Aries Woman and Cancer Man Love Compatibility

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When the watery Cancer soul and flaming Aries soul come in romantic relationship, there are equal counts of burns and tranquility. Aries ride high on spontaneity, and is quite open in the expression of feelings while Cancer tends to take time when it comes to both expressing feelings and moving forward in a relationship.

A Cancer man is usually a shy person who minds his own business. He loves money, fame and recognition and mostly has all these in long term with his determination and hard work. When he falls for an Aries woman, he loves to be possessed and passionately loved by her. He is basically loyal and faithful and is often admired by his Aries woman for his ability to stick it out through the bad times. But he is very sensitive to hurt and is sometimes offended by the careless nature of the Aries woman.

An Aries woman is an impulsive and sovereign lady. She meets all the obstacles headlong and headfirst, even when she must go out of her way to find them. An Aries woman may seem inconsiderate and thoughtless but she would never hurt anyone on purpose. She can actually find a real gentleman in her Cancer man who is able to look behind the veil of rashness and admire her innocence. Though she really needs to mind her fiery temper as it can often cause depressive state for her Cancer man.

An Aries woman complements a Cancer man well by allowing him to feel strong and masculine. She has got such a great optimist approach of winning that it helps him to give up his hidden fears and move up in life even more confidently. The protectiveness and possessiveness shown by her makes him feel loved and needed enhancing his sentiments and attachment to his lady love. But the secrets kept by him can be stressful on a relationship between the two. This attitude of him can make the mind of his Aries female to wonder causing outbursts of frenzy in her nature. While he may need to deal with the outrageous and self-centered attitude of the Aries woman sometimes by reminding himself that she doesn’t mean any hurt and is herself unaware of her behavior.

The Cancer male typically proves to be a prince charming to an Aries woman who admires him passionately for all the emotions and affection he has to offer to her. She is thrilled by the feeling of being courted by him who makes her feel desirable as a woman. He brings laughter to him which shines a light on her. He brings out a personality in her that others cannot resist. She feels at peace around him because she can finally be herself. He continues to adore her throughout life as much as he did the first time they met. But she always needs to consider the moodiness of her Cancer man and give him appropriate space when needed by him. Also he needs to keep up his spirits and emotions even if he finds his damsel aloof and running at times because all she needs is her space and nothing else.

With the unusual blend of Fire and Water, together these two can create unbelievable miracles in their relationship. The Cancer man always cherishes his sentiments and makes the Aries woman feel more feminine. He fulfills the entire child like needs his Aries woman makes and keeps her cozy in the protective blankets of his tender loving care, which he can provide to her forever. On the other hand, she makes her Cancer male feel a lot loved and care with the devotion she gives to him and the determination with which she stand by him in all the ups and downs of life. She makes him feel more enthusiastic and optimistic and fills his life with lot more passion. They hold a fairy tale love story with him as Price Charming and she as Cinderella who keeps on chasing her dreams and finally finds herself gratified in the arms of her dream man.

The physical intimacy between the Aries woman and Cancer man is just like that of fire and ice. They both compliment each other so well that their love making is always a long lasting pleasure for them. As time passes these two get intimately close in their sex life. He makes her feel cherished and emotionally secure. The Cancer is clever and imaginative when making love. This gives a lot of excitement to the Aries female who is full of blaze. Her vulnerability in the sack stirs him deeply. Her ability to bring innocence to her love making, regardless of her past, gives him enormous emotional security. She loves fiercely and passionately. This makes him crave for her more passionately and lovingly. When he leans his face in closer, and she reached out and pulls him the rest of the way, so that he could bury his face in the security, the warmth, the lusciousness of her deep, full breaths and body in rhythm. But at times, he can tend to be moody causing distance in the bed. When he refuses to respond to her advances, it is hard for her to remember their once strong compatibility in the bedroom.

As the Aries woman and Cancer man set to start a relationship, they both enjoy it mutual desire of loving and to be loved. For both of them love is most important but while for Aries it was more of a demand, for a Cancer it’s more an uncertain sentimental feeling. Though Aries admire the care and tenderness of Cancer, they become upset of the ever fluctuating moods of the Cancer. Aries always provides Cancer with the sense of confidence and security by their optimistic approach and possessiveness but their impulsive behavior can hurt the sensitive Cancer heart very frequently. Money often tends to be the biggest problem between these two as she likes to spend money, while he is a saver. When these two learn to properly line up their communication, they work wonders together.

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    badaisy April 13th, 2016

    Ive had 2serious relationships with cancer men. I am an aries female. Warning: bad combo

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    TammimB March 27th, 2016

    @arianlady well did you find another cancer man because I’m  cancer man that was raised by a leo and Taurus. An Aries perfect match is Leo and I’ve inherited some Leo traits from my Leo father

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    arianlady June 26th, 2015

    I’m an arian woman myself and I was with a Cancer man who was older than me in a year, we lasted about four months. When we were good, it was full of love and emotion. He made me speechless most of the time, he made me feel like a princess with his excessive love and devotion. I have trust issues yet he made me trust him and believe that he really loves me. He brought the romance in me and made me feel special but at times I felt like I was forced to show him love when I didn’t feel like it. My honest words also hurt him. But the last month or so was so rocky. I’m an ambitious woman who goes for her dreams and career, I focus on developing myself a lot. I obviously go out a lot and spend a lot of time doing activities but he stays at home doing nothing but watching stupid series. It irritated me a lot because he used to wait for me until I finish and he got also irritated if I came back home late and couldn’t talk to him or love him properly. He got pissed off at the silliest things you can ever imagine and made a big fuss out of it. He demanded so much reassurance that I felt like I was repeating myself or that he doesn’t really appreciate how much I love him. The love for him slowly started dying because he depended so much on me and I couldn’t cope with it. I left him two times then we made up, the third time was for good. Whenever we had an argument, he refused to put the blame on himself and made me feel bad for every argument. He used to be so obsessed with me that it got annoying. I love it when someone takes care of me but not to an extent that threatens my freedom and space. He got jealous over silly things such as posting my photos on Twitter. The arguments got very nasty. He basically wanted me to change everything about myself. He made me not want to be in love again and love just disgusts me now. Too much of everything makes you sick. I think as an arian woman, i need someone who’s adventurous and ready to be active with me not ruin my mood. I need someone who makes me chase him and give me space. I felt like I was in a cage when I was with him because he wanted to talk to me 24/7 and wanted me to provide him with love all that time. I don’t regret what we had because when everything was good between us, it was perfect. But I’ll definitely reconsider falling for another Cancer man. 

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    carlaakil June 26th, 2015

    I’m an arian woman myself and I was with a Cancer man who was older than me in a year, we lasted about four months. When we were good, it was full of love and emotion. He made me speechless most of the time, he made me feel like a princess with his excessive love and devotion. I have trust issues yet he made me trust him and believe that he really loves me. But the last month or so was so rocky. I’m an ambitious woman who goes for her dreams and career, I focus on developing myself a lot. I obviously go out a lot and spend a lot of time doing activities but he stays at home doing nothing but watching stupid series. It irritated me a lot because he used to wait for me until I finish and he got also irritated if I came back home late and couldn’t talk to him or love him properly. He got pissed off at the silliest things you can ever imagine and made a big fuss out of it. He demanded so much reassurance that I felt like I was repeating myself or that he doesn’t really appreciate how much I love him. The love for him slowly started dying. I left him two times then we made up, the third time was for good. Whenever we had an argument, he refused to put the blame on himself and made me feel bad for every argument. He used to be so obsessed with me that it got annoying. I love it when someone takes care of me but not to an extent that threatens my freedom and space. He got jealous over silly things such as posting my photos on Twitter. The arguments got very nasty. He basically wanted me to change everything about myself. He made me not want to be in love again and love just disgusts me now. Too much of everything makes you sick. I think as an arian woman, i need someone who’s adventurous and ready to be active with me not ruin my mood. I need someone who makes me chase him and give me space. I felt like I was in a cage when I was with him because he wanted to talk to me 24/7 and wanted me to provide him with love all that time. I don’t regret what we had because when everything was good between us, it was perfect. But I’ll definitely reconsider falling for another Cancer man. 

