Aries Woman and Cancer Man Love Compatibility

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Aries Woman and Cancer Man Compatibility in 2021

A shift in your daily dynamic is likely as 2021 progresses. One or both of you may be needing a great deal more time apart. The Cancer man especially could be reeling from a recent loss of a mentor or father figure. The Aries woman needs to allow him the time and space to process this loss. There are some things that cannot be immediately put into words. Be confident enough in your partnership to give one another space to grieve. The Aries woman doesn't need to feel held back though. She can move out into new social networks and connect with those who might help her make a cherished dream into a reality.

Aries Woman and Cancer Man Relationship - Complete Guide

When the watery Cancer soul and flaming Aries soul come in romantic relationship, there are equal counts of burns and tranquility. Aries ride high on spontaneity, and is quite open in the expression of feelings while Cancer tends to take time when it comes to both expressing feelings and moving forward in a relationship.

A Cancer man is usually a shy person who minds his own business. He loves money, fame and recognition and mostly has all these in long term with his determination and hard work. When he falls for an Aries woman, he loves to be possessed and passionately loved by her. He is basically loyal and faithful and is often admired by his Aries woman for his ability to stick it out through the bad times. But he is very sensitive to hurt and is sometimes offended by the careless nature of the Aries woman.

An Aries woman is an impulsive and sovereign lady. She meets all the obstacles headlong and headfirst, even when she must go out of her way to find them. An Aries woman may seem inconsiderate and thoughtless but she would never hurt anyone on purpose. She can actually find a real gentleman in her Cancer man who is able to look behind the veil of rashness and admire her innocence. Though she really needs to mind her fiery temper as it can often cause depressive state for her Cancer man.

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An Aries woman complements a Cancer man well by allowing him to feel strong and masculine. She has got such a great optimist approach of winning that it helps him to give up his hidden fears and move up in life even more confidently. The protectiveness and possessiveness shown by her makes him feel loved and needed enhancing his sentiments and attachment to his lady love. But the secrets kept by him can be stressful on a relationship between the two. This attitude of him can make the mind of his Aries female to wonder causing outbursts of frenzy in her nature. While he may need to deal with the outrageous and self-centered attitude of the Aries woman sometimes by reminding himself that she doesn’t mean any hurt and is herself unaware of her behavior.

The Cancer male typically proves to be a prince charming to an Aries woman who admires him passionately for all the emotions and affection he has to offer to her. She is thrilled by the feeling of being courted by him who makes her feel desirable as a woman. He brings laughter to him which shines a light on her. He brings out a personality in her that others cannot resist. She feels at peace around him because she can finally be herself. He continues to adore her throughout life as much as he did the first time they met. But she always needs to consider the moodiness of her Cancer man and give him appropriate space when needed by him. Also he needs to keep up his spirits and emotions even if he finds his damsel aloof and running at times because all she needs is her space and nothing else.

With the unusual blend of Fire and Water, together these two can create unbelievable miracles in their relationship. The Cancer man always cherishes his sentiments and makes the Aries woman feel more feminine. He fulfills the entire child like needs his Aries woman makes and keeps her cozy in the protective blankets of his tender loving care, which he can provide to her forever. On the other hand, she makes her Cancer male feel a lot loved and care with the devotion she gives to him and the determination with which she stand by him in all the ups and downs of life. She makes him feel more enthusiastic and optimistic and fills his life with lot more passion. They hold a fairy tale love story with him as Price Charming and she as Cinderella who keeps on chasing her dreams and finally finds herself gratified in the arms of her dream man.

The physical intimacy between the Aries woman and Cancer man is just like that of fire and ice. They both compliment each other so well that their love making is always a long lasting pleasure for them. As time passes these two get intimately close in their sex life. He makes her feel cherished and emotionally secure. The Cancer is clever and imaginative when making love. This gives a lot of excitement to the Aries female who is full of blaze. Her vulnerability in the sack stirs him deeply. Her ability to bring innocence to her love making, regardless of her past, gives him enormous emotional security. She loves fiercely and passionately. This makes him crave for her more passionately and lovingly. When he leans his face in closer, and she reached out and pulls him the rest of the way, so that he could bury his face in the security, the warmth, the lusciousness of her deep, full breaths and body in rhythm. But at times, he can tend to be moody causing distance in the bed. When he refuses to respond to her advances, it is hard for her to remember their once strong compatibility in the bedroom.

As the Aries woman and Cancer man set to start a relationship, they both enjoy it mutual desire of loving and to be loved. For both of them love is most important but while for Aries it was more of a demand, for a Cancer it’s more an uncertain sentimental feeling. Though Aries admire the care and tenderness of Cancer, they become upset of the ever fluctuating moods of the Cancer. Aries always provides Cancer with the sense of confidence and security by their optimistic approach and possessiveness but their impulsive behavior can hurt the sensitive Cancer heart very frequently. Money often tends to be the biggest problem between these two as she likes to spend money, while he is a saver. When these two learn to properly line up their communication, they work wonders together.

  1. Shen July 25th, 2018

    Well I’m an aries woman and though my Cancer man is very secretive, I’ve learnt to be patient and with my fiery nature I spark his world and melt his ice. He has taught me a lot and so have I. We click you know. Though it’s hard sometimes to deal with my temper and his moods we still work. He’s the best thing that has happened to me so far.

  2. Aries Chick April 1st, 2018

    Well as an Aries Women, I’ve met a beautiful male Cancer that has not “changed” me but rather taught me some new things and meeting him was a big blessing… to my life. As an Aries im very straightforward and aggressive and he’s passive aggressive and takes his time on things, we just know how to work with eachother and value eachother as people rather than lovers. (Same thing ? Not really because with people you’re often careful on things you say but with a lover, things slip out easily, which can hurt your s/o)

  3. Alan Edwards January 31st, 2018

    I’m a cancer man and that just lost his Aries bride of 33 years. If you fall in love with someone who the hell cares what they’re zodiac sign is. Grow up.

    • S. L. February 1st, 2018

      See, there are anomalies for the cancer man and Aries woman, but personally I’ll probably die too if I stay in my relationship with my  crabby cake cancer…real talk. Like it or not. We’ve tried for 25 years. I’m preparing to leave and give us both the opportunity to find more compatible mates to grow old with. Of  course a cancer man will never admit to the real facts that eventually water signs will throw too much water on fire signs….Smh.

      • Cancer Guy February 3rd, 2018

        Typical Aries woman answer, blame anyone just not myself, take the easy way out as long as it is for my benefit (selfishness max level), I will not change for anyone comes to mind, what is it you really want??
        and I don’t believe that 2 people tried for 25 years to reach the decision to leave, you are 24years too late I think, but I suspect that what truly happened is that you crabby cake stopped taking the blame and accepting and started being a man and demanding his due, just my opinion.

      • Cosmoz February 24th, 2018

        Depends. Other things factor in that don’t have anything to do with what sign you are like upbringing, environment etc. That affects the way these attributes play out.

  4. Sunshine December 20th, 2017

    I’m an Aries girl and I had a crush on a Cancer guy. I really thought he was ‘the one’ you know immediately when I first saw him, he’s quite shy, I’m not ;), but then a few months later he told me he already has a partner so I immediately distanced myself from him. A mutual friend thought we would make a nice couple but she apparently didn’t seem to know him too well because she didn’t know he was already taken.. It’s nice I got to know him a bit better this year. He is nice to everybody, hugs with everybody too I think and needs to hear he’s doing a great job from everybody. We have the same passion for playing drums so it’s great to talk about that. I still feel quite stupid that I flirted with him but I guess there are worse things in the world. It is the way it is and probably for a good reason too. I still believe there is a super wonderful guy out there who will take care of me, be my big teddy bear and make an adorable baby with me.. until then I will just bang my drums 🙂

    • asd January 30th, 2018

      thats actually so funny to me, idk if its something abt the dynamic of the signs but I’m in the exact same situation. Everyone says we’re more of a couple than he is w his gf. He’s such a lovely calm person but were such a power couple and I never know if he cares for just me or everyone. good luck!!

  5. Cancer Guy December 6th, 2017

    I am a Cancer man, I love my Aries woman who i am married to for the past 8 years so much and i have given her all what she ever wished for even if it was against my own feelings, like i controlled my jealousy, left her to spend her heart out even against my better judgement for saving money for our kids and everything.

    Our sex life is not great, she is cold, and i am fire, so this is one thing against the article hehe.

    I just found out a couple of months ago that she betrayed me with another guy during last year, something kept nagging on me to find what is wrong and being a tech guy i found more than i really wanted, couldn’t pin down 100% fi she went physical or stayed emotional only, but for me both are in the same bed of ugly.

    Now we are working through things, i am no longer the loving guy with easy attitude she knows, i am still loving but with cautious attitude, and lack of trust and tons of jealousy, trying to control the last part as much as possible.

    We cancers hate lying and hiding things from us, we lay our emotions bare for the people we love, and give everything soul and body for them, Aries women take that for granted after a time, and they forget our second nature of being detailed, emotionally smart, and that we have a 6th sense to things.

    Another treat about Aries women is that they are stubborn and keep pushing their way even if it will reach for them to lose everything they have, which my lady did, even till today she is trying to persuade me to agreeing to her way, although that everything i am doing now is to save the family and create a safe environment for my kids to grow up in.

    My advice from experience to cancer men, once we get into our security zone we become predictable which is the worst thing we do, Aries women will start taking you for granted, and but you on the back shelf, as a secure haven to go back to after her adventures.

    Once we stop being predictable and preferably not be there in the first place, we remain interesting for Aries women, and they stick to you like glue, which is what we like, and we can be our charming caring self once again, Aries women although dive head first into everything they are 90% of the time afraid of the outcome and just living the moment, the insecurity is hidden and they use rashness as a way to prove to herself first and to others that she is fearless and the best.

    They love the way we treat them because we give them what they lack which is a way back after the adventure, they are bored easily, so we need to keep it exiting, and they will try to fill their life with meaningless things if they find gaps in them.

    Work hard on being the leader for an Aries woman and you will have the best relationship every, i say leader not boss, which means to steer things lightly and smartly, don’t try to push just steer, if you try to push you lose, if you lead or steer things bit by bit, you will find something amazing.

    • Aries Woman December 22nd, 2017

      Cancer man Thanks for posting your experience….

