you that Taureans don’t say they love you and not mean it. Hence, when we leave for good you can be sure we are hurt as hell too (though we act tough). 🙂June 7, 2012 at 7:12 pm #32343422
any chance u’ve been hiding something from him (that might hurt him)? he might’ve discovered the truth and trying to sort his feeling, whether or not the relationship should continue. I’m sure he still have feeling for you, but love alone is not enough, at least to us Taureans.
I’m sorry if I’m wrong about the secret, though. but i’m going through this thing now. I found out all the lies my bf has been hiding from me. we’ve been on LDR for almost 6 months now bcoz of my study. He doesn’t know that I found out everything and still act as if nothing happened. I know he truly cares for me..It hurts like a stab in my chest, I love him so much but I guess I can’t accept the lies. I’m contemplating letting him go now though it leaves me heart-broken like never before… :'(
I hope if you get a chance try to get him to talk to you. Don’t push him, just let him know you’ll be waiting his reply. Be really honest and try to keep your calm whatever happen. All the BEST! ^^June 7, 2012 at 7:58 pm #32343425nld123Participant
@ctea: My situation is similar; the idea came to him for us to get a place together where he’s at but still with our status the way it is now and at the time i couldn’t do it because i was trying to finish school. Now that i’m about to graduate, i sent him an email telling him that a few months ago, i knew for sure what i wanted to do (be where he’s at with him)but now that i pretty much done with school, i had no clue of what i wanted to do and asked if he had any suggestions. This might have turned up the heat for him because he really needs to decide what he wants and maybe fear that i’m going to give up on him. I have no secrets; my life is an open book because i have no time for lies, bs, or games; but i just think he has trust issues with women from his past but i’ve never given him reason to not trust me. when ever he would be feeling down and out and asked if i could come see him; i would even if it meant finding a sitter at the last minute. If things were hectic for him, we would text back and forward late into the night even when i knew i needed to be getting some sleep because i had to work the next day. He knows that i’m here for him. He once asked me why do i work so hard (full time job, full time student, and single mom). I told him because i don’t want my son to have to work as hard when he reaches adulthood. He too has a son. I think my drive for success is both motivation and pressure for him. Maybe he feels i expect him to work just as hard as i do. But i feel that if he has true feelings for me the way i have for him, his success will be accomplished in less time with me at his side versus him doing it alone which he’s already told me that he wants to be able to stand on his own and I can respect that. I did send him another message telling him that i see that someone has finally broke down that wall he had up and i congradulated him on it. I figured when he responds, if he thank me, i’m not the one who broke it or he’ll straight up tell me that i’m the one. All i can do is wait. but thanks for the feedback. And good luck with your situation as well.January 24, 2013 at 2:39 pm #32344351
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