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    dimples32590 January 29th, 2015

    Well I’m 24 and I’m aries woman dating a cancer man .. I’m so confused about him like he acts so different to the point it drives me nuts we only been talking about a month and I like him a lot . just dont think he feels the same even though I’m Aries and we have a tendacy of jumping the gun at times but its only because we need reassuring we constantly doubt ourselves well I know I do. But just like today I told him he treat me like the side chick he told me  if that was the case he wouldn’t have ask me to be his girlfriend he would just  kept being with other girls .But he claim to change and show me different I hope he do shit because we met and the next week he asked me to be his girl and now I feel like I have to deal with the consequences of my actions for jumping In a relationship so quick .But when where together he acts very affectionate . makes me wonder if that’s what he do with all his  side prices or should I take that into consideration s

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    TrippyGyptian August 18th, 2014

    Wow I’m so glad I stumbled across this page i’m an aries woman and have been dating my cancer partner for a few months now but we’ve knwn each other for about 8 years I’m very straight forward and he’s more laid back about him feelings and emotions sometimes I feel like im too much for him. I love the fact that he is gentle he makes me feel special and i truly feel so comfortable around him and i can be myself we laugh we joke and mw makes me smile. I hate that i can be a little rash if we go through something i can say hurtful things to him and he never disrespects me some how we always find our way back to each other even with my aggressive personality he gives me a since of calm and i never have to doubt how he feels about me even though he’s very quiet about his feelings everyday he let’s me knw I’m on his mind no relationship is perfect but some are worth the effort and there’s no other place i’d rather be than with him❤❤❤

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    Irish-Red August 4th, 2014

    Out of curiosity I checked out the comments and the description for this combination. It is accurate. My cancer man and I have been in love for over 20 yrs. now. He loves the fighter in me, I love his devotion and caring. I have always felt protected by him. Don’t let that fool you, cancer men can rip people apart, but when the two of us are together, it’s difficult to describe. We calm one another, in a sense feed off one another, the energy we give one another is amazing.
    There are moments when I blow up, he knows how to read me and waits. I’ve learned when to give him space and let him go into his “self preservation mode”. This works for us.
    The water-fire statement is all about the Steam we conjure together and learning how not to get scalded but keep it at a comfortable level we both thrive off of together.

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    MrsBliss December 27th, 2013

    I am an Aries woman who just married a cancer man. We have known each other since we were 12, but he was too shy to speak to me. His family knows what little family I have and still he couldn’t get the courage to speak to me. Well we just started talking one day when we were both 29 and instantly we clicked. We talked for almost 24hrs straight. Within 6mo I flew across the US to be with him. I moved in with him before we even had our first date. As the description says, I’m hot headed. I scream, fight and run when I feel like something isn’t right. With him, he had his moods. He was very emotional and depressed all of the time. After a year I had moved out on him 3 times and even gave him a black eye, but he hung in there. He stood by my side. Helped me become more caring and I guess I helped him to become a stronger person emotionally. He hasn’t had an episode nor have I since we really just had that instant where we both needed each other so much it evened us out. So many things have happened in the last 2yrs. We are married, lost some family, got arrested together lol and now we are having a baby together and I wouldn’t change us for anything in the world. He completes me. He is the calm I needed in my personal storm. If you can hash it out, be adults and gain common ground an Aries woman and a Cancer man can be the relationship you always dreamed of. 

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    LWorley56 November 25th, 2013

    My boyfriend (a cancer) and myself (an aries) have had the same problems as many of the others on these coments and in the article. Cancer men take forever to make their minds up on anything… not just opening up to someone. It took my boyfriend 6 months to just tell me he liked me, even though we were best friends. But when we stated dating, boy did my life changed forever. The protectiveness/ possessiveness talked about in the article above is shown on a daily basis between my boyfriend and I. Even though we have our blowouts, no I do not mean fights, we are still together happily. He always knows how to make me smile and laugh even when I have had a horrible day. He is the sweetest and most gentle man I have ever known. Even though he has his days like the rest of us, he still manages to put up with me on a daily basis. To anyone who is going through the same thing, I feel for you. I have finally realized and came to the conclusion that when he is having a mood 180, no not a mood swing, that I need to back away to a safe distance. That way I don’t have to let my temper slip. 

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    LWorley56 November 25th, 2013

    My boyfriend and I are both 16 years old. He is a Cancer and I am a Aries. I have never really got into horoscopes but I find this article very interesting. My boyfriend and I have been dating 8 months and have been best friends for over a year now. This article pretty much decribes us both perfectly. We have been through more fights and breakups than anyone can imagine, but somehow we are still together. I guess between being best friends and falling in love we have never let go. I have read this article twice, and each time it seems more true.  When I was yonger I created a list of what my perfect guy would be and now I have it, despite the crazy mood swings, and almost constant fighting of course. But I guess anyone who can deal with an Arien woman needs some form of release every now and then. 

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    needarsh October 4th, 2013

    i too face the same differnces between us in our relationship but…..whatever it may be… I will definately make my relationship the most amazing one……

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    faeriespirals March 10th, 2013

    I’m an Aries woman married to a Cancer man. We’ve been married for almost 12 years. I would say that a lot of the information and comments here have been accurate for the long haul. We’ve had our ups and downs, as I’m sure most relationships do, but I still have a really hard time being patient and dealing with his moods. I have to admit that I know I shouldn’t be so straightforward and harsh in dealing with them, but I can’t help myself. I would say to anyone in this same kind of relationship who are considering marriage… move in together and live together for several years before tying the knot. As much as I love my Husband, if I had to do it over again, I might make a different decision and I’m sure he would say the same. That said, we’re in it for life and neither one of us wants a divorce, for one we have three young children, and another, we are both very stubborn in our own ways. I always try to stay positive and hold on to hope while he cannot help but be negative. It’s very hard for both of us to understand where the other one is coming from because we are so different. I believe, this is also why we’re still together. He puts up with my ferocity and I can’t stand his moodiness, but we love each other with a burning passion, at times, lol.

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    Terry_Cherry March 3rd, 2013

    @Lifeisinthemusic
    Hey, I’m an aries woman (21) and my bf is a cancer (23) and we’ve been together for 2 years. I love him tremendously, some of the things you’ve said I can completely relate to. With this guy you’re talking to, I know he tends to be slow in giving you the type of responses you need, in most cases than none, you will have to make the first move. Because when him and I met, I had to make the first move. He showed his interest by doing sweet things and saying sweet things but I had to let him know look, this is how I feel do you feel the same? And we’ve been inseparable since the very first day we met. Though arguing   over petty things every now and again. But honestly, this is one of my best relationships. Just be patient with him and try to be considerate towards his sensitivity. Let him know how you feel! 