      Aries women, first time dating a Cancer man and I’m like wow, where have you been all my life. In reality, I probably encounter cancer men earlier in life but may have frighten them away. Or they didn’t stand out in the crowd for us to notice. But from my experience so far, a Cancer (mature) man is a hidden jewel……

      Aries women exert confidence, boldness, in your face, this is who I am and don’t really care what you think of it; upon first meeting us and it’s really who we are. But we are actually or can be nice loyal women if we deem you worthy. We have some insecurities, get our feelings hurt like everyone else but recover and move on very quickly. The saying is true for us: What doesn’t kill you will make you stronger. So for every setback in life, we take time to reinvent ourselves and come back twice as fierce as the first time.

      I’m an Aries woman in a new relationship with Cancer man. He’s the sweetest guy ever, goes out of his way to please me and tolerates my highly misunderstood personality 🙂 Yet beneath that sweetness there is a very strong protective man. HOWEVER, he can be a bit moody when he’s not feeling well. I simply give him space and allow him to get over whatever is bothering him. He’ll come around and apologize for any adverse behavior.

      I agree with most of what you stated. The “taking you for granted” part of Aries woman has a lot to do with maturity. When I was younger, that was true. Being slightly older and wiser, I’ve learned to appreciate and never take a good man for granted.

      I do have thoughts of adventures from time to time, lol. But think about the potential bad outcome and never act on them. Lastly, I love that you stated “work hard on being the leader for an Aries woman”…”lead not boss, if you try to push you lose”…. SOOOOO true and so many men don’t understand that simple logic. We are strong women and dislike weak men, but you can’t try to boss us…. In the end it depends on the individual person and the willingness to compromise for the sake of a healthy happy relationship.

      • Correll January 27th, 2018

        I’m confused met an Aries woman,didn’t know she was in the beginning, she is very spicy she noticed me in the beginning I’m a cancer male myself,I had lost a sister and never noticed her but all of a sudden she started being nice smiling,I was pretty much ignoring her until one day she asked how I was doing and I said I twisted my back so the next week I saw her and was talking to her co worker all of a sudden she ask how was my back.Then I really noticed her and how beautiful she looked every time she saw me her big brown eyes lit up and she would always smile,still no sparks came on me.I had been still grieving about the lost of my sister.So finally as I was leaving I said to her that I wanted to thank her cause she didn’t realize what I was going through, so when I told her she gave me a hug and then I shook her hand and gave her 50.00 she thought it was my number because she put it in her pocket right away. When she saw me the next week she was surprised because every guy who sees her goes crazy and I didn’t. The following wk. She gave me something, so in return I gave her a card of thanking her for showing compassion to a stranger.We started talking whenever I’d come in she was already in a committed relationship.So I said I figured and ask her to give me a call some time but it turns out she said she only like texting and I said I hate it but I did it for her but it seem the more she got to know me the less exciting I got,now that she achieved my attention. I was willing to be a friend I wasn’t looking for a relationship so I asked if I could take her and her co worker out she yeah and let me know but that never happened so I took out the co worker whom I wasn’t into I told her about no bug deal.Fast forward she dropped her man of 5 1/2 years so I said now maybe we can go out and get to know each other as friends,says yes? I didn’t want to push up on her to fast but when I asked her when are we going out? She tells me now she’s officially dating someone else,if she wasn’t we’d go out pissed me off!!! It’s my fault I was always being to nice buy her things giving her money but she always told me I have an amazing smile.She put me in the friend zone I was cool with that so we never got the chance to know each other I tried but her job and mine only gave us a little time to talk.Still I would ask her to call never happened. My approach to friendship is always flirting she would occasionally. But this is where it really hurt she started telling me about how respectful he was and all that he does and I told her she just described me,opening doors ,chairs, taking off and putting her coat on letting her be her no pressure and so forth.So I told her given that one harmless date with me she would have gotten the same and then some.I don’t know where I went wrong because women always approached me cause I’m shy just like she did. She herself told me I had it going on but wants me to continue to be her friend.I’ve grown to care about her a lot. I recently lost my mother she checked up on me.I’m hurting not sure what I should do?? I want to remain a friend but she cut me deep.I’m stable got my own home,car,money in the bank not much but I do OK for myself

    • hawksbears82 December 31st, 2017

      I am also a cancer male with aries woman for a wife. It like you typed my exact situation. Sorry he cheated. But I feel you pain. My wife and I are about to separate. She just doesnt care taking a good man for granted is the exact issue. I as willing to do wahtever it take to make it work, counsleing, cooking, clening, laundry. Nothing was good enough. Now I am looking to move on. Good luck to you. I can alwasy be a sounding board if you need it.

      • Cancer Guy January 5th, 2018

        My friend what you are doing wrong is that you are trying to do everything, she already is taking you for granted why are you still doing the things she takes for granted?

        you need to have more space, go back become your charming self, the guy she fell for in the first place you need to go out of your shell, show her your charisma, how much people think of you as a value, Aries women specially like the desired guy, and they like to call these guys their own in front of everyone.

        I am here for you please send me if you need any help, or just someone to listen.

    • Jill June 3rd, 2019

      Thats your cant leaf a leader. If she cheated its because you pushed her and you were too distant..

  6. Genevieve Cuya Vargas November 30th, 2017

    I’m arian and that’s true about cancerian people coz I’m in a relatio ship with a cancer man….he really do everything to win my heart and he is really sweet ….as of now we are friends for 2 years and 8 months in our.relationship.i thank him for loving me coz now I’m doing good and my path is good also…i hope everything fine and happy together……

  7. R October 18th, 2017

    No fuck him, you don’t deserve that type of treatment. Coming from a Aries women! I been through this exact situation with a cancer man. Earth signs are a lot better then cancer man in my opinion. I think he just playing game.

  8. S. L. October 1st, 2017

    Wow, I felt like that when I first met my cancer, man. He told me very similar things. If I could go back over 23 years ago, I would have grabbed my bag and taken his advice. It’s a lovely relationship in the beginning. But, the Aryan woman is so funny iery and the cancer man is so moody and sentimental. It just causes trouble over the long run. We stuck it out because we are very intelligent, spiritual people and we had four beautiful children together. But it is been a long struggle. The comforting support of the Cancer Man prevented me from making my own mistakes. It could have been lovely, yes but in the long-term we both feel exhausted. At the same time, we still are friends. We should have maintained our friendship. Not a love relationship with children. That is hard on the cancer and Aries even though they are attracted to one another. Believe me, children will definitely pick up on the incompatibility of your relationship rather you like it or not what.

  9. Shirley Barnett July 17th, 2017

    The insight provided about the Aries female and the Cancer male is uncanny in ny newly found relationship . I was doing things right without realizing it and he responded accordingly.

  10. Nise July 9th, 2017

    I am an aries woman in love with a cancer man, I love him so much and see so many great things about him, i feel like I can be at ease like a child when he is around. I can’t begin to say how much I love him. Its been a year and seven months since i have known him, however i find it so hard to get through his exterior. I have told him I loved him 3 times in the past and the first answer was “you shouldn’t love me, the second “I’m not ready to date” and the third which was a few weeks ago “I like you but i don’t love you”. I feel he enjoys spending time with me and he can be so cuddly but after our meeting he always seems so distant. I try to act like I’m alright and try to get my mind of him but I feel I am given way to much room and end up missing him to much to the point I feel ignored. Somtimes I question whether i should keep on loving him, and if anything will ever change between us. I like to think that he is slowly returning the love back to me but other times i see otherwise. He was dating another woman while he was with me (im letting you know we aren’t together but are close) and I was pretty hurt becuase he said “he didn’t want to date” ouch. Sometimes I feel like no matter how much I love him I can never be with him, I just can’t tell what he thinks or feels. Should i continue to pursue him?

    • Kayla July 13th, 2017

      As a fellow Aries who was in the same position with a Cancer. The best you can do is be there for them and help them open up, with constructive honesty. You may not think he notices but Cancers notice everything you do for them and they forget it. My Cancer would try to find fulfillment in crappy relationships that I was around to see and it would drive me insane. Took me 2 and a half years before I snagged him. I’d say put him in your back pocket but if you choose to talk to other people that’s fine just don’t tell him about it because if he dies have feelings he won’t say anything because he doesn’t want to burden you

    • A Guest August 8th, 2017

      Grab him by the nuts and tell him he belongs to you.
      That will make him stop fooling around and be your man.
      Also you should not flirt with other guys or he will get very jealous and will not trust you.

    • S. L. October 1st, 2017

      Wow, I felt like that when I first met my cancer, man. He told me very similar things. If I could go back over 23 years ago, I would have grabbed my bag and taken his advice. It’s a lovely relationship in the beginning. But, the Aryan woman is so funny iery and the cancer man is so moody and sentimental. It just causes trouble over the long run. We stuck it out because we are very intelligent, spiritual people and we had four beautiful children together. But it is been a long struggle. The comforting support of the Cancer Man prevented me from making my own mistakes. It could have been lovely, yes but in the long-term we both feel exhausted. At the same time, we still are friends. We should have maintained our friendship. Not a love relationship with children. That is hard on the cancer and Aries even though they are attracted to one another. Believe me, children will definitely pick up on the incompatibility of your relationship rather you like it or not what.

    • R October 18th, 2017

      No fuck him, you don’t deserve that type of treatment. Coming from a Aries women! I been through this exact situation with a cancer man. Earth signs are a lot better then cancer man in my opinion. I think he just playing game.

    • Denise bieberle November 16th, 2018

      Girl don’t give him no more Pussy, If a Cancer man don’t want your LOVE. Your Doing something wrong. Fuck Him!!!!!!!!!

  11. Nick June 7th, 2017

    Don’t worry man I know what your going through. That literally just happened to me. She the Aries ran back to her ex when I told her she’s gonna realize he’s still a pos and she is gonna come back because us cancer men are amazing. And guess what happened…..yes she realize and ran back to me. And now we are laying in bed reading this together
    Don’t worry man she will be back, just give her, her space just like what I did and she will be back in your arms

  12. TammimB May 31st, 2017

    Every since this website got a new layout I stopped getting emails. How do i get the the old layout back

  13. Diometra May 23rd, 2017

    I’m an Aries woman. My advice is to distantly love her while giving her time to sort through her emotions. Court her and while she’s getting over him you are THE OPTION. Just don’t be too available. Leave room for her to miss you.

  14. Lopez May 16th, 2017

    I am a Cancer man madly in love with an Aries woman. I cannot stress enough on how much I love this girl, she currently got out of a 2 year relationship but we have been talking for at least 3 or 4 years. I have always been in love with this girl, her smile has always been my weakness and she always knows how to soften me up. She is still in love with her ex and it really hurts because all things may seem like rainbows and sugar but she’ll come in contact with him again and start acting weird…We recently got into an argument and decided to take a break while she “gets over” him and I don’t mind it because I love her so much but I am scared she’ll leave me for him. This feeling really sucks because Ive met her mom already and want to meet more of her family but I don’t want to get comfortable. I really love this girl and would like any kind of advice from an Aries girl that has gone what my girl is going through rn or anyone. Did you go back or did you really push through for your new significant other and got over the last one?

    • Drianne May 17th, 2017

      Hi, I am Aries girl, I fell in love with a cancer man . You are just cute mem, I adore the shyness you have , I simply adore cancer men. Well, to answer your question: If she is still in love with the other guy she will keep looking for him, but if u fight for her, she will end up being with u , believe me 😉

    • Lilly May 21st, 2017

      I wish my Cancer man feel the same about me as u do with ur Aries woman?

    • corrinne May 23rd, 2017

      never give up on an aries woman and she will be yours

    • genesisauringer7 June 2nd, 2017

      This is so beautiful! I’m a Aries women and im dealing with an cancer man .. But I honestly don’t know if he really cares or is using me 🙁 times I think he cares then he does other things makes me question if he still dealing with his ex !

    • Nick June 7th, 2017

      Don’t worry man I know what your going through. That literally just happened to me. She the Aries ran back to her ex when I told her she’s gonna realize he’s still a pos and she is gonna come back because us cancer men are amazing. And guess what happened…..yes she realize and ran back to me. And now we are laying in bed reading this together
      Don’t worry man she will be back, just give her, her space just like what I did and she will be back in your arms

  15. Dean May 15th, 2017

    Guys and gals. I know this aries women for about 10 years and recently she hasn’t responded to me. Maybe something i did without realizing it or she going through something. Should i give up on her or let her have a lil space and then show her and talk to her on a pesonal level? Anyone help. P.s im a cancer man and she told me she wanted my kids n loved me. Was it true or ?

  16. Danielle May 8th, 2017

    I had dated a cancer man and the sex was great at times but we use to argue sometimes about money spending time together with one another and just being there for that person we dated for 3 year and
    we had two miscarriages but even duo we not together today I know he will come back to me one day because they always do if he don’t come back then I’ll know that the 3 year we spend together was for nothing.

  17. Lisa April 13th, 2017

    I’m dating a cancer man and even he hates horoscopes. He is very moody . We sparred 6 years ago and he came back to me saying that he did a huge mistake . I took him back . Him now he won’t leave me and go away due to his mood swings . He is very socialising . When with his friends or colleagues he forgets me .

  18. keyoshea collect March 8th, 2017

    I am currently dating a caner man. I can say he does make me feel like im the only woman and he is very loving and I love it. Hooefully everything goes well ps. He hates horoscopes ?

    • keyoshea March 8th, 2017


    • Mademoiselle Noir March 27th, 2017

      Oh my gosh! Same, I’m dating a Cancer guy and I’m an Aries myself. He really hates horoscope though. True, hopefully everything goes well:) All the best!

    • Mandy April 4th, 2017

      Trust me it’s hard.. especially when a Leo woman is around him wanting him..
      He also doesn’t believe in astrology but the way it describes on here is spot on..

      Keep being you Aries.. you know what we stand for ??✌
      Good luck with your Cancer man..
      Please proof the differ ❤

  19. Nakia February 16th, 2017

    Tony has a way about him when he stare at me it makes me feel like im the only person that matters to him it’s very sexy to me I love ? him its been two years now and tonight he said I said I hate him lol but I told him im still with you and he said he knew I wasn’t going anywhere and I said I wasnt so the cancer man can calm a aries woman fire Nakia love Tony

  20. Kurt Simpson February 12th, 2017

    I’m a cancer guy and I’m in love with an aries lady and she loves me. We’ve been going together about a year now. About the comments it’s not about the horoscope signs it’s the person your getting involved with hope that’s some advice.

  21. Taylor February 5th, 2017

    I’ve dated a cancer man in my early 20’s and he was the best I had. No one can compare to him. Still. The reason why aren’t together was communication. He kept everything inside and didn’t know how to express his feelings. It’s funny that we reconnected recently. Time has passed and we are two different people now. We shall see what happens.

  22. Barbara December 16th, 2016

    The cancer man I was involved with was passionate, considerate, loving, caring would do anything for me, but when he did not get sex when he wanted it all hell breaks loose. He was stubborn and it takes hell and hot water to get him to change his mind. I loved him unconditionally because he made me feel like I was the only person in the world when we were together. It’s just his stubborn nature that I couldn’t stand. His stubborn nature and sex destroyed our relationship.

  23. badaisy April 13th, 2016

    Ive had 2serious relationships with cancer men. I am an aries female. Warning: bad combo

    • H January 17th, 2017

      I totally agree I’ve dated three Cancerian men, the second was the best though and I miss him a lot :(. I’m an Aries but the third one is going for drains he doesn’t care about at all surprisingly, self-centered, selfish, wanting all the attention of woman around him. I just can’t trust him, it’s horrible, the worst Cancerian I’ve ever dated.

    • guyinAU February 8th, 2017

      Not all cancer men, are 100% cancer men. Same goes with other signs too. I’m a cancer man 12’th July, and while some of the above traits fits like a glove, others couldn’t be any further from the truth.

      EG – I’m certainly not a home body, I’m very much spontaneous by nature. Agreed in my early years, I found it hard to express my feelings, however that’s no longer the case.

      Most people are a mix of signs sitting either side of their birth sign.

      • Lilly April 16th, 2017

        Hi! I’m an Asian Aries woman, born April 2, dating an Italian man who born July 12 as well. I really like him, and hope so much everything between us work out.

  24. TammimB March 27th, 2016

    @arianlady well did you find another cancer man because I’m  cancer man that was raised by a leo and Taurus. An Aries perfect match is Leo and I’ve inherited some Leo traits from my Leo father

  25. arianlady June 26th, 2015

    I’m an arian woman myself and I was with a Cancer man who was older than me in a year, we lasted about four months. When we were good, it was full of love and emotion. He made me speechless most of the time, he made me feel like a princess with his excessive love and devotion. I have trust issues yet he made me trust him and believe that he really loves me. He brought the romance in me and made me feel special but at times I felt like I was forced to show him love when I didn’t feel like it. My honest words also hurt him. But the last month or so was so rocky. I’m an ambitious woman who goes for her dreams and career, I focus on developing myself a lot. I obviously go out a lot and spend a lot of time doing activities but he stays at home doing nothing but watching stupid series. It irritated me a lot because he used to wait for me until I finish and he got also irritated if I came back home late and couldn’t talk to him or love him properly. He got pissed off at the silliest things you can ever imagine and made a big fuss out of it. He demanded so much reassurance that I felt like I was repeating myself or that he doesn’t really appreciate how much I love him. The love for him slowly started dying because he depended so much on me and I couldn’t cope with it. I left him two times then we made up, the third time was for good. Whenever we had an argument, he refused to put the blame on himself and made me feel bad for every argument. He used to be so obsessed with me that it got annoying. I love it when someone takes care of me but not to an extent that threatens my freedom and space. He got jealous over silly things such as posting my photos on Twitter. The arguments got very nasty. He basically wanted me to change everything about myself. He made me not want to be in love again and love just disgusts me now. Too much of everything makes you sick. I think as an arian woman, i need someone who’s adventurous and ready to be active with me not ruin my mood. I need someone who makes me chase him and give me space. I felt like I was in a cage when I was with him because he wanted to talk to me 24/7 and wanted me to provide him with love all that time. I don’t regret what we had because when everything was good between us, it was perfect. But I’ll definitely reconsider falling for another Cancer man. 

    • S. L. October 1st, 2017

      You hit The Cancer Man and Aries Woman on the head. I wish I was smart as you and got out on Strike 3. But, I stayed because of the beautiful, magical times. Like drugs, I kept wanting more of the good times and trying to avoid or downgrade the really bad time. Foolish me…I had 4 children by this Cancer Man. I bet you had someone to talk to about this and helped you to see the light before you kept going?

  26. carlaakil June 26th, 2015

    I’m an arian woman myself and I was with a Cancer man who was older than me in a year, we lasted about four months. When we were good, it was full of love and emotion. He made me speechless most of the time, he made me feel like a princess with his excessive love and devotion. I have trust issues yet he made me trust him and believe that he really loves me. But the last month or so was so rocky. I’m an ambitious woman who goes for her dreams and career, I focus on developing myself a lot. I obviously go out a lot and spend a lot of time doing activities but he stays at home doing nothing but watching stupid series. It irritated me a lot because he used to wait for me until I finish and he got also irritated if I came back home late and couldn’t talk to him or love him properly. He got pissed off at the silliest things you can ever imagine and made a big fuss out of it. He demanded so much reassurance that I felt like I was repeating myself or that he doesn’t really appreciate how much I love him. The love for him slowly started dying. I left him two times then we made up, the third time was for good. Whenever we had an argument, he refused to put the blame on himself and made me feel bad for every argument. He used to be so obsessed with me that it got annoying. I love it when someone takes care of me but not to an extent that threatens my freedom and space. He got jealous over silly things such as posting my photos on Twitter. The arguments got very nasty. He basically wanted me to change everything about myself. He made me not want to be in love again and love just disgusts me now. Too much of everything makes you sick. I think as an arian woman, i need someone who’s adventurous and ready to be active with me not ruin my mood. I need someone who makes me chase him and give me space. I felt like I was in a cage when I was with him because he wanted to talk to me 24/7 and wanted me to provide him with love all that time. I don’t regret what we had because when everything was good between us, it was perfect. But I’ll definitely reconsider falling for another Cancer man. 

    • guyinAU February 8th, 2017

      @arianlady – Judging one guy, based on his star sign, is like a man judging ever woman, because he was burnt by his ex.

      Your story reads as if the relationship ended because he was 100% at fault. If this “cancer” guy was sooooo needy/clingy, with such low self esteem etc, then the warning-signs (red flags) would have been there, when you started dating.

      Obviously you enjoyed the attention, but it seems only when it suited you, and on your terms.

      BTW I’m not defending this guy…

      However I beg the question, if your a career woman, and need to pursue self improvement both for your own personal growth, and from a management level etc., if those are high on your must-do-list, then why would you get romantically involved with this guy???!!!