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    Lifeisinthemusic March 2nd, 2013

    So, I am not sure how much faith I am willing to put into astrological signs and the outcome of a relationship…But some of the things mentioned in both the main explanation and comments persuaded me to search for some advice.
    I am an Aries woman…”under-developed” in a sense as well. I recently started talking to a Cancer man a few weeks ago and I lIke him VERY much and think the relationship can definirely proofread into something great. And as an FYI, he is about 9 months younger than I am. I’m 24, he is 23. 
    Anyways, he has said in the past that he takes relationships slow and tends to put family and friends before a new relationship….totally understandable. My ISSUE IS…(and I’ve already told him that I tend to move fast and am workin on slowing myself down), how much pushing is TOO much. I am the type to always let someone know how I feel…like I’ll use the kiss emoticon to remind him that I’m still interested in that way. If he says he is going to be playing COD with a friend then I’ll be like cool, go have fun and he will get offended almost like I don’t want to talk to him…which is SO not the case at all. So I know that he has some feelings for me, but I can never tell aside from when he is calling me sweetheart and babe and stuff. Am I being a paranoid Aries? Should I just let it be? Am I pushing to hard with the emoticons? Should I let him make the first big moves? I want him to, but will he even if he is interested.
    What I don’t want to happen is for me to ask all these questions and scare him away (even if he feels the same). Keep in mind that we have never met. He texts me everyday and somerimes I’ll ask he is able to call (works A LOT), and he usually does. Sometimes I’ll think to myself why doesn’t he do it on his own? Sigh. Hard to know what he is thinking…don’t want to offend him with my bluntness. 
    Any advice on how to proceed, given his nature, would be great. I’ve never dated anyone like him before. 

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    grace-m December 28th, 2012

    im an arien lady and very bubbly ,i recently met a Cancer man, i asked him about his personal life and when he reached his house he texted me that he didnt like my questions and i asked him which questions in particular he just said to me he would speak to me after he had taken a nap its been a 3 weeks now he doesnt reply my texts or wattsapp messages and i see him online so does it mean that if i meet him somewhere he will ignore me or he will pretend nothing has happened

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    nobody December 19th, 2012

    I’m a cancer boy in love with an aries girl but not anymore…and i believe in all these signs.She is the best thing that ever happened to me.we’ve dated for a few months.I love her more than anything.she told i m freaking her out.And i never meant to do that but i did because i was losing her.Hope she realize how much she means to me.

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    shake3 November 20th, 2012

    I really just wanted to say “Thank You” This Is Me Im An Aires….. 🙂 And i’ve been talking to this boy name jordan he’s an cancer and we do this all the time i cant help that he a very emotional person and im’m unstable so you have moody and unstable people together so just image how thats working out i really care about but i hold back alot because he is so damn wishy washy i hate that shit,lol really i do but i like/love this guy i tell him all the time how much i care about him but he thinks im cheating or talking to someone else he says “I’m Too Out Going” i say rude things all the time and he says it hurts him but, and i brush everything off which makes him feel like i dont CARE. DAMN! JORDAN I DO CARE ABOUT YOU…………………. I LOVE YOU.

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    489435 October 18th, 2012

    Aries female is most beautiful and sexy woman of all 11 other signs together.If any aries female read this she have my soul.All this bullshit that aries and cancer is not good relationship this is suck.All i now is that aries female is 100 better than any cancer or scorpio or pisces or libra or any other sign who supposted to bee the most beautiful.Aries female is number 1 in anything !
     

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    cancer79 August 27th, 2012

    I’m a cancer who’s been with an aries woman for six months now and I honesly have never been happier in a relashionship than I am right now. There are a couple things about us that I think are important to note for other couples like us. One thing is that as a cancer I don’t always like to talk about whats bugging me, and when that happens I wear my emotions and become very quiet. Well, my aries woman reads me like a book and wants to know what’s wrong, and she refuses to let it go till I tell her, and my advice would be to talk to her. Our communication is huge in our relationship, it’s the reason that we don’t fight, and it’s the reason that we’ve become so close and so intimate with each other. And one thing that she does is to remind herself that even though I’m very open with her, in social situations I’m a very quiet person, and just because I’m not talking doesn’t mean I’m upset.
    But all in all our relationship has been amazing, we can be out in public, a bar or a baseball game, and when she looks at me, we are the only two people in the world. I can’t help but be in awe of her, she catches me just looking at her constantly. With her our love is not work, it seems to come so naturally, so easy, and yet I always want to show her how much she means to me. I want for her to never have to wonder how I feel about her or for her to ever be jealous of another woman. No one else has more of my attention or my affection as she does. I mean there is no dought in my mind that she’s the one for me, I’m in love with every little bit of her and I’ll tell anyone that, whether they want to hear it or not.

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    cherrybflower August 1st, 2012

    actions speak louder then words but words a sometimes needed…

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    cherrybflower August 1st, 2012

    oh myy goodness! lol okay, i am an aries girl 20 yrs young currently in a relationship with a cancer man 27 yrs old (hehe i always mess with him about his age). So tonight i was so bored and decided to look up our signs to see if i could understand him better. I was SHOCKED and AMAZED by how i cant even find the words lol it just tells it exactly like it is reads us to a T. so i said i must sign up and comment!
    So we always have a argue about something stupid but i just say babe ugh what ever lol and try to move on but his attitude stays stuck on what ever we argued about. I try to change the subject or mention something but when i do, i do it with such an excitment just to grab his attention lol even though im not sure what im going to say my self and i end up just telling him how much i love him hehe. I find that he helps me grow as a person and that means the world to me because not everybody can do that and to have that especially in a relationship is such a blessing and i wouldnt trade it for the world. Although we have our ups and downs we love each other very much. I give him his space when he needs it but i notice that when i assume he needs a minute he gets mad lol like why do you want to get off the phone?! so i change it up really quick! but the thing is he sometimes stays quiet and doesnt respond so i think okay maybe he doesnt want to be on the phone or something and i end up being super wrong! Another thing is about the money MY GOODNESS curse the money! lol i know my ideas tend to be expensive but i dont mean to come up with them on purpose they are usually just a thought, but my cancer man loves to be in charge of the money but he tends to spend it a lot on things that aren’t even needed!! and it drives me bonkers but i let him be. I know i can be the same way sometimes.. One thing i dont like though, is him judging me. Thats one thing that hits really hard 🙁 i dont  like that one bit because im already cautious enough of myself as it is.. he says he tries to motivate me! but i dont get motivated by you judging me i get motivated by you helping me and being positive! Something that has never happened to me in a relationship until now is.. i end up shutting my mouth because im stuck or hurt and rather be quiet. i dont like showing my emotional side as far as sadness.. is that a bad thing? he told me that if i cry all the time it annoys him so i cant cry. but the thing is i dont cry over any little thing! if i cry it is because i am either really upset or really hurt. And i cry in silence. suck it up and keep moving. the pain tends to linger around for a little while but with time i forget it was even around.. I really love him to pieces and i tell him all the time.. he seems to not believe me though 🙁 and i asked him if he trust me and he never answered and that worry’s me.. i text him after getting off the phone saying that i love him blah blah blah but then i put that it hurt me that he didn’t trust me and i wish he would and i told him i was his ride or die chick till the end and that i pinky promised. he ended up calling me a couple of minutes later singing and joking as always.. no response to the msg but it was like, he read it but he called to let me know he is here and he cares.. actions speak louder then words..

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    mskk3 April 5th, 2012

     I am a Aries female. I have known my cancer male best friend for over seven years. I have always liked him more as a friend, but never thought it would go anywhere.Finally we have a expressed our love and like for one another, and our love is stronger than ever. He is currently incarcerated. We talk all the time and continously express our love for one another. Sometimes he can be distant. I just let him have his space. He comes back around. We talk out our problems, good communication is key. We have never had a fight, maybe some misunderstandings.He keeps me grounded. He is a great man, im glad he is my best friend and man.  