      Seems very odd…

  27. dimples32590 January 29th, 2015

    Well I’m 24 and I’m aries woman dating a cancer man .. I’m so confused about him like he acts so different to the point it drives me nuts we only been talking about a month and I like him a lot . just dont think he feels the same even though I’m Aries and we have a tendacy of jumping the gun at times but its only because we need reassuring we constantly doubt ourselves well I know I do. But just like today I told him he treat me like the side chick he told me  if that was the case he wouldn’t have ask me to be his girlfriend he would just  kept being with other girls .But he claim to change and show me different I hope he do shit because we met and the next week he asked me to be his girl and now I feel like I have to deal with the consequences of my actions for jumping In a relationship so quick .But when where together he acts very affectionate . makes me wonder if that’s what he do with all his  side prices or should I take that into consideration s

  28. TrippyGyptian August 18th, 2014

    Wow I’m so glad I stumbled across this page i’m an aries woman and have been dating my cancer partner for a few months now but we’ve knwn each other for about 8 years I’m very straight forward and he’s more laid back about him feelings and emotions sometimes I feel like im too much for him. I love the fact that he is gentle he makes me feel special and i truly feel so comfortable around him and i can be myself we laugh we joke and mw makes me smile. I hate that i can be a little rash if we go through something i can say hurtful things to him and he never disrespects me some how we always find our way back to each other even with my aggressive personality he gives me a since of calm and i never have to doubt how he feels about me even though he’s very quiet about his feelings everyday he let’s me knw I’m on his mind no relationship is perfect but some are worth the effort and there’s no other place i’d rather be than with him❤❤❤

  29. Irish-Red August 4th, 2014

    Out of curiosity I checked out the comments and the description for this combination. It is accurate. My cancer man and I have been in love for over 20 yrs. now. He loves the fighter in me, I love his devotion and caring. I have always felt protected by him. Don’t let that fool you, cancer men can rip people apart, but when the two of us are together, it’s difficult to describe. We calm one another, in a sense feed off one another, the energy we give one another is amazing.
    There are moments when I blow up, he knows how to read me and waits. I’ve learned when to give him space and let him go into his “self preservation mode”. This works for us.
    The water-fire statement is all about the Steam we conjure together and learning how not to get scalded but keep it at a comfortable level we both thrive off of together.

    • michelle_nunez January 4th, 2017

      Thank you for writing this you gave me so much hope for my relationship I only have heard bad things about our combo but i love this man so much and I want us to make it but it has definetly been really hard. But I’m going to keep fighting for us

    • guyinAU February 8th, 2017

      @Irish-Red – No one is perfect, but it seems like you, and your guy, have the ability to really understand and accept each others flaws. And it’s that really what being truly in love with someone means. Accepting them warts and all.

  30. MrsBliss December 27th, 2013

    I am an Aries woman who just married a cancer man. We have known each other since we were 12, but he was too shy to speak to me. His family knows what little family I have and still he couldn’t get the courage to speak to me. Well we just started talking one day when we were both 29 and instantly we clicked. We talked for almost 24hrs straight. Within 6mo I flew across the US to be with him. I moved in with him before we even had our first date. As the description says, I’m hot headed. I scream, fight and run when I feel like something isn’t right. With him, he had his moods. He was very emotional and depressed all of the time. After a year I had moved out on him 3 times and even gave him a black eye, but he hung in there. He stood by my side. Helped me become more caring and I guess I helped him to become a stronger person emotionally. He hasn’t had an episode nor have I since we really just had that instant where we both needed each other so much it evened us out. So many things have happened in the last 2yrs. We are married, lost some family, got arrested together lol and now we are having a baby together and I wouldn’t change us for anything in the world. He completes me. He is the calm I needed in my personal storm. If you can hash it out, be adults and gain common ground an Aries woman and a Cancer man can be the relationship you always dreamed of. 

  31. LWorley56 November 25th, 2013

    My boyfriend (a cancer) and myself (an aries) have had the same problems as many of the others on these coments and in the article. Cancer men take forever to make their minds up on anything… not just opening up to someone. It took my boyfriend 6 months to just tell me he liked me, even though we were best friends. But when we stated dating, boy did my life changed forever. The protectiveness/ possessiveness talked about in the article above is shown on a daily basis between my boyfriend and I. Even though we have our blowouts, no I do not mean fights, we are still together happily. He always knows how to make me smile and laugh even when I have had a horrible day. He is the sweetest and most gentle man I have ever known. Even though he has his days like the rest of us, he still manages to put up with me on a daily basis. To anyone who is going through the same thing, I feel for you. I have finally realized and came to the conclusion that when he is having a mood 180, no not a mood swing, that I need to back away to a safe distance. That way I don’t have to let my temper slip. 

  32. LWorley56 November 25th, 2013

    My boyfriend and I are both 16 years old. He is a Cancer and I am a Aries. I have never really got into horoscopes but I find this article very interesting. My boyfriend and I have been dating 8 months and have been best friends for over a year now. This article pretty much decribes us both perfectly. We have been through more fights and breakups than anyone can imagine, but somehow we are still together. I guess between being best friends and falling in love we have never let go. I have read this article twice, and each time it seems more true.  When I was yonger I created a list of what my perfect guy would be and now I have it, despite the crazy mood swings, and almost constant fighting of course. But I guess anyone who can deal with an Arien woman needs some form of release every now and then. 

  33. needarsh October 4th, 2013

    i too face the same differnces between us in our relationship but…..whatever it may be… I will definately make my relationship the most amazing one……

  34. faeriespirals March 10th, 2013

    I’m an Aries woman married to a Cancer man. We’ve been married for almost 12 years. I would say that a lot of the information and comments here have been accurate for the long haul. We’ve had our ups and downs, as I’m sure most relationships do, but I still have a really hard time being patient and dealing with his moods. I have to admit that I know I shouldn’t be so straightforward and harsh in dealing with them, but I can’t help myself. I would say to anyone in this same kind of relationship who are considering marriage… move in together and live together for several years before tying the knot. As much as I love my Husband, if I had to do it over again, I might make a different decision and I’m sure he would say the same. That said, we’re in it for life and neither one of us wants a divorce, for one we have three young children, and another, we are both very stubborn in our own ways. I always try to stay positive and hold on to hope while he cannot help but be negative. It’s very hard for both of us to understand where the other one is coming from because we are so different. I believe, this is also why we’re still together. He puts up with my ferocity and I can’t stand his moodiness, but we love each other with a burning passion, at times, lol.

  35. Terry_Cherry March 3rd, 2013

    Hey, I’m an aries woman (21) and my bf is a cancer (23) and we’ve been together for 2 years. I love him tremendously, some of the things you’ve said I can completely relate to. With this guy you’re talking to, I know he tends to be slow in giving you the type of responses you need, in most cases than none, you will have to make the first move. Because when him and I met, I had to make the first move. He showed his interest by doing sweet things and saying sweet things but I had to let him know look, this is how I feel do you feel the same? And we’ve been inseparable since the very first day we met. Though arguing   over petty things every now and again. But honestly, this is one of my best relationships. Just be patient with him and try to be considerate towards his sensitivity. Let him know how you feel! 

  36. Lifeisinthemusic March 2nd, 2013

    So, I am not sure how much faith I am willing to put into astrological signs and the outcome of a relationship…But some of the things mentioned in both the main explanation and comments persuaded me to search for some advice.
    I am an Aries woman…”under-developed” in a sense as well. I recently started talking to a Cancer man a few weeks ago and I lIke him VERY much and think the relationship can definirely proofread into something great. And as an FYI, he is about 9 months younger than I am. I’m 24, he is 23. 
    Anyways, he has said in the past that he takes relationships slow and tends to put family and friends before a new relationship….totally understandable. My ISSUE IS…(and I’ve already told him that I tend to move fast and am workin on slowing myself down), how much pushing is TOO much. I am the type to always let someone know how I feel…like I’ll use the kiss emoticon to remind him that I’m still interested in that way. If he says he is going to be playing COD with a friend then I’ll be like cool, go have fun and he will get offended almost like I don’t want to talk to him…which is SO not the case at all. So I know that he has some feelings for me, but I can never tell aside from when he is calling me sweetheart and babe and stuff. Am I being a paranoid Aries? Should I just let it be? Am I pushing to hard with the emoticons? Should I let him make the first big moves? I want him to, but will he even if he is interested.
    What I don’t want to happen is for me to ask all these questions and scare him away (even if he feels the same). Keep in mind that we have never met. He texts me everyday and somerimes I’ll ask he is able to call (works A LOT), and he usually does. Sometimes I’ll think to myself why doesn’t he do it on his own? Sigh. Hard to know what he is thinking…don’t want to offend him with my bluntness. 
    Any advice on how to proceed, given his nature, would be great. I’ve never dated anyone like him before. 

  37. grace-m December 28th, 2012

    im an arien lady and very bubbly ,i recently met a Cancer man, i asked him about his personal life and when he reached his house he texted me that he didnt like my questions and i asked him which questions in particular he just said to me he would speak to me after he had taken a nap its been a 3 weeks now he doesnt reply my texts or wattsapp messages and i see him online so does it mean that if i meet him somewhere he will ignore me or he will pretend nothing has happened

  38. hellme December 19th, 2012

    I’m a cancer boy in love with an aries girl but not anymore…and i believe in all these signs.She is the best thing that ever happened to me.we’ve dated for a few months.I love her more than anything.she told i m freaking her out.And i never meant to do that but i did because i was losing her.Hope she realize how much she means to me.

  39. shake3 November 20th, 2012

    I really just wanted to say “Thank You” This Is Me Im An Aires….. 🙂 And i’ve been talking to this boy name jordan he’s an cancer and we do this all the time i cant help that he a very emotional person and im’m unstable so you have moody and unstable people together so just image how thats working out i really care about but i hold back alot because he is so damn wishy washy i hate that shit,lol really i do but i like/love this guy i tell him all the time how much i care about him but he thinks im cheating or talking to someone else he says “I’m Too Out Going” i say rude things all the time and he says it hurts him but, and i brush everything off which makes him feel like i dont CARE. DAMN! JORDAN I DO CARE ABOUT YOU…………………. I LOVE YOU.

  40. 489435 October 18th, 2012

    Aries female is most beautiful and sexy woman of all 11 other signs together.If any aries female read this she have my soul.All this bullshit that aries and cancer is not good relationship this is suck.All i now is that aries female is 100 better than any cancer or scorpio or pisces or libra or any other sign who supposted to bee the most beautiful.Aries female is number 1 in anything !

  41. cancer79 August 27th, 2012

    I’m a cancer who’s been with an aries woman for six months now and I honesly have never been happier in a relashionship than I am right now. There are a couple things about us that I think are important to note for other couples like us. One thing is that as a cancer I don’t always like to talk about whats bugging me, and when that happens I wear my emotions and become very quiet. Well, my aries woman reads me like a book and wants to know what’s wrong, and she refuses to let it go till I tell her, and my advice would be to talk to her. Our communication is huge in our relationship, it’s the reason that we don’t fight, and it’s the reason that we’ve become so close and so intimate with each other. And one thing that she does is to remind herself that even though I’m very open with her, in social situations I’m a very quiet person, and just because I’m not talking doesn’t mean I’m upset.
    But all in all our relationship has been amazing, we can be out in public, a bar or a baseball game, and when she looks at me, we are the only two people in the world. I can’t help but be in awe of her, she catches me just looking at her constantly. With her our love is not work, it seems to come so naturally, so easy, and yet I always want to show her how much she means to me. I want for her to never have to wonder how I feel about her or for her to ever be jealous of another woman. No one else has more of my attention or my affection as she does. I mean there is no dought in my mind that she’s the one for me, I’m in love with every little bit of her and I’ll tell anyone that, whether they want to hear it or not.

  42. cherrybflower August 1st, 2012

    actions speak louder then words but words a sometimes needed…

  43. cherrybflower August 1st, 2012

    oh myy goodness! lol okay, i am an aries girl 20 yrs young currently in a relationship with a cancer man 27 yrs old (hehe i always mess with him about his age). So tonight i was so bored and decided to look up our signs to see if i could understand him better. I was SHOCKED and AMAZED by how i cant even find the words lol it just tells it exactly like it is reads us to a T. so i said i must sign up and comment!
    So we always have a argue about something stupid but i just say babe ugh what ever lol and try to move on but his attitude stays stuck on what ever we argued about. I try to change the subject or mention something but when i do, i do it with such an excitment just to grab his attention lol even though im not sure what im going to say my self and i end up just telling him how much i love him hehe. I find that he helps me grow as a person and that means the world to me because not everybody can do that and to have that especially in a relationship is such a blessing and i wouldnt trade it for the world. Although we have our ups and downs we love each other very much. I give him his space when he needs it but i notice that when i assume he needs a minute he gets mad lol like why do you want to get off the phone?! so i change it up really quick! but the thing is he sometimes stays quiet and doesnt respond so i think okay maybe he doesnt want to be on the phone or something and i end up being super wrong! Another thing is about the money MY GOODNESS curse the money! lol i know my ideas tend to be expensive but i dont mean to come up with them on purpose they are usually just a thought, but my cancer man loves to be in charge of the money but he tends to spend it a lot on things that aren’t even needed!! and it drives me bonkers but i let him be. I know i can be the same way sometimes.. One thing i dont like though, is him judging me. Thats one thing that hits really hard 🙁 i dont  like that one bit because im already cautious enough of myself as it is.. he says he tries to motivate me! but i dont get motivated by you judging me i get motivated by you helping me and being positive! Something that has never happened to me in a relationship until now is.. i end up shutting my mouth because im stuck or hurt and rather be quiet. i dont like showing my emotional side as far as sadness.. is that a bad thing? he told me that if i cry all the time it annoys him so i cant cry. but the thing is i dont cry over any little thing! if i cry it is because i am either really upset or really hurt. And i cry in silence. suck it up and keep moving. the pain tends to linger around for a little while but with time i forget it was even around.. I really love him to pieces and i tell him all the time.. he seems to not believe me though 🙁 and i asked him if he trust me and he never answered and that worry’s me.. i text him after getting off the phone saying that i love him blah blah blah but then i put that it hurt me that he didn’t trust me and i wish he would and i told him i was his ride or die chick till the end and that i pinky promised. he ended up calling me a couple of minutes later singing and joking as always.. no response to the msg but it was like, he read it but he called to let me know he is here and he cares.. actions speak louder then words..

  44. mskk3 April 5th, 2012

     I am a Aries female. I have known my cancer male best friend for over seven years. I have always liked him more as a friend, but never thought it would go anywhere.Finally we have a expressed our love and like for one another, and our love is stronger than ever. He is currently incarcerated. We talk all the time and continously express our love for one another. Sometimes he can be distant. I just let him have his space. He comes back around. We talk out our problems, good communication is key. We have never had a fight, maybe some misunderstandings.He keeps me grounded. He is a great man, im glad he is my best friend and man.  

  45. nenecherry March 30th, 2012

    hello, i am an aries female curently dating a cancer male who is 2 yrs older than me and we love each other so much. he is like the best thing that has ever happened to me. he makes me laugh and he’ so romantic with me.he’s never afraid to tell how much he loves me and mostly makes me feel good as a woman.although he flirts with the girls alot but he let’s them know that i have his heart and his body and i know he belongs to me both body and soul.he hugs me and holds my hands when we are on the streets and can’t keep from kissing me , infact i think alot of girls envy me because he puts me on this special pedestal and is not ashamed to tell the world that i am his girl. athough he has his moments when he gets moody and all but he eventually comes out of it and is well again. cancer men are the best in bed especially if you are the romantic type. we have a sex life that knocks the breathe out of me, it’s just like a dream come true for me. As an arian i usually hide my emotions because i’ve been hurt alot in my past relationship but since meeting my cancerian lover it’s been like a healing session and i am not afraid to express my feelings of love for him. i love him so much that i won’t mind having his baby because i know he will make a good father to my kids.

    • reymond January 2nd, 2017

      What birthday do you have

  46. DirtyDan213 December 30th, 2011

    Well, I’m 20 years old, and a cancer man. I mean, I don’t really believe in these signs, but I found it interesting, because I’m dating an an Aries woman, and we’re having some of the same problems people here are having. We do fight a lot over petty things sometimes, but we make up for it and everything is peachy. She does have an anger problem, and at first, I ignored it, but then I started using the same logic she does while fighting, and it’s gotten even worse. When we fight, she says that she much rather have me unleash my anger so we can get all of our frustration out, but the fights are just as bad or even worse. I tried ignoring the fighting, using logic while fighting to solve it, and unleashing my anger with fighting, but everything I do, we fight no matter what, lol. I don’t know if that’s because she’s an aries or something, I thought it was like that throughout most relationships. Anyway, our relationship is still going strong, I love her to death and hope to move in with her, there are some things that I don’t agree with about cancer men, like us being emotional, I’m not emotional at all, haven’t cried in years, I don’t have mood swings or different personalities.. but I am a romantic, and been the same way throughout our relationship, which has lasted for one year. Anyway, hope everything work out with cancer men and Aries women. Cause I love this girl to death, compliment her everyday.. and say I love her several times a day.

  47. DesertRose December 13th, 2011

    So I am 19 year old female Aries who is currently talking (kind of dating) a cancer guy. We’ve been talking for over a month now and things were almost perfect at the beginning but now I feel like he’s just not interested anymore. He takes FOREVER to reply to a text message and he says that he doesn’t like phone calls because he doesn’t like “talking into a mic”. We live about an hour and a half away from each other too so it doesn’t make things any easier. I try to to talk to him on a serious level but it’s almost impossible. When we’re together things are so perfect though and it’s so hard to just avoid that fact. I feel like he is just so reserved and us Aries woman do not have any patience when it comes to keeping emotions in. I tell myself to have patience with him but it’s so hard when he never puts any effort into having a serious convo. Even though I try really hard not to think about him or talk to him I find myself sending him the first message of the day. I kinda called him an ass hole and he definitely wasn’t quick to even react on that till the next morning. I felt bad about it but I’m a very stubborn Aries. Another thing that really bothers me Is that even when I am back home (which is near where he lives) he still doesn’t make the effort to see me. I don’t know what to do! He’s drivin me nuts! Should I just give up on him? Maybe he’s talking to multiple young women?

  48. DesertRose December 13th, 2011

    So I am 19 year old female Aries who is currently talking (kind of dating) a cancer guy. We’ve been talking for over a month now and things were almost perfect at the beginning but now I feel like he’s just not interested anymore. He takes FOREVER to reply to a text message and he says that he doesn’t like phone calls because he doesn’t like “talking into a mic”. We live about an hour and a half away from each other too so it doesn’t make things any easier. I try to to talk to him in a serious level but it’s almost impossible. I feel like he is just so reserved and us Aries woman do not have any patience when it comes to keeping emotions in. I tell myself to have patience with him but it’s so hard when he never puts any effort into having a serious convo

  49. ariescancerlove November 29th, 2011

    awww! i have tears in my eyes over this article! so much of what is said is exactly like my relationship with my cancer man. He’s my best friend and i feel i can always be myself around him. But other times it feels like i’m never gonna be good enough cos i’m not HIM. he acts like he’s perfect, he’s the hardest working and everything i do is wrong and selfish! we’ve been together for over 4 years (since i was 16 and he 18). We live together (he took me in when my parents kicked me out for being an aries in search for independence haha). he took me in after 9 months of being together- talk about prince charming! most guys that age are scared of seeing their mrs more than once a week! but he and i had such a perfect, intense relationship. we didnt have an argue of any sort until well into our 2nd year together! but well, thjings are so different. it’s like we are already those couples who have been together for 50 years. i thhink back to those good ol’ days all the time- when we would go and spend the whole day at the beach and he would admire me and be so affectionate. now we’re just stuck at home ALL the time. he never makes the effort he used to to be fun and adventurous. he’s always tired and wants to do solitary activities like hog the laptop or play world of warcraft or play ps3, just escapist, solo activities. makes me think he hates our lives together and needs to escape me 🙁 we don’t have sex. i haven’t had sex once since turning 20! why oh why. i need it. i’ve spoken to him about once and yelled at him about twice, which is really holding back i reckon. it doesn’t help, but i just thought silence wasn’t getting me any either so why not try to talk about it? didn’t work, he just shuts down and says sex isn’t the only thing in a relationship and it turns him off that i think that ??
    words or truth to ANY cancer man reading this: we aries women NEED sex. i am so loyal, the thought of cheating on him breaks my heart, i could never taint our relationship like that, but everytime i see anything to do with sex, it hurts cos i haven’t had any since march and i have no idea why. so cancer guys out there: please don’t do this to us, i tie the sex with the success of our relationship and our level of intimacy. i link sex with his ability to share and do things for the sake of keeping our relationship healthy in all aspects. i need it and i can’t bear to think i might go a whole year without it. and then what? when will this end? can any cancer guys help me to figure out why this has happened to us?