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    nenecherry March 30th, 2012

    hello, i am an aries female curently dating a cancer male who is 2 yrs older than me and we love each other so much. he is like the best thing that has ever happened to me. he makes me laugh and he’ so romantic with me.he’s never afraid to tell how much he loves me and mostly makes me feel good as a woman.although he flirts with the girls alot but he let’s them know that i have his heart and his body and i know he belongs to me both body and soul.he hugs me and holds my hands when we are on the streets and can’t keep from kissing me , infact i think alot of girls envy me because he puts me on this special pedestal and is not ashamed to tell the world that i am his girl. athough he has his moments when he gets moody and all but he eventually comes out of it and is well again. cancer men are the best in bed especially if you are the romantic type. we have a sex life that knocks the breathe out of me, it’s just like a dream come true for me. As an arian i usually hide my emotions because i’ve been hurt alot in my past relationship but since meeting my cancerian lover it’s been like a healing session and i am not afraid to express my feelings of love for him. i love him so much that i won’t mind having his baby because i know he will make a good father to my kids.

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    DirtyDan213 December 30th, 2011

    Well, I’m 20 years old, and a cancer man. I mean, I don’t really believe in these signs, but I found it interesting, because I’m dating an an Aries woman, and we’re having some of the same problems people here are having. We do fight a lot over petty things sometimes, but we make up for it and everything is peachy. She does have an anger problem, and at first, I ignored it, but then I started using the same logic she does while fighting, and it’s gotten even worse. When we fight, she says that she much rather have me unleash my anger so we can get all of our frustration out, but the fights are just as bad or even worse. I tried ignoring the fighting, using logic while fighting to solve it, and unleashing my anger with fighting, but everything I do, we fight no matter what, lol. I don’t know if that’s because she’s an aries or something, I thought it was like that throughout most relationships. Anyway, our relationship is still going strong, I love her to death and hope to move in with her, there are some things that I don’t agree with about cancer men, like us being emotional, I’m not emotional at all, haven’t cried in years, I don’t have mood swings or different personalities.. but I am a romantic, and been the same way throughout our relationship, which has lasted for one year. Anyway, hope everything work out with cancer men and Aries women. Cause I love this girl to death, compliment her everyday.. and say I love her several times a day.

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    DesertRose December 13th, 2011

    So I am 19 year old female Aries who is currently talking (kind of dating) a cancer guy. We’ve been talking for over a month now and things were almost perfect at the beginning but now I feel like he’s just not interested anymore. He takes FOREVER to reply to a text message and he says that he doesn’t like phone calls because he doesn’t like “talking into a mic”. We live about an hour and a half away from each other too so it doesn’t make things any easier. I try to to talk to him on a serious level but it’s almost impossible. When we’re together things are so perfect though and it’s so hard to just avoid that fact. I feel like he is just so reserved and us Aries woman do not have any patience when it comes to keeping emotions in. I tell myself to have patience with him but it’s so hard when he never puts any effort into having a serious convo. Even though I try really hard not to think about him or talk to him I find myself sending him the first message of the day. I kinda called him an ass hole and he definitely wasn’t quick to even react on that till the next morning. I felt bad about it but I’m a very stubborn Aries. Another thing that really bothers me Is that even when I am back home (which is near where he lives) he still doesn’t make the effort to see me. I don’t know what to do! He’s drivin me nuts! Should I just give up on him? Maybe he’s talking to multiple young women?

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    DesertRose December 13th, 2011

    So I am 19 year old female Aries who is currently talking (kind of dating) a cancer guy. We’ve been talking for over a month now and things were almost perfect at the beginning but now I feel like he’s just not interested anymore. He takes FOREVER to reply to a text message and he says that he doesn’t like phone calls because he doesn’t like “talking into a mic”. We live about an hour and a half away from each other too so it doesn’t make things any easier. I try to to talk to him in a serious level but it’s almost impossible. I feel like he is just so reserved and us Aries woman do not have any patience when it comes to keeping emotions in. I tell myself to have patience with him but it’s so hard when he never puts any effort into having a serious convo

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    ariescancerlove November 29th, 2011

    awww! i have tears in my eyes over this article! so much of what is said is exactly like my relationship with my cancer man. He’s my best friend and i feel i can always be myself around him. But other times it feels like i’m never gonna be good enough cos i’m not HIM. he acts like he’s perfect, he’s the hardest working and everything i do is wrong and selfish! we’ve been together for over 4 years (since i was 16 and he 18). We live together (he took me in when my parents kicked me out for being an aries in search for independence haha). he took me in after 9 months of being together- talk about prince charming! most guys that age are scared of seeing their mrs more than once a week! but he and i had such a perfect, intense relationship. we didnt have an argue of any sort until well into our 2nd year together! but well, thjings are so different. it’s like we are already those couples who have been together for 50 years. i thhink back to those good ol’ days all the time- when we would go and spend the whole day at the beach and he would admire me and be so affectionate. now we’re just stuck at home ALL the time. he never makes the effort he used to to be fun and adventurous. he’s always tired and wants to do solitary activities like hog the laptop or play world of warcraft or play ps3, just escapist, solo activities. makes me think he hates our lives together and needs to escape me 🙁 we don’t have sex. i haven’t had sex once since turning 20! why oh why. i need it. i’ve spoken to him about once and yelled at him about twice, which is really holding back i reckon. it doesn’t help, but i just thought silence wasn’t getting me any either so why not try to talk about it? didn’t work, he just shuts down and says sex isn’t the only thing in a relationship and it turns him off that i think that ??
    words or truth to ANY cancer man reading this: we aries women NEED sex. i am so loyal, the thought of cheating on him breaks my heart, i could never taint our relationship like that, but everytime i see anything to do with sex, it hurts cos i haven’t had any since march and i have no idea why. so cancer guys out there: please don’t do this to us, i tie the sex with the success of our relationship and our level of intimacy. i link sex with his ability to share and do things for the sake of keeping our relationship healthy in all aspects. i need it and i can’t bear to think i might go a whole year without it. and then what? when will this end? can any cancer guys help me to figure out why this has happened to us?

    the other night we argued. it came from no where cos we actually had a good day together, sort of how we used to be. then i found out he was just giving away something i owned to his ‘friend’ without asking me and i was a little offended cos i bought it and i might of been fine with it, if he had just included me on the decision (fair enough i reckon). any way, he goes ape about how he probably bought it cos i’m a poor uni student (he doesn’t share his money with me either) and he pays for internet and more rent than i do and blah blah about money, as if it’s the only thing that matters to him. i just let loose about how i never (and had never before this point) mentioned the fact he wrote off my first car i paid for (2 years ago) and never paid me back for it and how i just never even brought it up cos money doesn’t matter to me and i hold back on stuff that might hurt his feelings (i’m aware how sensitive he is) but that i just can’t take it how he always brings up money matters when he isn’t perfect either (never offered to pay me back or help me buy a new car). any way i run off to cry cos he gets really mean and spiteful. and he actually comes to me and tries to apologise (he hasn’t done this in ages either) usually he just continues playing video games and waits for me to convince myself its my fault and to get over it.
    i honestly don’t think i would still be with him if it wasn’t for the way he used to be. the way we used to be is true love and this relationship at the moment is like the longest death of love. dragged out. i’m exhausted, no sex or really much intimacy at all has really killed something inside of me. cheating wouldn’t fufil it either cos its not really about the sex, its about that connection, bearing everything to him, being vulnerable and it feeling right. i miss that. so much that it causes me to be closed down alot and in a bad mood alot, which can’t really be that attractive- but i can’t keep going the way i was without the reassurance of love that sex brings.

    i don’t want to break up over sex, but it’s soul destroying, it really is.

    but anyway when he apologised the other day after our row, he told me something he hadn’t saind in years: ‘he would never ever leave me no matter what, this is real and the materialistic stuff doesn’t really matter. he just doesn’t want to be taken for granted. he wants to know i appreciate him and what he gives me’.

    i want us to work but he doesnt seem to be tryimg, he seems to be retreating. he wont even sleep in our bed anymore, he prefers to sleep on the couch! but he reckons thats not weird?? no sex and not sleeping in the same bed are blaring signs to me that something is VERY wrong here.

    i don’t know, i’m so confused. when is enough enough? and would i ever get over him and feel satisfied by another man anyway? i don’t know if i could out myself trhough all this again

    what do people think i should do?