    the other night we argued. it came from no where cos we actually had a good day together, sort of how we used to be. then i found out he was just giving away something i owned to his ‘friend’ without asking me and i was a little offended cos i bought it and i might of been fine with it, if he had just included me on the decision (fair enough i reckon). any way, he goes ape about how he probably bought it cos i’m a poor uni student (he doesn’t share his money with me either) and he pays for internet and more rent than i do and blah blah about money, as if it’s the only thing that matters to him. i just let loose about how i never (and had never before this point) mentioned the fact he wrote off my first car i paid for (2 years ago) and never paid me back for it and how i just never even brought it up cos money doesn’t matter to me and i hold back on stuff that might hurt his feelings (i’m aware how sensitive he is) but that i just can’t take it how he always brings up money matters when he isn’t perfect either (never offered to pay me back or help me buy a new car). any way i run off to cry cos he gets really mean and spiteful. and he actually comes to me and tries to apologise (he hasn’t done this in ages either) usually he just continues playing video games and waits for me to convince myself its my fault and to get over it.
    i honestly don’t think i would still be with him if it wasn’t for the way he used to be. the way we used to be is true love and this relationship at the moment is like the longest death of love. dragged out. i’m exhausted, no sex or really much intimacy at all has really killed something inside of me. cheating wouldn’t fufil it either cos its not really about the sex, its about that connection, bearing everything to him, being vulnerable and it feeling right. i miss that. so much that it causes me to be closed down alot and in a bad mood alot, which can’t really be that attractive- but i can’t keep going the way i was without the reassurance of love that sex brings.

    i don’t want to break up over sex, but it’s soul destroying, it really is.

    but anyway when he apologised the other day after our row, he told me something he hadn’t saind in years: ‘he would never ever leave me no matter what, this is real and the materialistic stuff doesn’t really matter. he just doesn’t want to be taken for granted. he wants to know i appreciate him and what he gives me’.

    i want us to work but he doesnt seem to be tryimg, he seems to be retreating. he wont even sleep in our bed anymore, he prefers to sleep on the couch! but he reckons thats not weird?? no sex and not sleeping in the same bed are blaring signs to me that something is VERY wrong here.

    i don’t know, i’m so confused. when is enough enough? and would i ever get over him and feel satisfied by another man anyway? i don’t know if i could out myself trhough all this again

    what do people think i should do?

    My advice to aries women is: go for the cancer man cos they are unbelievable at the start and maybe you’ll be better at keeping the spark alive than i was…

  50. Lind09 November 24th, 2011

    I’ve met so many couples that are aries woman cancer man but I haven’t personally experienced anything with a cancer man.

  51. smit@ November 17th, 2011


    I think i have fallen for this cancer friend of mine… he is a great person and i feel i am in peace with myself whenever I talk to him… I know him since last 1.5 years and it’s mostly a long distance relationship… He has expressed his feelings for me … but that’s just once… I feel he is just keeping himself away… and i being an aries would want him to be expressive… bt he is not… and I can’t even dare to ask him anything coz i fear that if I force myself on him, he’ll move away and I dun want to loose him… bt at the same time I need to be certain… please help me out…do i go and tell him?? i am not sure how will he react? what if he moves away from whatever little we have???

  52. ariesgirl1990 September 24th, 2011

    Ima aries woman just starting to date a cancer man. He doesn’t express himself to me (as far as how he feels about me), we constantly bicker because he always thinks I’m taking something serious or he thinks I always have an attitude. My father is a cancer and we DONOT & probably will NEVER get along. This concerns me :-/

  53. Aires August 14th, 2011

    im a aries woman who is dating a cancer man its been 11 months and all i can say is challenge they are emotional rollercoasters with them cancer me. You think when they first meet you they do sweep you off your feet but dont think for one minute aires that thats love beause they are charmers…..thats in there nature they treat everyone the same way my cancer boyfriend is liek that until i had to set bounderies after me having temper tantrums alot cancers can deal with that and comunication dont think for once when they communicate with you that its over because they are still thinking about the problem and will throw things in your face quick they love to live in the past, they ae very secretive, so aries woman here is some advice on how to maintain this crab.. dont be so quick to get mad if they do something that you don like keep it to yourself because if u argue with a cancer it always get turned back on you like you are the one thats wrong .2 check that phone they protray to seem like its all about you but the phone is different you will see who u dealing with but if you are willig to go thru alot with the cancer its worth it because they are loyal it took me a minute to see and to make him see i was all about him but now he is opening up and he sees that im on top of his ass alot so i keep that man in line .but on the ups they are good lovers.if you really want to get him to open up take him by water and hold his hand and just start a conversation it helps trust me thats where we always go to talk or vent if we go through problems….when they are mad leave no questions asks they will hurt your feelings if you stay give them space they wont let you go far. and when u get back nd they calmed down they will be able to talk then. me and my cancer is very happy but still be caution just because he treats u special thats his caracteristic they treat all the ladies like that.

  54. primus380 July 15th, 2011

    I am a cancer guy and i was dating an aries girl for about 3 months and we were only a few months apart in age so at the time we’re both 14 and ever since we’d started going out problems started stacking up and it wasn’t problem between me and her it was problems more with people and around us and our parents so this last monday she broke up with me under the reason that she wanted to be single so it wasn’t till thursday i was able to actually talk to her and i decided to let my heart bleed out and i don’t the effect it had all she told me was she actually decided she wanted to be single because of the hell everyone was causing us and that this will be if most temporary and i want to believe her but what i want to know is did i do something wrong or was that the truth

  55. tmackey July 11th, 2011

    I’m an Aries woman and married to an Cancer man. We are 100 percent opposite. We’ve been together for 20 plus year. But we do love each other and respect each other. We compliment each other in our relationship.

  56. Destina June 21st, 2011

    I am an Aries woman, I knew a Cancer man. After more than a year of no contact with him because he loved to have sex with other women, he recently created a profile online that includes some personality descriptions of Cancers and Aries and that they are not “compatible”. This website also includes his home address, etc. Why would he do that after all of this time?

  57. ProudtobeAries May 29th, 2011

    I met an cancer guy a year ago. It was not an instant attraction. He caught my attention when he laughed at me, aries’ are natural jokers I guess. He really is having fun when I make jokes etc. Everybody thought we are kinda perfect for each other. There were a lot of teasing. I do not have any bit of idea if he really likes me or he’s just enjoying my company. no idea. Well, there’ were opportunity for us to become good friends, but I quit. I just don’t want to see him again,, cause I don’t want to expect anything, it just hurts, and i guess i grow impatient. I still like him, so much.. I think it’s love.

  58. vonre May 18th, 2011

    i’m a cancer man, i love my postive traits and in the same time i hate my postivie traits. if you asking me why? it’s all come back to my nature… “i feel” yes we are romantic people in the world, we could do anything for a lover like die for her maybe?, and that just so unbelieveable, but that just how we do relationship, we dream and we want to make it true. but sometimes dreams doesn’t come true. it takes both of lover to make it true. and that is the time when my positive traits became my negative traits.

    we feel, but if in the relationship if we feel, we “only” feel what we feel. so we forgot to feel what our lover feel at that time. especially when we argue each other, we “failed” to feel what our lovers feel, we are into deep to our feelings, and each time we argue i feel hurt, so i start to hurt everyone’s feelings. my friends, my lover, everyone. that’s a disaster that a cancer could bring, we could take someone’s feel, became happy, or hurt.

    yes we thinking far away, we calculated each problem that will aries in the future, but yet “WE ARE NOT GOD”, it’s easy to other zodiac to live a life and not to care what problem will arise in the future, but not with us. coz we want to “feel” secure. that’s how we works that’s how our brains do. we calculated to feel secure. and maybe for others this is so annoying. coz if it’s for lover, our thought could bring her/him in our cage of calculation.

    we love to solve problems especially when our lovers involve, and in this time this will be so dramatic, because everywords we said, that could bring our lovers feelings to drown into deep. and we cancer, forgot what the discussion is all about, we failed again to see the meaning of this, we are in too deep with this conversation if anyone said a wrong words, that will triggered our feeling to make our brain works on defending system.

    we care about our lovers, that will be annoying him/her everyday, every minutes, every seconds, and remember cancer, a day will be a years, and a years is a life time. so we will annoying our lovers in a life time.

    it’s all just about perspective. sometimes will be bad, sometimes will be good. there’s so many thing about me a cancerian. all i need is a cleared mind lover, who are feel like we feel but not get drown to it, so that would keep my mind in a positive thinking. and when i am positive, that would made my feelings feel secure, and i could do many amazing things to many amazing people. thanks for sharing =)

  59. Author
    Ask Oracle April 25th, 2011 It will be wise to remember that neither you are the same person nor he is. Time has brought about changes in both of you. Keep the past aside, look at his current personality and outlook. Does that attract you? Can you keep up with his reserved attitude?

    If you can, go ahead with the relationship and always feel free to express your feelings in a non-demanding, non-controlling way.

    His current attitude and his behavior is not your responsibility and it makes little sense to focus on things that have nothing to do with you.

  60. April 24th, 2011

    @ SHaun TELL HER, if you hadn’t already! 🙂

  61. April 24th, 2011

    Hello to all: I dated a cancer as a teenager. He and I had great, passionate love. He was more emotional at that time. I had several walls and the thought of kids and marriage scared the crap out of me. He told me he loved me and that was all I needed to run as fast as I could. Recently he found me on a Social Networking site. He and I have conversed and I apologized for running for the hills. It seems now, that he is more reserved in his feelings and emotions. I now am open to expressing them whether requested or not. But, he knows me, remembers everything about me like yesterday. He is very handsome and I very sexy (to say the least). Sexual tension is high. But, I know want MARRIAGE and do not want to waste anymore time with anyone else. I am nervous and wish I hadn’t ran at the initial expression of his love for me. What do I do??

  62. jovcik April 15th, 2011

    my greatest love was a cancer man..

  63. alison April 11th, 2011

    I met my Cancer man 11 months ago he pursued me in the beginning it was like love at first sight for him.He was only very clingy when I was around him. The problem is he has had a girlfriend from the very first day I’ve met him but she lives in another state so its a long distance relationship. I don’t understand why he doesn’t just break up with her bi live so close to him but he still stays with her. Sometimes I think he’s just using me for the physical because he treats me like his girlfriend and after we’ve spent the night together I always wake up to an email from him telling me how much of a great time he’s had with mem Everyone tells me they can’t believe he has a girlfriend because he treats me as if he’s in love with me. Were so on and off I wont see him for months and Ill be over it because you know how us Aries women get over things quickly butnthen Ill see him again and we act as if no time has went by and I fall right back into everything. His girlfriend is an Aquarius I was wondering if that had any reason for why he wont break it off with her this whole situation is just so confusing. I’ve never had a connection with anyone like this before.

  64. cooperashley April 10th, 2011

    Iam an aries female, in early 40’s, separated from a cancer man after about 16 years of marriage. I accept with many of the above views. Aries woman and cancer man relationship is a very rough one with different views of life. As an Aries woman, I was very impulsive, intelligent, independant, freedom loving, ambitious etc. I put my man at the pedastal, did all my best for him. on the other hand, he didnt even bother about my yearns and desires of life. He never admired me nor appreciated even once in life. He never allowed me to get near to him physically or intimately. He just considered that me as his wife was there to cook and look after the house. He was never ever interested in sex. He just minded his own business . So you know how that is to an aries woman, made my life very boring and frustrated in and out the bedroom.I tried many of my nice ways expecting the situation to change. Finally in vain, the thread between us broke and now we are separated. I strongly believe an Acquarius man is the most suitable partner for an Aries woman in all ways, which Iam enjoying presently.

  65. tikkitorches April 10th, 2011

    p.s. Arieslassie, last year was the year of the aquarian man for me. Everyone I was interested in was born under that sign. They are wonderful, and exciting. They seem to be more cerebral than emotional though. If you need to feel deep emotional intimacy, versus a more intellectual connection they might leave you wishing for more. They are so fun and interesting though. No boredom!

  66. tikkitorches April 10th, 2011

    Is anyone still active on this thread? If only I could read his mind, or he could fess up, then maybe I wouldn’t have to look for answers on line! Is the hot and cold normal with cancer men? It is so confusing.

  67. Arieslassie March 30th, 2011

    Oh gawd!! after 10 years of misery with a Capricorn man i really thought i might have found my soulmate with my cancerian man! Now im having some of my doubts confirmed! As an Aries gal , im well aware of my needs and really wanted a much easier time of it , just someone to love and love me back , simple! BTW , ive had a Leo lover and as amazing as it was , he broke my heart ( the only man to do so ) but the loveliest of all was the Sagitarian, he was everything you could want in a man , but sadly it was not meant to be. according to this site , Aquarian men are the answer to the Aries girls prayers ! hummmmm….i wonder…anyone had an Aquarius man?
    Im not going to give up just yet though , i want to see if we can ” communicate” and if not , then i will walk away , im 41 now but feel like my life is just about to finally start and i love and am very proud to be an aries xxxxxxx

  68. Kelli March 13th, 2011

    i agree with AriesGirl that you should go tell her how you feel. I’m giving up finally with my cancer guy, which I never do, but he won’t open up or make me feel wanted. Even though he has sexual problems he use to try to please me in other ways and was very excited around me and when we crawled into bed. Now he wants an open relationship even though he isn’t a sexual person. He said he just wants to be able to hang out with other women without having to explain himself. I’m starting to think he doesn’t have a sexual problem but rather is holding back because he doesn’t want to hurt me or get me attached since cancers seem to equate sex with commitment/love. He did recently admit that his backing off may have to do with his fear of intimacy. I think I’m going to do what your female friend did and back completely off and see if he comes back…if I’m worth fighting for. Hope he doesn’t read this and learn my plan of action…lol.

    And Isabella, I hear cancer men like the chase so don’t be so available. Plus, you have to consider you are both very young so the flirting may have to do with that. Give him a piece of his own medicine and flirt with other guys..i don’t think cancers like when their partners flirt. Aries usually love to flirt but both signs are very loyal usually so try not to let some innocent flirting rain on your parade. I hear “drop him” too but what does YOUR heart say. I feel like I’m already in love with my guy…makes it very difficult but i’m not wired to be “an open relationship” type so i’ll probably have to let go.

  69. Isabella March 10th, 2011

    ooommgggg, I just read almost all of these comments and I cant even tell you how much i agree with all of it. I really thought I was the only one stuck in this position with some guy that seems just send up and around on this rollercoaster of emotions. So I’m a 17 y.o, female aries. I’ve been seeing this guy for about 3 months and really I’ve been going insane with him. In the beginning i can’t tell you how great it was. We always had so much fun together, talked on the phone all night, always msgd eachother and just everything seemed to be so perfect. I was so ready to be in a relationship with him. But suddenly things began to change. I started noticing so many things in him that frustared me so much. For one, he always wants soooo much attention from girls, it’s ridiculous. I think he has some OCD with flirting. It’s frustrating because he will even admit to me that he does, but sday “its just my personality”. But still assures me that he likes me a lot. But then i still find that he keeps so many things hidden from me. Then when i do confront him about something that bothered him, he tried to just brhush it off because he hates arguring! how can you fix a problem without discussing it?! Furthermore, he hasn’t asked me to hang out or anything within the past month and a half. Does that mean anything? the only time i ever see him is at work then the rest of his life he spends at the gym or sleeping. Never even attempts to make plans with me. Honestly I do believe that he has some sort of feelings for me, but he doesn’t show it and it’s taking way too long. I don’t want to waste my time if nothing is going to happen. Also like someone else posted, the only time he starts acting more like he cares is when he feels like he’s losing me. Do you think he’s playing me? Because im so sick of this wishful thinking that maybe someday we’ll be together because i know he’s a great guy, but everyone tells me to drop him.
    What to do?! what to do?!

  70. AriesGirl March 3rd, 2011

    Shaun you should just tell her because I, as an Aries would rather us know how you truly do feel then for you to keep it to yourself. You can’t just keep it in and think about it for years and then do something. You need to go take a risk even if it doesn’t work out at least you tried. As an Aries, sometimes I just get so annoyed at the fact Cancers just take forever to tell us how they feel, like why do you have to think about something for so long just do it. Maybe she’s just so fed up of waiting for you to come back to her and now you want to do something,you should just do it. If you have faith then you shouldn’t fear. You have to go fight for her. Maybe she wants you too or doesn’t mind being with you even after several years, you really don’t know until you go talk to her. And maybe she didn’t go to you because she thought you didn’t feel the same way. Who knows…. just go talk to her. Maybe she refused to talk to you because you wait so long to take action. Don’t be afraid of rejection. It’ll just make you stronger.

  71. cali February 19th, 2011

    Everyone’s relationship is different no matter what sign you are. The relationship kinda just depends on how you grew up and with whom and all your values and interest are. so its kinda a personal thing to figure out alone and a couple thing to figure out together how to make things work…good things dont come easy. you have to work for it, to get the rainbow….so goodluck to everyone. god bless you all =)

  72. Shaun February 16th, 2011

    I am a Cancer Man who has never been married and I am 33 years old. I met a woman; who is an Aries and is 28 years old; several years ago and have not been able to stop thinking about her ever since. I have had dreams of bringing her diamonds. I don’t know why I think about her so much. I try not to. I have not even been on a date with another woman since I met her. A Cancer man never really wants a woman just for sex. He wants love. I had it out with this young beautiful woman about 5 or so years ago and have always wanted to reconcile things with her. I have not seen her since then either. She refuses to talk to me for whatever reason she believes she may have. I have only tried to contact her once in over a year. It was her birthday last year. Well her birthday is obviously coming again really soon. One question I do have is that…If I looked her up and wanted to be apologetic to her and talk to her again is it the wrong thing to do or is it the right thing to do? Why do I feel so strongly about this. I was thinking that it might just be my nature in wanting to be reconciled with someone no matter who it is. ??? . I have to be honest and say that she drives me up a wall. I have earned a business degree since we have stopped talking. I am in the process of owning a few of my own businesses. Is she even worth the effort? I think a lot of the time woman think Cancer men are just devious debauch rakish hellions who want to get in bed but it is not true. Only with our true wives. Yeah so. I guess I am looking for a little advice from some of you crazy Aries woman. As for you Cancer guys. Good luck with those crazy woman.

  73. Amy February 16th, 2011

    I recently met a cancer man myself…wow, he does make me feel very special, however…I asked him if he was bipolar! I was not aware of the constant mood swings! Wow…he’s a great guy though, and ultimately wants to take care of me in any way possible! I appreciate that, it makes me feel very special…he stated he likes the fact that I’m feisty, however he portrays me as spoiled…we’ll see how this pans out…hoping for the best honestly! I see the potential in him to be just what the Doctor ordered! I’ll keep ya posted!!

  74. berg February 9th, 2011

    Cali, have you ever read about both the zodiac traits deeply, especially good and bad sides. In your opinion whose traits needs to be within socially acceptable limits? As I said, things can work out if both are determined to make it working……

  75. cali February 5th, 2011

    ………………….It’s not working out. bottom line, this relationship is such an emotional roller coaster. we are two different people and its just not working. its so damn difficult. the communication the interest everything. i usually like challenges but this one has got me zoning out to find a different guy. it feels like such a waste to throw out 3 years. i want to start new but not anytime in the mood to find another. i need help. spiritual help asap. =(

  76. berg February 3rd, 2011

    Very interesting comments by Cali and Kelli. I am a cancer man and married to Aries Female for the last 9 years. We are living in an Eastern Culture, married and have kids. Both are professional. Whatever written on this site or other sites about the relationship is true. Relationship is very difficult but if both are determined to keep it, can create wonders. I started reading Zodiacs compatibility right after one week of getting married as I had felt that something went wrong…:-)
    Having difference of opinion, different liking and disliking or even fighting is not an issue, being conservative for cancerians it is important how you behave when you feel upset. Cancerians have lot of patience, but Aries should not always test it by using very harsh language. I believe sun sign traits only describe the mama nature of the person, which wise people can always change / adjust for keeping the relationships healthy.

  77. Emanuelle February 2nd, 2011

    I’ve dated a Cancer man for 7 years and its been an emotional roller coaster since day one. He calls and texts me everyday, but very secretive of his feelings. He won’t open up and the rare times he did, it was because he thought he was losing me. I can’t take it anymore. The lack of communication, the moodiness and hot and cold attitude is becoming almost unbearable. I love this man deeply, but I don’t think my heart, soul and mind can take much more. Currently, we are on the outs. Aries and Cancer is a horrible and god awful pairing. I find it to be emotionally draining and perhaps too challenging.

  78. Kelli January 18th, 2011

    Hi Cali, thanks back to you…i guess we both needed some reasurance at the same time. My cancer guy is letting me in more and more. Since our intimate night he either calls or emails almost daily, which is a big change for him. He’s still very scared but I think he likes me more than he’ll let on. I’ve been very busy with school work so not so needy and it seems to make him more available I noticed. Reverse psychology i guess but when i play uninterested i notice he tries harder. I think he just feels more comfortable when i’m not expecting or putting pressure on him. Very hard for us impatient aries gals but i’m still giving it a shot. And yes, i totally still believe in love. Take care!