    My advice to aries women is: go for the cancer man cos they are unbelievable at the start and maybe you’ll be better at keeping the spark alive than i was…

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    Lind09 November 24th, 2011

    I’ve met so many couples that are aries woman cancer man but I haven’t personally experienced anything with a cancer man.

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    smit@ November 17th, 2011

    Hi…

    I think i have fallen for this cancer friend of mine… he is a great person and i feel i am in peace with myself whenever I talk to him… I know him since last 1.5 years and it’s mostly a long distance relationship… He has expressed his feelings for me … but that’s just once… I feel he is just keeping himself away… and i being an aries would want him to be expressive… bt he is not… and I can’t even dare to ask him anything coz i fear that if I force myself on him, he’ll move away and I dun want to loose him… bt at the same time I need to be certain… please help me out…do i go and tell him?? i am not sure how will he react? what if he moves away from whatever little we have???

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    ariesgirl1990 September 24th, 2011

    Ima aries woman just starting to date a cancer man. He doesn’t express himself to me (as far as how he feels about me), we constantly bicker because he always thinks I’m taking something serious or he thinks I always have an attitude. My father is a cancer and we DONOT & probably will NEVER get along. This concerns me :-/

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    Aires August 14th, 2011

    im a aries woman who is dating a cancer man its been 11 months and all i can say is challenge they are emotional rollercoasters with them cancer me. You think when they first meet you they do sweep you off your feet but dont think for one minute aires that thats love beause they are charmers…..thats in there nature they treat everyone the same way my cancer boyfriend is liek that until i had to set bounderies after me having temper tantrums alot cancers can deal with that and comunication dont think for once when they communicate with you that its over because they are still thinking about the problem and will throw things in your face quick they love to live in the past, they ae very secretive, so aries woman here is some advice on how to maintain this crab.. dont be so quick to get mad if they do something that you don like keep it to yourself because if u argue with a cancer it always get turned back on you like you are the one thats wrong .2 check that phone they protray to seem like its all about you but the phone is different you will see who u dealing with but if you are willig to go thru alot with the cancer its worth it because they are loyal it took me a minute to see and to make him see i was all about him but now he is opening up and he sees that im on top of his ass alot so i keep that man in line .but on the ups they are good lovers.if you really want to get him to open up take him by water and hold his hand and just start a conversation it helps trust me thats where we always go to talk or vent if we go through problems….when they are mad leave no questions asks they will hurt your feelings if you stay give them space they wont let you go far. and when u get back nd they calmed down they will be able to talk then. me and my cancer is very happy but still be caution just because he treats u special thats his caracteristic they treat all the ladies like that.

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    primus380 July 15th, 2011

    I am a cancer guy and i was dating an aries girl for about 3 months and we were only a few months apart in age so at the time we’re both 14 and ever since we’d started going out problems started stacking up and it wasn’t problem between me and her it was problems more with people and around us and our parents so this last monday she broke up with me under the reason that she wanted to be single so it wasn’t till thursday i was able to actually talk to her and i decided to let my heart bleed out and i don’t the effect it had all she told me was she actually decided she wanted to be single because of the hell everyone was causing us and that this will be if most temporary and i want to believe her but what i want to know is did i do something wrong or was that the truth

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    tmackey July 11th, 2011

    I’m an Aries woman and married to an Cancer man. We are 100 percent opposite. We’ve been together for 20 plus year. But we do love each other and respect each other. We compliment each other in our relationship.

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    Destina June 21st, 2011

    I am an Aries woman, I knew a Cancer man. After more than a year of no contact with him because he loved to have sex with other women, he recently created a profile online that includes some personality descriptions of Cancers and Aries and that they are not “compatible”. This website also includes his home address, etc. Why would he do that after all of this time?

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    ProudtobeAries May 29th, 2011

    I met an cancer guy a year ago. It was not an instant attraction. He caught my attention when he laughed at me, aries’ are natural jokers I guess. He really is having fun when I make jokes etc. Everybody thought we are kinda perfect for each other. There were a lot of teasing. I do not have any bit of idea if he really likes me or he’s just enjoying my company. no idea. Well, there’ were opportunity for us to become good friends, but I quit. I just don’t want to see him again,, cause I don’t want to expect anything, it just hurts, and i guess i grow impatient. I still like him, so much.. I think it’s love.

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    vonre May 18th, 2011

    i’m a cancer man, i love my postive traits and in the same time i hate my postivie traits. if you asking me why? it’s all come back to my nature… “i feel” yes we are romantic people in the world, we could do anything for a lover like die for her maybe?, and that just so unbelieveable, but that just how we do relationship, we dream and we want to make it true. but sometimes dreams doesn’t come true. it takes both of lover to make it true. and that is the time when my positive traits became my negative traits.

    we feel, but if in the relationship if we feel, we “only” feel what we feel. so we forgot to feel what our lover feel at that time. especially when we argue each other, we “failed” to feel what our lovers feel, we are into deep to our feelings, and each time we argue i feel hurt, so i start to hurt everyone’s feelings. my friends, my lover, everyone. that’s a disaster that a cancer could bring, we could take someone’s feel, became happy, or hurt.

    yes we thinking far away, we calculated each problem that will aries in the future, but yet “WE ARE NOT GOD”, it’s easy to other zodiac to live a life and not to care what problem will arise in the future, but not with us. coz we want to “feel” secure. that’s how we works that’s how our brains do. we calculated to feel secure. and maybe for others this is so annoying. coz if it’s for lover, our thought could bring her/him in our cage of calculation.

    we love to solve problems especially when our lovers involve, and in this time this will be so dramatic, because everywords we said, that could bring our lovers feelings to drown into deep. and we cancer, forgot what the discussion is all about, we failed again to see the meaning of this, we are in too deep with this conversation if anyone said a wrong words, that will triggered our feeling to make our brain works on defending system.

    we care about our lovers, that will be annoying him/her everyday, every minutes, every seconds, and remember cancer, a day will be a years, and a years is a life time. so we will annoying our lovers in a life time.

    it’s all just about perspective. sometimes will be bad, sometimes will be good. there’s so many thing about me a cancerian. all i need is a cleared mind lover, who are feel like we feel but not get drown to it, so that would keep my mind in a positive thinking. and when i am positive, that would made my feelings feel secure, and i could do many amazing things to many amazing people. thanks for sharing =)

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    Ask Oracle April 25th, 2011

    @m.asia It will be wise to remember that neither you are the same person nor he is. Time has brought about changes in both of you. Keep the past aside, look at his current personality and outlook. Does that attract you? Can you keep up with his reserved attitude?

    If you can, go ahead with the relationship and always feel free to express your feelings in a non-demanding, non-controlling way.

    His current attitude and his behavior is not your responsibility and it makes little sense to focus on things that have nothing to do with you.

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    m.asia April 24th, 2011

    @ SHaun TELL HER, if you hadn’t already! 🙂

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    m.asia April 24th, 2011

    Hello to all: I dated a cancer as a teenager. He and I had great, passionate love. He was more emotional at that time. I had several walls and the thought of kids and marriage scared the crap out of me. He told me he loved me and that was all I needed to run as fast as I could. Recently he found me on a Social Networking site. He and I have conversed and I apologized for running for the hills. It seems now, that he is more reserved in his feelings and emotions. I now am open to expressing them whether requested or not. But, he knows me, remembers everything about me like yesterday. He is very handsome and I very sexy (to say the least). Sexual tension is high. But, I know want MARRIAGE and do not want to waste anymore time with anyone else. I am nervous and wish I hadn’t ran at the initial expression of his love for me. What do I do??

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    jovcik April 15th, 2011

    my greatest love was a cancer man..

  44. alison April 11th, 2011

    I met my Cancer man 11 months ago he pursued me in the beginning it was like love at first sight for him.He was only very clingy when I was around him. The problem is he has had a girlfriend from the very first day I’ve met him but she lives in another state so its a long distance relationship. I don’t understand why he doesn’t just break up with her bi live so close to him but he still stays with her. Sometimes I think he’s just using me for the physical because he treats me like his girlfriend and after we’ve spent the night together I always wake up to an email from him telling me how much of a great time he’s had with mem Everyone tells me they can’t believe he has a girlfriend because he treats me as if he’s in love with me. Were so on and off I wont see him for months and Ill be over it because you know how us Aries women get over things quickly butnthen Ill see him again and we act as if no time has went by and I fall right back into everything. His girlfriend is an Aquarius I was wondering if that had any reason for why he wont break it off with her this whole situation is just so confusing. I’ve never had a connection with anyone like this before.

  45. cooperashley April 10th, 2011

    Iam an aries female, in early 40’s, separated from a cancer man after about 16 years of marriage. I accept with many of the above views. Aries woman and cancer man relationship is a very rough one with different views of life. As an Aries woman, I was very impulsive, intelligent, independant, freedom loving, ambitious etc. I put my man at the pedastal, did all my best for him. on the other hand, he didnt even bother about my yearns and desires of life. He never admired me nor appreciated even once in life. He never allowed me to get near to him physically or intimately. He just considered that me as his wife was there to cook and look after the house. He was never ever interested in sex. He just minded his own business . So you know how that is to an aries woman, made my life very boring and frustrated in and out the bedroom.I tried many of my nice ways expecting the situation to change. Finally in vain, the thread between us broke and now we are separated. I strongly believe an Acquarius man is the most suitable partner for an Aries woman in all ways, which Iam enjoying presently.

  46. tikkitorches April 10th, 2011

    p.s. Arieslassie, last year was the year of the aquarian man for me. Everyone I was interested in was born under that sign. They are wonderful, and exciting. They seem to be more cerebral than emotional though. If you need to feel deep emotional intimacy, versus a more intellectual connection they might leave you wishing for more. They are so fun and interesting though. No boredom!

  47. tikkitorches April 10th, 2011

    Is anyone still active on this thread? If only I could read his mind, or he could fess up, then maybe I wouldn’t have to look for answers on line! Is the hot and cold normal with cancer men? It is so confusing.

  48. Arieslassie March 30th, 2011

    Oh gawd!! after 10 years of misery with a Capricorn man i really thought i might have found my soulmate with my cancerian man! Now im having some of my doubts confirmed! As an Aries gal , im well aware of my needs and really wanted a much easier time of it , just someone to love and love me back , simple! BTW , ive had a Leo lover and as amazing as it was , he broke my heart ( the only man to do so ) but the loveliest of all was the Sagitarian, he was everything you could want in a man , but sadly it was not meant to be. according to this site , Aquarian men are the answer to the Aries girls prayers ! hummmmm….i wonder…anyone had an Aquarius man?
    Im not going to give up just yet though , i want to see if we can ” communicate” and if not , then i will walk away , im 41 now but feel like my life is just about to finally start and i love and am very proud to be an aries xxxxxxx

  49. Kelli March 13th, 2011

    Shaun,
    i agree with AriesGirl that you should go tell her how you feel. I’m giving up finally with my cancer guy, which I never do, but he won’t open up or make me feel wanted. Even though he has sexual problems he use to try to please me in other ways and was very excited around me and when we crawled into bed. Now he wants an open relationship even though he isn’t a sexual person. He said he just wants to be able to hang out with other women without having to explain himself. I’m starting to think he doesn’t have a sexual problem but rather is holding back because he doesn’t want to hurt me or get me attached since cancers seem to equate sex with commitment/love. He did recently admit that his backing off may have to do with his fear of intimacy. I think I’m going to do what your female friend did and back completely off and see if he comes back…if I’m worth fighting for. Hope he doesn’t read this and learn my plan of action…lol.

    And Isabella, I hear cancer men like the chase so don’t be so available. Plus, you have to consider you are both very young so the flirting may have to do with that. Give him a piece of his own medicine and flirt with other guys..i don’t think cancers like when their partners flirt. Aries usually love to flirt but both signs are very loyal usually so try not to let some innocent flirting rain on your parade. I hear “drop him” too but what does YOUR heart say. I feel like I’m already in love with my guy…makes it very difficult but i’m not wired to be “an open relationship” type so i’ll probably have to let go.

  50. Isabella March 10th, 2011

    ooommgggg, I just read almost all of these comments and I cant even tell you how much i agree with all of it. I really thought I was the only one stuck in this position with some guy that seems just send up and around on this rollercoaster of emotions. So I’m a 17 y.o, female aries. I’ve been seeing this guy for about 3 months and really I’ve been going insane with him. In the beginning i can’t tell you how great it was. We always had so much fun together, talked on the phone all night, always msgd eachother and just everything seemed to be so perfect. I was so ready to be in a relationship with him. But suddenly things began to change. I started noticing so many things in him that frustared me so much. For one, he always wants soooo much attention from girls, it’s ridiculous. I think he has some OCD with flirting. It’s frustrating because he will even admit to me that he does, but sday “its just my personality”. But still assures me that he likes me a lot. But then i still find that he keeps so many things hidden from me. Then when i do confront him about something that bothered him, he tried to just brhush it off because he hates arguring! how can you fix a problem without discussing it?! Furthermore, he hasn’t asked me to hang out or anything within the past month and a half. Does that mean anything? the only time i ever see him is at work then the rest of his life he spends at the gym or sleeping. Never even attempts to make plans with me. Honestly I do believe that he has some sort of feelings for me, but he doesn’t show it and it’s taking way too long. I don’t want to waste my time if nothing is going to happen. Also like someone else posted, the only time he starts acting more like he cares is when he feels like he’s losing me. Do you think he’s playing me? Because im so sick of this wishful thinking that maybe someday we’ll be together because i know he’s a great guy, but everyone tells me to drop him.
    What to do?! what to do?!

  51. AriesGirl March 3rd, 2011

    Shaun you should just tell her because I, as an Aries would rather us know how you truly do feel then for you to keep it to yourself. You can’t just keep it in and think about it for years and then do something. You need to go take a risk even if it doesn’t work out at least you tried. As an Aries, sometimes I just get so annoyed at the fact Cancers just take forever to tell us how they feel, like why do you have to think about something for so long just do it. Maybe she’s just so fed up of waiting for you to come back to her and now you want to do something,you should just do it. If you have faith then you shouldn’t fear. You have to go fight for her. Maybe she wants you too or doesn’t mind being with you even after several years, you really don’t know until you go talk to her. And maybe she didn’t go to you because she thought you didn’t feel the same way. Who knows…. just go talk to her. Maybe she refused to talk to you because you wait so long to take action. Don’t be afraid of rejection. It’ll just make you stronger.