  79. cali January 14th, 2011

    Dear kelli, I was guessing you were in your 30’s. lol im around the 20’s but i act like im 30. im very mature for my age…long story. and omg 15 years without intimacy?! i never would’ve known. well i hope the relationship works out. crack into his shell gently and he’ll let you in slowly. thank you for all your advice and company. remember, its never too late for love =)

  80. kelli January 10th, 2011

    Hi Cali: I’m probably much older than you…I’m in my early 40s. People are always very surprised and say they would have guessed 10 years younger but I was lucky to be raised in the clean air of the Californian coast and I also act very childish so that doesn’t help. As far as my guy going back to his ex I don’t think he will because they slept in separate rooms and were not intimate for 15 of the last 30 yrs of marriage. He’s in his early 50s. Also, we finally got intimate at a deeper level a few days ago if you know what I mean. First time for him in over 15 yrs…we’re taking baby steps in that area. I think he may feel closer to me now. He usually won’t call or email for several days and he emailed me a couple times that day and the next but nothing today for some reason. I think he may have gone back into his shell today. Practicing patience because he’s stated he’s not ready for a commitment but I think he likes me more than he’s letting on. I sure like him! Just need to take it slow and protect myself like you said. Take care and good luck with your guy too.

  81. cali January 6th, 2011

    Dear kelli, Thats great advice. i will try to look at things in his perspective. and about your cancer’s divorce, yes you will need to give him a lot of time to think about many things. bc i know very well that they have AMAZING memory. he can be thinking about the bads and hate his ex-wife. or the goods and miss her and “cling” to her again. so please be careful. you know how aries are typically impatient and want everything to hurry up and done. but cancers likes to be cautious and take everything slow-mo. but at the same time, you have to show him you are interested or else he will keep regretting his divorce and want her back. and it is true that my cancer likes my tantrums. he said it himself. lol and just out of curiosity….what age range are you in? 🙂

  82. Kelli December 29th, 2010

    P.S. Cali: He does like you expressing your feelings, believe me, he just won’t share his too easily because cancers are cautious and they are excellent at hiding feelings too. My cancer guy has subtle ways to show he likes my demonstrative ways. And cancer guys can handle our ups and downs more than any other sign so don’t worry so much about your tantrums. He probably secretly likes it.

  83. Kelli December 29th, 2010

    Cali: Hahaha, i was just going to email you that i need to swallow my words. I was very negative yesterday but today my cancer guy left me a message that he’s around to talk as well. His sexy voice is irresistible. Funny thing, i thought he said a different name and thought i heard him saying i’m coming over so i called him and left a message “so you have a hot date tonight huh?” Then i listened again he clearly said my name and for me to call him later. Our minds can do terrible stuff to us aries…we act confident but really aren’t and that’s why we need so much reasurance. Besides, aries and cancers work like opposites so try to look at things from his perspective. I’m actually too tired to talk about the problems so I’m going to bed and will call him back tomorrow…healthy decision for myself. I’m still going to be cautious and keep options open but I’m also very understanding that he needs time to heal from his divorce. For some reason i have total peace right where it’s at and happy to have him as a friend. Glad to hear things are going better for you and your cancer. They are irresistible too. ;O)

  84. cali December 29th, 2010

    Dear kelli, so it ends up i been crying my ass off yesterday. thinking why does love have to be so hard. and why do i settle for less all the time. i keep thinking maybe he’ll change. i texted “im home”. he replied “do you want me to come over?” and i said “whatever you want”. and waited in my car for awhile to see if he’ll come. and he didnt reply and i didnt see him. i layed in my bed to sulk. he pops into my house looking for me…(he always has bad timing, bc i needed him 30 mins ago) he kissed me and I said “i hate you, bc you make me love you”. he smiles. he said throughout my tantrums and fire, it doesnt phase him anymore. he said he’s used to it…i cant tell if thats a good thing or bad thing. i wish he expressed his feelings more. anyways we tried to communicate. he said sorry. i told him “even if i did find a guy who treats me right, i’d still be loving him”. this relationship is the most emotionally draining i’ve ever been in. we go through ups and downs like nothing. but again we’re trying bc we are already emotionally attached to each other. i feel like being with him makes me learn many things. and i feel like im not done learning yet. your leo sounds bad. i thought aries and leos were compatible… but i guess it just depends on the person. but i do think zodiac signs are a big help. either way good luck to you. im pretty sure you’ll find a great guy. bc you know us aries are irresistibly charming. 😉

  85. Kelli December 28th, 2010

    Dear Cali, If you see my above comments you’ll see how optimistic I was. I met my cancer man just a few months ago and tonight I called it quits for good. Even though it was never an official relationship he gave me the idea he just needed time being he hasn’t been intimate w/anyone in so long. Every time I’ve tried to end things I would get an email from him that feed me “crumbs.” Bottom line he doesn’t give me what I need…no compliments, shows little interest in me, disrespects me by standing me up when I’m expecting him on several ocasions, and yes, lack of communication. I’m not one to give adice on whether one should break up but forget about how he feels…how does it make you feel inside and about yourself? Mine continues to let me down and life is too short to sulk away the day…not to mention how it effects your ability to be productive. I may not be the most positive person to ask right now. Some others may think you should keep trying. As far as the leo…just broke up w/one after 13 yrs. Talk about a roller coaster..good for my confidence until i found out he pumped all girls’ confidence up the same way..humiliating because he needed attention all the time. Not a healthy one either. My resolution this year is to remain single and work on myself on healing. Good luck if you do decide to stay w/your cancer guy.

  86. cali December 28th, 2010

    im an aries girl dating a cancer guy and its been about 3 years now and i think im gonna have to let go of him. we are so opposite that it annoys me. hes so critical and always judging and correcting me. and hes logical while im all physical. everything we think,say or do is alllllll literally ALL opposites. hes great at holding on and trying even though everything goes wrong. but i just feel like its been too long. i feel like im not getting what i need. he’s doesn’t show me enough affection. i feel unappreciated. he doesn’t speak his mind and hides everything. he makes me doubt my love for him all the time. at the beginning the love was pretty good. he would nurture me and i learned a lot from him. im not as stubborn and think about myself all the time anymore. he changed me for the better. but at the same time he brings out the worst in me. we would fight and make up by making love. but i think the communication is just not there. not so much sparks. he loves to correct and elaborate everything. while i want everything to be bold and direct. we always have petty fights that lead nowhere. but he does the crab claw and hangs on to the problem and continues when i am so over it. also he acts and dresses so immature. it frustrates me bc i love dressing up and i’m very mature. while he doesnt care. hes also TOO chill. he doesnt get excited or sad or mad or anything. while i have all these emotions. when we fight i would be thinking and crying for hours. while he just sits and games having no worries. we’re so opposite it kills me. we’re on a “break” now. and i just keep thinking maybe finding a leo would satisfy me. bc this relationship is going nowhere. i want to be myself, not be changed and sulk for the rest of my life….*sigh. any feedbacks?

  87. ariesgirl December 28th, 2010

    im an aries girl dating a cancer guy and its been about 3 years now and i think im gonna have to let go of him. we are so opposite that it annoys me. hes so critical and always judging and correcting me. and hes logical while im all physical. everything we think

  88. Kelli December 26th, 2010

    Thank you Kenny. I was wondering when someone would respond. I recently freaked out b/c my guy would not respond to calls and emails and i had a bad week and xmas an all. I ended up writing a couple emotionally charged emails…nothing too mean though…and the last one telling him this relationship is not good for me. He finally responded today by saying for me not to take his inability to give more as a personal deficit and seemed concerned that i mentioned wanting to move…although it’s hard to know what he meant. Now i’m hoping i didn’t ruin all chances to ever see him again. He’s definately learning of my problems and feelings…i write to him daily. I feel so much love for him. I decided to give him a break for the next few days though.

  89. Kenny December 24th, 2010

    It seems your cancer man may have been hurt deeply and has crawled back into his shell. Tell him more of yourself; problems, feelings, etc. With time he will open up to you. Us cancer males are shy, sensitive and cautious. Cancer likes it slow.

  90. Kelli November 9th, 2010

    I recently met a cancer man who recently got a divorce but did not have sex with her or anyone else for 12 years. He seems to run away after we spend a few hours together the few times we’ve met. I told we could take baby steps and gave him a massage, which, being the aries woman i am, led to leading him to my bed just for some touching. I think he was the most sensual and passionate person I’ve ever been with but again leaves after an hour or so without going any further. This happened both times and now he won’t call me. I already feel love for him but I think he feels he needs to perform and it scares him…not sure…maybe it’s me but the way he looks at me and touches me I get that he likes me. What to do?

  91. Sarah November 8th, 2010

    oh my gosh, I’m an aries woman and i’m on the verge of dating a cancer man. We really like each other allot and i adore his gentleness. It excites me. He always makes me feel good and he says that he only wants to make me and only me happy. Damn, i feel so good right now.

  92. tritri October 21st, 2010

    im an aries woman. im married to a man who doesnt know his correct birthday. he has to different dates as his birth date. june 7th and the other is july 8.i just read both gemini and cancers status and he is so a cancer to me. he’s a bit shy and he has be told constantly how you feel about him. hes very jealous. he also makes sure i am happy. he will stick it out through our rough times as long as he knows hes wanted and loved. wow.

  93. sabrina September 24th, 2010

    iv’e been seeing a cancer guy for a while and we recently broke up. he begs for me back but i don’t know if i can trust him because past problems with him flirting with other girls.

  94. Johan August 28th, 2010

    i have to second what Peter says. It is all about feelings with us. We need to feel wanted or appreciated. Our biggest desire is to care for and keep secure the love of our lives. We are probably the most emotional passionate people alive

  95. peter August 8th, 2010

    dear mailyn,
    im cancerman and i know, that cancerman needs to know he is ‘needed’. secretly – mostly not mentioned – we love our ‘girl’ to be in problems that we can solve:-) with cancer this is not in the macho-way – aries woman usually feel attracted to – but in the romantic way.. you get him heated, when he knows you need him – something an aries-woman finds difficult to admit.. but it will help. tell him how you FEEL; with us: it’s all about feelings.
    getting inside the woman heart and her feelings is the first, most desired situations a cancerman wants to be in, romantically seen!!!
    good luck!!

  96. marilyn webster July 26th, 2010

    i’m 48 y.o. aries female love with 38 y.o male cancer male also married. He claims his love for me but i’m feeling a distance between us we’ve been seeing each other for 11 yrs. off and on when he used to live in England now back in our hometown to live things he promised about our relationship now seems different…he’s being distan. think i should forget him.please help i’m in love with him

  97. Tanya Sommers July 13th, 2010

    I have recently Met a Cancer Man; and her seems to be all that is perfect for me! He really IS a prince charming….though I have noticed he is NOT very reserved at all…he is foward and friendly and will do ANYTHING to see me smile and to be cared for.

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