  52. cali February 19th, 2011

    Everyone’s relationship is different no matter what sign you are. The relationship kinda just depends on how you grew up and with whom and all your values and interest are. so its kinda a personal thing to figure out alone and a couple thing to figure out together how to make things work…good things dont come easy. you have to work for it, to get the rainbow….so goodluck to everyone. god bless you all =)

  53. Shaun February 16th, 2011

    I am a Cancer Man who has never been married and I am 33 years old. I met a woman; who is an Aries and is 28 years old; several years ago and have not been able to stop thinking about her ever since. I have had dreams of bringing her diamonds. I don’t know why I think about her so much. I try not to. I have not even been on a date with another woman since I met her. A Cancer man never really wants a woman just for sex. He wants love. I had it out with this young beautiful woman about 5 or so years ago and have always wanted to reconcile things with her. I have not seen her since then either. She refuses to talk to me for whatever reason she believes she may have. I have only tried to contact her once in over a year. It was her birthday last year. Well her birthday is obviously coming again really soon. One question I do have is that…If I looked her up and wanted to be apologetic to her and talk to her again is it the wrong thing to do or is it the right thing to do? Why do I feel so strongly about this. I was thinking that it might just be my nature in wanting to be reconciled with someone no matter who it is. ??? . I have to be honest and say that she drives me up a wall. I have earned a business degree since we have stopped talking. I am in the process of owning a few of my own businesses. Is she even worth the effort? I think a lot of the time woman think Cancer men are just devious debauch rakish hellions who want to get in bed but it is not true. Only with our true wives. Yeah so. I guess I am looking for a little advice from some of you crazy Aries woman. As for you Cancer guys. Good luck with those crazy woman.

  54. Amy February 16th, 2011

    I recently met a cancer man myself…wow, he does make me feel very special, however…I asked him if he was bipolar today..lol! I was not aware of the constant mood swings! Wow…he’s a great guy though, and ultimately wants to take care of me in any way possible! I appreciate that, it makes me feel very special…he stated he likes the fact that I’m feisty, however he portrays me as spoiled…we’ll see how this pans out…hoping for the best honestly! I see the potential in him to be just what the Doctor ordered! I’ll keep ya posted!!

  55. berg February 9th, 2011

    Cali, have you ever read about both the zodiac traits deeply, especially good and bad sides. In your opinion whose traits needs to be within socially acceptable limits? As I said, things can work out if both are determined to make it working……

  56. cali February 5th, 2011

    ………………….It’s not working out. bottom line, this relationship is such an emotional roller coaster. we are two different people and its just not working. its so damn difficult. the communication the interest everything. i usually like challenges but this one has got me zoning out to find a different guy. it feels like such a waste to throw out 3 years. i want to start new but not anytime in the mood to find another. i need help. spiritual help asap. =(

  57. berg February 3rd, 2011

    Very interesting comments by Cali and Kelli. I am a cancer man and married to Aries Female for the last 9 years. We are living in an Eastern Culture, married and have kids. Both are professional. Whatever written on this site or other sites about the relationship is true. Relationship is very difficult but if both are determined to keep it, can create wonders. I started reading Zodiacs compatibility right after one week of getting married as I had felt that something went wrong…:-)
    Having difference of opinion, different liking and disliking or even fighting is not an issue, being conservative for cancerians it is important how you behave when you feel upset. Cancerians have lot of patience, but Aries should not always test it by using very harsh language. I believe sun sign traits only describe the mama nature of the person, which wise people can always change / adjust for keeping the relationships healthy.

  58. Emanuelle February 2nd, 2011

    I’ve dated a Cancer man for 7 years and its been an emotional roller coaster since day one. He calls and texts me everyday, but very secretive of his feelings. He won’t open up and the rare times he did, it was because he thought he was losing me. I can’t take it anymore. The lack of communication, the moodiness and hot and cold attitude is becoming almost unbearable. I love this man deeply, but I don’t think my heart, soul and mind can take much more. Currently, we are on the outs. Aries and Cancer is a horrible and god awful pairing. I find it to be emotionally draining and perhaps too challenging.

  59. Kelli January 18th, 2011

    Hi Cali, thanks back to you…i guess we both needed some reasurance at the same time. My cancer guy is letting me in more and more. Since our intimate night he either calls or emails almost daily, which is a big change for him. He’s still very scared but I think he likes me more than he’ll let on. I’ve been very busy with school work so not so needy and it seems to make him more available I noticed. Reverse psychology i guess but when i play uninterested i notice he tries harder. I think he just feels more comfortable when i’m not expecting or putting pressure on him. Very hard for us impatient aries gals but i’m still giving it a shot. And yes, i totally still believe in love. Take care!

  60. cali January 14th, 2011

    Dear kelli, I was guessing you were in your 30’s. lol im around the 20’s but i act like im 30. im very mature for my age…long story. and omg 15 years without intimacy?! i never would’ve known. well i hope the relationship works out. crack into his shell gently and he’ll let you in slowly. thank you for all your advice and company. remember, its never too late for love =)

  61. kelli January 10th, 2011

    Hi Cali: I’m probably much older than you…I’m in my early 40s. People are always very surprised and say they would have guessed 10 years younger but I was lucky to be raised in the clean air of the Californian coast and I also act very childish so that doesn’t help. As far as my guy going back to his ex I don’t think he will because they slept in separate rooms and were not intimate for 15 of the last 30 yrs of marriage. He’s in his early 50s. Also, we finally got intimate at a deeper level a few days ago if you know what I mean. First time for him in over 15 yrs…we’re taking baby steps in that area. I think he may feel closer to me now. He usually won’t call or email for several days and he emailed me a couple times that day and the next but nothing today for some reason. I think he may have gone back into his shell today. Practicing patience because he’s stated he’s not ready for a commitment but I think he likes me more than he’s letting on. I sure like him! Just need to take it slow and protect myself like you said. Take care and good luck with your guy too.

  62. cali January 6th, 2011

    Dear kelli, Thats great advice. i will try to look at things in his perspective. and about your cancer’s divorce, yes you will need to give him a lot of time to think about many things. bc i know very well that they have AMAZING memory. he can be thinking about the bads and hate his ex-wife. or the goods and miss her and “cling” to her again. so please be careful. you know how aries are typically impatient and want everything to hurry up and done. but cancers likes to be cautious and take everything slow-mo. but at the same time, you have to show him you are interested or else he will keep regretting his divorce and want her back. and it is true that my cancer likes my tantrums. he said it himself. lol and just out of curiosity….what age range are you in? 🙂

  63. Kelli December 29th, 2010

    P.S. Cali: He does like you expressing your feelings, believe me, he just won’t share his too easily because cancers are cautious and they are excellent at hiding feelings too. My cancer guy has subtle ways to show he likes my demonstrative ways. And cancer guys can handle our ups and downs more than any other sign so don’t worry so much about your tantrums. He probably secretly likes it.

  64. Kelli December 29th, 2010

    Cali: Hahaha, i was just going to email you that i need to swallow my words. I was very negative yesterday but today my cancer guy left me a message that he’s around to talk as well. His sexy voice is irresistible. Funny thing, i thought he said a different name and thought i heard him saying i’m coming over so i called him and left a message “so you have a hot date tonight huh?” Then i listened again he clearly said my name and for me to call him later. Our minds can do terrible stuff to us aries…we act confident but really aren’t and that’s why we need so much reasurance. Besides, aries and cancers work like opposites so try to look at things from his perspective. I’m actually too tired to talk about the problems so I’m going to bed and will call him back tomorrow…healthy decision for myself. I’m still going to be cautious and keep options open but I’m also very understanding that he needs time to heal from his divorce. For some reason i have total peace right where it’s at and happy to have him as a friend. Glad to hear things are going better for you and your cancer. They are irresistible too. ;O)

  65. cali December 29th, 2010

    Dear kelli, so it ends up i been crying my ass off yesterday. thinking why does love have to be so hard. and why do i settle for less all the time. i keep thinking maybe he’ll change. i texted “im home”. he replied “do you want me to come over?” and i said “whatever you want”. and waited in my car for awhile to see if he’ll come. and he didnt reply and i didnt see him. i layed in my bed to sulk. he pops into my house looking for me…(he always has bad timing, bc i needed him 30 mins ago) he kissed me and I said “i hate you, bc you make me love you”. he smiles. he said throughout my tantrums and fire, it doesnt phase him anymore. he said he’s used to it…i cant tell if thats a good thing or bad thing. i wish he expressed his feelings more. anyways we tried to communicate. he said sorry. i told him “even if i did find a guy who treats me right, i’d still be loving him”. this relationship is the most emotionally draining i’ve ever been in. we go through ups and downs like nothing. but again we’re trying bc we are already emotionally attached to each other. i feel like being with him makes me learn many things. and i feel like im not done learning yet. your leo sounds bad. i thought aries and leos were compatible… but i guess it just depends on the person. but i do think zodiac signs are a big help. either way good luck to you. im pretty sure you’ll find a great guy. bc you know us aries are irresistibly charming. 😉

  66. Kelli December 28th, 2010

    Dear Cali, If you see my above comments you’ll see how optimistic I was. I met my cancer man just a few months ago and tonight I called it quits for good. Even though it was never an official relationship he gave me the idea he just needed time being he hasn’t been intimate w/anyone in so long. Every time I’ve tried to end things I would get an email from him that feed me “crumbs.” Bottom line he doesn’t give me what I need…no compliments, shows little interest in me, disrespects me by standing me up when I’m expecting him on several ocasions, and yes, lack of communication. I’m not one to give adice on whether one should break up but forget about how he feels…how does it make you feel inside and about yourself? Mine continues to let me down and life is too short to sulk away the day…not to mention how it effects your ability to be productive. I may not be the most positive person to ask right now. Some others may think you should keep trying. As far as the leo…just broke up w/one after 13 yrs. Talk about a roller coaster..good for my confidence until i found out he pumped all girls’ confidence up the same way..humiliating because he needed attention all the time. Not a healthy one either. My resolution this year is to remain single and work on myself on healing. Good luck if you do decide to stay w/your cancer guy.

  67. cali December 28th, 2010

    im an aries girl dating a cancer guy and its been about 3 years now and i think im gonna have to let go of him. we are so opposite that it annoys me. hes so critical and always judging and correcting me. and hes logical while im all physical. everything we think,say or do is alllllll literally ALL opposites. hes great at holding on and trying even though everything goes wrong. but i just feel like its been too long. i feel like im not getting what i need. he’s doesn’t show me enough affection. i feel unappreciated. he doesn’t speak his mind and hides everything. he makes me doubt my love for him all the time. at the beginning the love was pretty good. he would nurture me and i learned a lot from him. im not as stubborn and think about myself all the time anymore. he changed me for the better. but at the same time he brings out the worst in me. we would fight and make up by making love. but i think the communication is just not there. not so much sparks. he loves to correct and elaborate everything. while i want everything to be bold and direct. we always have petty fights that lead nowhere. but he does the crab claw and hangs on to the problem and continues when i am so over it. also he acts and dresses so immature. it frustrates me bc i love dressing up and i’m very mature. while he doesnt care. hes also TOO chill. he doesnt get excited or sad or mad or anything. while i have all these emotions. when we fight i would be thinking and crying for hours. while he just sits and games having no worries. we’re so opposite it kills me. we’re on a “break” now. and i just keep thinking maybe finding a leo would satisfy me. bc this relationship is going nowhere. i want to be myself, not be changed and sulk for the rest of my life….*sigh. any feedbacks?

  68. ariesgirl December 28th, 2010

    im an aries girl dating a cancer guy and its been about 3 years now and i think im gonna have to let go of him. we are so opposite that it annoys me. hes so critical and always judging and correcting me. and hes logical while im all physical. everything we think

  69. Kelli December 26th, 2010

    Thank you Kenny. I was wondering when someone would respond. I recently freaked out b/c my guy would not respond to calls and emails and i had a bad week and xmas an all. I ended up writing a couple emotionally charged emails…nothing too mean though…and the last one telling him this relationship is not good for me. He finally responded today by saying for me not to take his inability to give more as a personal deficit and seemed concerned that i mentioned wanting to move…although it’s hard to know what he meant. Now i’m hoping i didn’t ruin all chances to ever see him again. He’s definately learning of my problems and feelings…i write to him daily. I feel so much love for him. I decided to give him a break for the next few days though.

  70. Kenny December 24th, 2010

    It seems your cancer man may have been hurt deeply and has crawled back into his shell. Tell him more of yourself; problems, feelings, etc. With time he will open up to you. Us cancer males are shy, sensitive and cautious. Cancer likes it slow.

  71. Kelli November 9th, 2010

    I recently met a cancer man who recently got a divorce but did not have sex with her or anyone else for 12 years. He seems to run away after we spend a few hours together the few times we’ve met. I told we could take baby steps and gave him a massage, which, being the aries woman i am, led to leading him to my bed just for some touching. I think he was the most sensual and passionate person I’ve ever been with but again leaves after an hour or so without going any further. This happened both times and now he won’t call me. I already feel love for him but I think he feels he needs to perform and it scares him…not sure…maybe it’s me but the way he looks at me and touches me I get that he likes me. What to do?

  72. Sarah November 8th, 2010

    oh my gosh, I’m an aries woman and i’m on the verge of dating a cancer man. We really like each other allot and i adore his gentleness. It excites me. He always makes me feel good and he says that he only wants to make me and only me happy. Damn, i feel so good right now.

  73. tritri October 21st, 2010

    im an aries woman. im married to a man who doesnt know his correct birthday. he has to different dates as his birth date. june 7th and the other is july 8.i just read both gemini and cancers status and he is so a cancer to me. he’s a bit shy and he has be told constantly how you feel about him. hes very jealous. he also makes sure i am happy. he will stick it out through our rough times as long as he knows hes wanted and loved. wow.

  74. sabrina September 24th, 2010

    iv’e been seeing a cancer guy for a while and we recently broke up. he begs for me back but i don’t know if i can trust him because past problems with him flirting with other girls.

  75. Johan August 28th, 2010

    i have to second what Peter says. It is all about feelings with us. We need to feel wanted or appreciated. Our biggest desire is to care for and keep secure the love of our lives. We are probably the most emotional passionate people alive

  76. peter August 8th, 2010

    dear mailyn,
    im cancerman and i know, that cancerman needs to know he is ‘needed’. secretly – mostly not mentioned – we love our ‘girl’ to be in problems that we can solve:-) with cancer this is not in the macho-way – aries woman usually feel attracted to – but in the romantic way.. you get him heated, when he knows you need him – something an aries-woman finds difficult to admit.. but it will help. tell him how you FEEL; with us: it’s all about feelings.
    getting inside the woman heart and her feelings is the first, most desired situations a cancerman wants to be in, romantically seen!!!
    good luck!!
    peter

  77. marilyn webster July 26th, 2010

    i’m 48 y.o. aries female married.in love with 38 y.o male cancer male also married. He claims his love for me but i’m feeling a distance between us we’ve been seeing each other for 11 yrs. off and on when he used to live in England now back in our hometown to live things he promised about our relationship now seems different…he’s being distan. think i should forget him.please help i’m in love with him

  78. Tanya Sommers July 13th, 2010

    I have recently Met a Cancer Man; and her seems to be all that is perfect for me! He really IS a prince charming….though I have noticed he is NOT very reserved at all…he is foward and friendly and will do ANYTHING to see me smile and to be cared for.

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